My Parents Doomed me.....

<p>How did your parents screw you? You were a pretty good student but either didn’t work hard enough or simply aren’t academic enough to be in the free ride category. That’s not their fault. If you didn’t bust it as a student, that is YOUR fault. They got you out of a bad neighborhood. That’s their decision for their family, and not subject to your approval. </p>

<p>Your choices:</p>

<p>Quit blaming others.</p>

<p>Get a job and save some money.</p>

<p>Go in-state. You don’t have the luxury of $33,000 per year tuition paid for you. That’s just the way it is - for most people.</p>

<p>Geez. You would have fallen apart in the Depression. </p>

<p>In September, your parents were ready to pay any amount. The situation has really changed that much since then? </p>

<p>This student is looking at only high profile big 10’schools and privates as well. In my opinion, he/she needs to hugely broaden their search. The original list has no affordable options, and many are even questionable in terms of admission. The student has already spent some money to apply early to some of these unaffordable options…Wisconsin, Penn State are two. </p>

<p>I don’t thon UMaine Fort Kent is gooding to work. Have any of you been there? It is an affordable school but it’s in the middle of no where.</p>

<p>So…to,the OP…you have a budget. You have your stats. You need to work within that framework. Sure, apply to some reachy schools. But if the money is not forthcoming, you will have to walk away from any offer of aemission with insufficient funds.</p>

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<p>Yes, this is true…but to get such scholarships at Flagships like the OP listed, usually much better stats are listed. </p>

<p>I know that MANY, MANY Illinois students come to University of Alabama and pay a LOT less than UIUC…but that’s because they have an ACT of 30+ and they are getting large merit awards. That isn’t the case with the OP. </p>

<p>And some on her list wouldn’t even give her much/anything for an ACT 30. PSU probably wouldn’t give her anything. Clemson has a high OOS cost and merit for much better stats wouldn’t make much dent.</p>

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<p>I suspect that the OP was guessing that the parents would pay any amount. I doubt the situation has changed that much. Sure they bought a home, but back in Sept they probably knew that moving was in the near horizon. Likely the student knew that family had some savings and didn’t realize that it would go towards the new home.</p>

<p><a href=“http://automaticfulltuition.yolasite.com/”>http://automaticfulltuition.yolasite.com/&lt;/a&gt; lists the following that cost about $15,000 per year or less after deducting automatic for stats merit scholarships for a 3.45 GPA and 26 ACT:</p>

<p>Alabama State
Arkansas - Monticello
Howard
Prairie View A&M</p>

<p>UW-Madison COA for non-WI/MN residents is $41,366 and the ACT 26 and GPA 3.45 are on the low end for accepted students.</p>

<p>You said your parents are willing to pay $15k/year for four years.
Can you ask them to pay $30k/year for the last two years of schooling? If so, you could go to community college for the first two years and then transfer to UIC debt-free or Urbana Champaign with some loans.</p>

<p>We had 2 deaths in the family, which cost my parents thousands of dollars considering this member didn’t have medical insurance. </p>

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<p>Did the person die twice?</p>

<p>If this wasn’t a child of your parents, I don’t know why they would be expected to pay for some relative’s medical expenses. Perhaps the deceased person’s estate paid. If the deceased person had no money/estate, then your parents weren’t obligated to pay. </p>

<p>Anyway…You didn’t address many, many points that were made in this thread.</p>

<p>OP, can you answer questions asked in 3, 5, 6, 9, 10, 18, 20, 21, 24, 27?</p>

<p>If your parentswere paying the medical bills for relatives, this was happening anyway.</p>

<p>Agree with others…unless your parents choose to be the responsible payers, they were not obligated to pay medical bills for non-dependents.</p>

<p>Be that as it may…you are complaining for no good reason. Your parents made the decision to help someone else…which is their generous decision. They made the decision to move your family to a better neighborhood. All of these are family things…and you should be less self centered in terms of your parent’s desires to help your family. </p>

<p>And yes, I do understand that ypunare disappointed because it seems you won’t be able to afford many of the schools on the list you crafted.</p>

<p>But, it’s not too late to look for affordable options.</p>

<p>You have a budget for college which is a lot more than many students have. You have options for college, but they just aren’t what you wanted.</p>

<p>Did you discuss all of these college costs with your parents before sending off applications?</p>

<p>Did you discuss your chances of being accepted with anyone before you applied?</p>

<p>Unanswered questions compilation:</p>

<h1>3, #5 your work scholarship - is that for one year or for FOUR years?</h1>

<h1>6 How much can YOU pay of your college costs each year?; How much can you earn summers and school year?; How much do you have saved?; Is the scholarship for one year or two?</h1>

<h1>10 What is your major and career goal??</h1>

<h1>20 How did your parents screw you?</h1>

<h1>27 Can you ask them to pay $30k/year for the last two years of schooling?</h1>

<h1>29 Did the person die twice?</h1>

<h1>31 Did you discuss all of these college costs with your parents before sending off applications?; Did you discuss your chances of being accepted with anyone before you applied?</h1>

<p>Like somebody else said before in this thread, you might as well commute to the local CC from your parents’ nice home in the nice neighborhood. If the work scholarship is for one year only, it will cover nearly all of your expenses. Use your work savings for the second year.
The “college experience” will come later.</p>

<p>Be mad if you want (I think disappointed is a better word) that your parents aren’t giving you as much money as you need, but don’t let good opportunities get away while you are pouting. List what is most important to you: OOS? how school is ranked? D-1 sports (for the atmosphere of the school, not necessarily to play)? Public? Private? Major? Then try to make a match with your finances. See what other sources there are (loans, scholarships, special programs) and just start chipping away at the COA.</p>

<p>It seems like you want a big, midwestern school. MN might be a more affordable choice than Wis. A private school might give you more money. North Dakota isn’t so hot at football, but great hockey watching. Wyoming, Utah and Montana are all very affordable and each offers top programs in some areas like mining and petroleum engineering, computer programing, Utah film and fine arts (and instate tuition after a year if you meet the conditions).</p>

<p>I gave my kids a budget of what the instate school would have cost me, and they picked schools, one OOS and one private instate, and made their budgets work. Were they disappointed in the initial budget I set? Oh yes they were, but when we started working the NPC, seeing the options, getting the figures, they saw that the budget was fine and they both are at their first choice schools.</p>

<p>Thank your parents for being honest with you and letting you know the budget up front. It would be terrible to have to turn down schools you can’t afford. Be honest with yourself that this IS the budget. You can find great schools that meet your list.</p>

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Be mad if you want (I think disappointed is a better word) that your parents aren’t giving you as much money as you need, </p>

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<p>I agree, but I would change the word “need” to “would like”. </p>

<p>I suspect that the OP has spent the last few months sharing her college list with friends and she has been all excited about the prospect of attending an OOS big sports school (and maybe pledging?)…so back-pedaling is both upsetting and embarrassing.</p>

<p>The solution is to quickly find some other AFFORDABLE schools that can provide that big college experience at an affordable cost. </p>

<p>OOS tuition waivers at some of the Louisiana schools would make them pretty affordable. There are a few others as well:</p>

<p><a href=“Automatic Out-of-State Tuition Waivers - Financial Aid and Scholarships - College Confidential Forums”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/financial-aid-scholarships/1505285-automatic-out-of-state-tuition-waivers.html&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

<p>So I just discussed this with my parents and they said they can pay about 15k out of pocket per year. I will also be getting a scholarship from work for about 5k which will set me at about 20k a year. Thinking of University of Iowa, as they told me they could give me about 8k of merit aid a year. </p>

<p>^^^
Why are you telling us mostly info that you’ve ALREADY have told us INSTEAD of answering the REAL questions.</p>

<p>Have you asked your employer if that award is for all 4 years? Or is it only for ONE year? And if it is for all 4 years, do you have to be a current employee to get it for future years? If so, how will you keep that job while going to school elsewhere?</p>

<p>So, if you end up with $28k per year towards UIowa, how will you pay for the rest? The OOS COA is $40k. So how will you pay for the other $12k? </p>

<p>And if that work award is only for frosh year, then how will pay the other $16k for the other 3 years?</p>

<p>The job is only in the summer and the scholarship is given on a yearly basis. I will remain an employee for the upcoming summers, and will definitely continue to receive the money. In terms of the other 12k, I plan to take out the max amount in student loans, and then use the money I make in the summer (3k) + Savings to pay for the rest. </p>

<p>That sounds like a great summer job where you basically double your money through a guaranteed $4k scholarship each summer.</p>