<p>You know very well why I didn't go!</p>
<p>Puppet, my dear, I too have experienced unrequited love. It is painful, is it not? :(</p>
<p>I would NEVER settle for the likes of YOU however! :mad:</p>
<p>:'(</p>
<p>[right]<a href="http://www.ponandzi.com/images/18.jpg">http://www.ponandzi.com/images/18.jpg</a> (^_~)[/right]</p>
<p>Oooh, ouch!</p>
<p>[right]<a href="http://i475.photobucket.com/albums/rr113/user12345/18.jpg">http://i475.photobucket.com/albums/rr113/user12345/18.jpg</a> (~_^)
previous post = broken link[/right]</p>
<p>God I hate those stupid gremlin looking things.</p>
<p>I have a question.</p>
<p>What distinguishes a date from a regular lunch/dinner outing?</p>
<p>Lunch is usually platonic. When I want to meet up with friends I haven't seen in awhile, we tend to go for lunches. It's more casual. People have stuff before and after lunches - work that is. With dinners, it's the end of the day and you can relax a lot more. There's no rush. </p>
<p>If someone's interested in you and they go straight to asking about dinner - that's a date basically. It usually comes with another activity. "Having coffee" or having lunch is basically toned down and they're getting a feel for you. There are less expectations and it's simply food. People generally have to run somewhere after lunch. </p>
<p>The above rules apply mostly to weekdays. Any specified activity (ice-skating, the beach, amusement park, etc.) planned between you and someone interested in you is generally a date. Must be accompanied by a meal (unless your date sucks or is an idiot and likes to starve their date - doesn't happen if the person is interested in you)... a meal itself though is not necessarily a date (unless it's dinner)... mostly applies to first dates or the beginning stages.</p>
<p>And if it's a lunch during which someone's trying to get a feel for you, you are supposed to go dutch, right? Even if the other person initiated it?</p>
<p>That's a little tricky. But do offer. I think these days, it's most fair for the initiator to take the check, but it's only polite to offer to pay your share. Then you don't have any hurt feelings if the initiator didn't realize that s/he was going to foot the whole bill, nor do you have what tension might arise from his/her demanding that you pay your share.</p>
<p>Pay for yourself when it's daylight. If they initiated it and evening, do offer but expect the other person to pay. See the rules stated above.</p>
<p>That's what I figured. Thank you, MrPink and qipao, for humoring me and sharing your knowledge of pre-dating etiquette.</p>
<p>too many rules! dude, just pay for the meals and tell her to pay you back in kisses...:cool:</p>
<p>I'm female, GrassPuppet. :)</p>
<p>Your comment reminds me of that "I'll Cover You" song from Rent.
"I'll be your shelter/ Just pay me back with one thousand kisses..." Dododo...</p>
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<p>I guess I should read people's profiles next time.</p>
<p>Too many rules?! Dating is a game. It requires a lot of tact, diplomacy, and effort on both sides. You have to be careful with your words, actions, the way you toss your hair and whether or not to display that slight twinkle in your eyes that sets their hearts on fire. . . :rolleyes:</p>
