Thank you all for these very helpful perspectives - we are very grateful.
There is an update: UDel came through with a full tuition (not full ride) scholarship of $ 30 K, so that net total annual cost is $ 15 K vs. UIUC $ 35 K. Still a big difference of about $ 80 K (more like $ 70 K once the higher tuition increases at UDel vs. locked down instate tuition at UIUC is factored in).
Its more or less the number that “sax” above was referencing in their post! Thanks Sax, and great to hear about your son’s successes at and since PSU.
we now have three great options. On a four year total cost basis:
UDel $ 70K
OSU $ 100K (a stronger option now that it seemed before)
UIUC $ 140K
(Ruling Case Western out at this stage - $ 155 K - though we visited and its a top notch program, its difficult to see it displacing UIUC at a higher cost)
@miamiDAP - to answer your question, the highest merit award was UDel ($ 30K), followed by Case ($ 22 K), then OSU ($ 18 K). All three very generous.
@ zooserman - thanks for the very illuminating and encouraging info on UDel! Will send you a PM to learn more. Your D must have really loved her experience there to also go to grad school there…terrific. I have myself visited the campus and it is really lovely - kind of like Miami of Ohio where my older son attends.
@ itsv - so glad your D had a great experience at OSU. It is a terrific school and my older son had a tough time choosing between OSU and MiamiU (OSU was his first choice but we prevalied upon him to go to Miami because he got a direct admit into business) - but he is happy now! The only thing about OSU for this son that concerns us is the competition for engineering major spots that depends on the GPA, otherwise there is no doubt it is a great engineering program there, especially with Honors.
@PurpleTitan and @ relmore - We can certainly afford UIUC’s $ 140K but the thing we have been suggesting to my son is that if he chooses to go to UDel or OSU instead of UIUC, we will give him the difference invested to grow so that he gets a payment down on a small condo or something after he graduates. And it certainly seems that all three programs are great quality and they all have their relative advantages. So when it comes to fit, I know from my son’s nature and personality, he will fit well into all three, but at this point, his preference seems to be UIUC (mainly I, suspect because of the ranking and that fact a good number of his friends will also go there). I don’t know though whether he will be “happier” there once he does get there - given UIUC’s larger classes and somewhat impersonal atmosphere - especially compared to the more midsized atmosphere/Honors program at UDel and the Honors program/somewhat cozier feel at OSU (for a large university). We know he likes to interact with his teachers and ask questions etc. in his high school.
Its going to be an interesting week ahead as we try to make a decision! Will keep you posted, please keep sharing any additional insights - thanks!