<p>I'm an alum, so things might have changed, but I doubt that they have changed a lot. MIT students tend to have smaller classes than many other schools. Grad students do not teach recitations, they are taught by faculty. The UROP program is first rate and an overwhelming percentage of MIT students do graduate having done real research. My view is that any criticism based on these factors is probably wrong.</p>
<p>As to the friendliness of the atmosphere, I personally thought it was great. I was friendly with quite a few of the faculty while I was on campus (I went to dinner at their homes - this was not a mere wave in the hallway). Many of them are very approachable and friendly, some of course are not. </p>
<p>Possible issues: The international campus. This can be a negative and a positive. You will meet people from all over the world at MIT, and that can be very exciting. MIT does have a vast number of visiting faculty from overseas. I did have to shift one of my classes after being unable to understand the visiting professor from the University in Beijing who spoke with a very strong accent.</p>
<p>The pressure: Its real, its largely self-inflicted, and it is occasionally crushing. There have been cases of suicide at MIT, from students who could not cope. The school does take steps to try to reduce it somewhat, and to provide outlets, but the students who cannot cope are generally the same ones least likely to take advantage of the counselors and other resources offered. This is a highly personal thing. It energised me, and most of my friends, but I was friendly with many who did not enjoy it.</p>
<p>The social life: See pressure. This is also likely self directed, and likely to vary by student. Heck MIT has made Playboy's list of the top party schools in the country on several occasions. Some 25 years ago, MIT was simultaneously at the top of the New York times list of the top work-slog schools in the country and in the top 10 of Playboy's list of party schools.</p>
<p>When you read the admissions office website, they spend a lot of time talking about the match, and it is a two-way street. There are students who would thrive at MIT and students who would not. Some of this is academically based, but much of it is not. </p>
<p>Nobody can tell you whether MIT is the right school for you. I can tell you it was the right school for me. Visit the campus, talk to people there, see if you would enjoy it. I had very good friends who went to Harvard down the road and I saw them a lot. As a rule, they had more classes run by grad students and less research opportunities than I had. </p>
<p>Frankly, Harvard would not have been the right school for me, I spent a fair amount of time there and I always found it a little bit pretentious in a way that made me uncomfortable. I was talking to a very good friend who loved Harvard and felt very much at home there. She told me that she never really felt comfortable on the MIT campus. It always felt a little bit pretentious in a way that made her uncomfortable.</p>
<p>Find the school where you feel that you would thrive and don't let anyone make that decision for you.</p>