<p>Agree. I know a boy who deposited at FOUR colleges.....we could not believe it. He "simply couldn't decide" and his parents saw nothing wrong with doing this. He ultimately went to Colby and they sure didn't revoke anything from him.....he got his spot and money. I thought it was one of the most selfish decisions and was surprised that his parents couldn't see that. Imagine the kids waitlisted who could have had a spot way prior to May 2nd.....or later. I don't remember when he finally informed the other colleges that he wasn't coming (and I mean some pretty top places like Tufts, Amherst....). Don't deny someone else a spot.</p>
<p>What the above people said is only true for SOME universities...I myself right now have not decided between the University of Texas at Dallas and the University of Miami... UTD has no deposit fee, but MIami has a 300$ deposit fee. I deposited at MIami and called them and asked if it was okay for me to be on another school's list as well, and they said that it is perfectly fine. however if i choose not to attend MIami i just won't get my $300 back. Similarly I "deposited" (you just check the plan to enroll box online) for UTD and asked them and they said that you don't actually have to make a decision until you enroll for classes at UTD, so its perfectly and LEGALLY acceptable to accept both college offers...</p>
<p>THIS IS JUST FOR UTD AND UMIAMI. please check your own universities by phone calling them, but do it before their offices close down!!</p>
<p>does an American university's "not holding a freshman place in more than 2 colleges after May 1" rule apply to universities OUTSIDE of America as well? i.e. holding places in 1 American college and 1 UK/Asian university.</p>
<p>Just curious -- do schools have to RECEIVE the reply by May 1, or does the reply have to be POST MARKED by May 1? Before you get your dander up and think bad thoughts, my D accepted admission to Carleton and they received her deposit check and forms at 8:13 am this morning. I'm just curious if I wasted $16.25 sending her reply by expedited mail.</p>
<p>treeman i think it depends on schools. I know UNC does it by postmark date. The money has to be postmarked by May 1.</p>
<p>Ok, so I judge people who can't make decisions by a deadline.
You guys had a long time to think this through... make a choice!</p>
<p>Forget all the moral implications and how mean it would be to other students.
This is life. You have open doors in front of you. When you walk through one you don't look back. You make the best of your decision. Stop straddling between two colleges.</p>
<p>Let's just hope you don't do this the rest of your life:
"hmm whom should I get involved with a relationship with? maybe I'll just get involved with both girls"
"what car should I buy? uhh I guess I'll buy both of them since I like both"</p>
<p>There are many decisions that are life-altering and irreversible. College is one of the first choices you make independently (and an easier one to make, since choosing multiple ones may not result in negative consequences). Life decisions, such as college, have too many pros and cons in your choices to make them clear-cut. It's hard, yes. But stick with one and live it out. That's what the great leaders do.
And sometimes that's the beauty of life. Walking into the unknown.</p>
<p>Treeman, if you called the school and let them know that the acceptance was in the mail, you would have been fine. Its all about communicating. Anyway, what's $16.25, in a few months those big tuition bills will start rolling in.........</p>
<p>treeman: You wasted $16.25. But I bet it was worth it for averting the stress you'd probably have otherwise felt. ;)</p>
<p>Personally, I sent my decision card back to Princeton on April 30th; I was emailed about a week later by admissions staff asking if I was planning on attending (obviously they didn't get my card). A simple yes response to that email was all I needed.</p>
<p>Don't worry - once admissions staff let you in, they're not going to kick you right back out because of a technicality like a delayed response card. That would be a tremendous waste of their collective time. ;)</p>
<p>There are schools that do not care if you accept other spots. There are schools that do. If you are accepting the offer from a school that specifically addresses the issue, you should not have two acceptances out there at the same time. Your highschool may also have a say in this. They may forbid you to accept more than one school. </p>
<p>FOr those kids who hav accepted schools on a rolling basis, and now want to change their minds, it's fine to do so. As long as you withdraw your acceptance, that is fine. You just should not double dip when you are in a situation where it is not permitted. Fooling around this way could cause you some pain at a time when you should be enjoying your last bit of highschool and anticipating college.</p>
<p>I sent yes's to both American and Rochester today, after calling and making sure they would not rescind my admission. They don't even care, but and will probably refund if they if I tell them I am not coming within a couple weeks. Just call and make sure (they didn't ask who was asking, so they won't know if that bothers you). They understand it's a big decision. I am probably going to wait until I get waitlist results back. :]</p>
<p>yeah that's tough buddy</p>
<p>Krazer, Chocoholic, and 1of42:</p>
<p>Thanks for the responses. I have to admit that I have been a little anal about deadlines of late. When my D was applying to colleges, she asked that I handle the financial aid stuff for her, which seemed reasonable. But I procrastinated with one of her top choices, and needed to get a signed copy of my 2007 tax return to them within 24 hours in order to meet a deadline. To my surprise I was informed that the location of the school precluded overnight delivery, and the best I could do was get it to them in 2 days. So, Chocoholic, I called the school to explain, and was very politely but firmly informed that they simply had to have the copy of my 2007 taxes by the deadline or the financial aid offered to my D might be affected. I stressed a little and didn't think to fax it (nor did they suggest it), so I sent it expedited mail and prayed that it would be OK. And to my very great dismay it did have an impact on the final decision. Although the financial aid award was very reasonable, it was labeled as initial or tentative, meaning that my D would have to make decisions with information that was uncertain.</p>
<p>Of course, now I'm much more relaxed. She has chosen Carleton, couldn't be happier, and there is enough financial aid that with a lot of extra work I can make it happen. But the few weeks of stress thinking that I had been irresponsible ... The $16.25 is penance for past transgressions.</p>
<p>As a post script, there were actually two colleges with the same deadline date, and I called both. One couldn't have been more understanding, and said to mail it and not worry. The upcoming weekend was a three day holiday and they weren't going to process my tax return on the due date in any case. Ironically, this is one of the colleges that waitlisted my D.</p>
<p>Note to all for the future: Be Anal about deadlines! No judgment on treeman, but let this be (another) life lesson to the Class of 2013. It depends on the institution, and you can win, or you can lose. I just counseled with someone yesterday, admitted with $46,000 scholarship to Local Private Generous U., not anywhere appearing on the rankings--and also admitted to GW U., very much on the rankings, person's dream school since 9th grade--but person had not noticed that the finan. aid app. for GWU required CSS Profile AS WELL AS FAFSA! We tried to get the CSS filled out at least yesterday, 4/30, but person did not have their PIN to get finan. info off FAFSA SAR, no working computer at home, did not have parents 1040 info, would it even be processed anyway, everything goes wrong when you need it to go right, LOTS of tears on the floor. I am hoping that $300 is sent in to Local Private Generous U. today, as that is a LOT of money for a family of lesser means. Do not let this be you. More caution is better than less. </p>
<p>Now if only I could get my SON, class of 2012, to keep that in mind!!</p>
<p>Fixated mom?</p>
<p>To clarify: student only noticed that the CSS Profile was required also, yesterday--dad not internet person, mom no longer in the country, student pretty much on their own, overloaded school staff no doubt. I am not the GC, just a volunteer education advocate who does the scut work (and loves it!). Sad because studies are showing that students of lesser means benefit more from access to prestigious institutions for their education, and this student clearly would have. Well, there is always transferring.</p>
<p>GWU is not that generous with financial aid, so there's a good chance the student wouldn't have gotten the needed aid anyway.</p>
<p>This is a great thread. We sent in a deposit to one school about 3 weeks ago because it was required for housing. Then we asked for extensions to May 15 at two other schools because we are waiting for word on a merit scholarship that admissions agrees was not awarded by mistake. I hope we are ok; these are third tier schools, not harvard. Anybody know if the school we sent in the deposit to would revoke based on the extensions?</p>
<p>They shouldn't; you haven't told another school that you're going. It's as if you were on the waitlist at those other schools.</p>
<p>Thanks voice of experience(Yay!) NSM, that is at least sort of a relief. This was an EFC Zero student, I think (as are almost all the ones I help) but still schools can expect far more than what is available. It would have been a good experience for the student to be able to compare--but maybe this is an even more important lesson.</p>
<p>I know someone who said YES to two schools. He eventually opted out of one school, losing his deposit, and went to the other school.</p>
<p>how would the schools find out, and how can i find out if the school will allow it or not</p>