@wreather , My post was not intended to insult anyone, but frankly my student at ND has the insider perspective and EVERY single student that Is in Mendoza that lives in his dorm and others he has met are ALL legacies. So my comment was not just a rant, it actually has factuall backing. That is not to say that every legacy has been admitted, but it is to say that those who have been admitted have been legacies. Good luck to all the candidates who will make outstanding contributions to the university they attend.
My last post was referencing Eieiaye post, who stated her accepted students stats
@blueher I don’t recall whether you mentioned if you applied REA or RD. With those stats, ND may have believed he was not a committed applicant applying RD. My son also has high stats, and we agonized over whether to apply RD or REA…we got so many differing opinions. Ultimately he applied REA and thankfully he was accepted. Your son sounds like a talented individual, and I am sure he will do fine with all those great options. Time heals.
Hi WineLover,
Congrats to your son. Likewise we were given differing opinions as to whether or not he should apply REA or RD, and chose RD since my other son who attends ND applied RD and was successful, so we thought it would be wiser to do RD. I would have thought that ND would strive to keep families together, and my son not only had top stats, he was extremely well-rounded. This is why we are so perplexed as to where ND felt he lacked. I honestly cannot comprehend why he got turned down. He has received numerous scholarships elsewhere, but ND is where his heart and soul wanted. Moreover, the religious aspect was very important to him, which is what the Ivies lack. He had already bonded with many of my other sons friends as he spent time at his residence hall each time we visited, which makes it so hard as he envisioned himself there and worked diligently to achieve his dream. We are extremely proud of him! Thank you for supporting us as we are still having a lot of difficulty coming to terms with it.
@blueher Don’t beat yourself up over RD vs REA. We received a lot of conflicting information about it, but were told to apply REA because my DS was also high stats – exact same SAT as your son, ACT 35/(36SS), high GPS, 4 year varsity in two sports, captain in two sports, helped coach in the summers, state/district honors in music, etc. According to his high school counselor and teachers (incl. a couple of ND alum) he was practically a lock for ND because his scores were higher than most of the kids who were accepted in previous years. He applied REA to show “demonstrated interested” and got deferred. and then eventually wait listed in the RD round.
In addition he is non-white, so to your earlier post, no not all minorities get in. DS had stats on par or even higher than a lot of white kids and still didn’t get in. Also take a look at this thread and the RD results thread. Lots of high stats legacies also didn’t make the cut. The fact that DS was deferred and waitlisted told me “Your son IS good enough to be here, but we just didn’t have the room.”
I know this is tough, but please don’t beat yourself up with the “why” and “what if” … we were just meant to go down a another path. I’ll bet a year from now, your son and mine will be very happy at their chosen school, and likewise you’ll enjoy a different/unique college experience than your older son.