Good for you! Keep demonstrating that backbone and spine that you have developed and don’t let up on this.
Edited: Please make sure that if he plans a group event, via email, which he will, you bring a roommate.
You are doing an excellent job dealing with this, and I am sure that everyone here is proud of you.
Good job (it is Sunday, for crying out loud — not even a work day). Keep us up to date on what happens in the office tomorrow!
He’s a predator and is counting on you being too afraid that he’ll say something bad about you and will feel powerless.
I’m curious as to how he replies.
Chances are, people at the office already have an inkling about his behavior, if not you toward you than toward someone else. This for sure is not his first rodeo.
One pice of advice. In the future, ignore texts from him. You have warned him. Now ignore. You can reply to emails, but use very few words. ANYTHING you say is positive feedback to him, even if you explain yourself as you did in the above message.
Talk to your supervisor
In my office if you ask him to stop and he doesn’t it is told we are to go to our management immediately and if they do nothing to go directly to HR. It is called creating a hostile work environment, just because he is making you feel uncomfortable. You need to report it!
Great job. If he texts again, let us know. That is the point to 1) tell HR and 2) block his number.
I understand what you mean. However, employers are suppose to provide a safe environment. To do anything less, nulls any “promise”.
You showed a lot of maturity and backbone!!
^^^This is true. Your safety is way more important than what it looks like for you to quit or whatever the college promises to the employer. That’s why you need to document everything (screen shots, notes in a dedicated notebook) with dates, who you reported it to, what the action was. That’s also why you need to tell the office at your college that placed in you this co-op. They would want to know if one of their placements is a hostile work environment.
He’s counting on you feeling that way.
One other thing you can do here: find a work ally.
No one at your work wants this going on. Are there women there? Seek one out and tell them your gut reaction here. They will take it from there.
Hi everyone. After that text he stopped contacting me out of work, I also told one of the other engineers in case it keeps happening.
Well done. I’m sure it’s not easy but hang in there. Do not give him a way back in, no matter what he says or does. Fresh start, I didn’t mean anything, I was trying to be friendly. Be firm and tell him it is in everyone’s interests to keep things on a professional basis from here on in. Keep all your texts and emails.