@Dodalee, Happy to tell you what I know, but there are probably others who know a lot more than I. Keep in mind that my S has not been admitted yet, so take what I say with a grain of salt.
My son did not play for an academy team because he is multi-sport athlete. If he played academy they would not let him play other sports as well as his HS team. Up until his sophomore year, my wife and I thought he’d play basketball in college, so the Academy was never really an option.
To compensate for not playing Academy he played two years up, The team he played on was ranked #1 in our state and easily would beat the age appropriate Academy team he’d have to play on. For him, it was a great choice, but we got lucky that such a good team was in our area.
Regarding feedback from coaches, he starting going to camps last summer as a rising Junior. He did very well at the Future 500 camp and talked to many coaches, getting several cards and email addresses. I think a few talked to him after the All-star game and some after the individual games. Several at the camp, invited him to visit and said they were interested.
When he got home, he wrote the ones he liked and the ones that liked him wrote back… all had specific things to say so we figured it was real. Based on what he wanted he attended a few team camps after the summer. I’d say all went well. He got feedback from each camp, most saying things like “your one of our top recruits for 2017” or “we are very interested in you” or “we thought you were one of the top players in the camp”. One of the camps even gave a DI, D3, or club rating. Since all were top academic schools, most coaches asked for his grades and whatever scores he had.
In the fall, he concentrated on his HS team, but wrote a few coaches he liked with updates. Just about all of them wrote back something pleasant. When the season ended, he made a highlight tape and sent to about 20 coaches, many of the ones he’d already met and a few new ones. Most coaches wrote back and invited him to campus and one of their money making camps.
The Amherst coach invited him to FLA for a camp and asked for his schedule. I have heard of the PPA camps but my S did not attend. Since he’s the point guard on his HS team, he could not attend (and I did not really want to pay to send him to FLA). He did attend one IVY school’s camp in November. At that camp, there were several other coaches. One of the coaches approached him after the All-Star game and wrote him a few days later. The coaches at this particular NESCAC school really liked him and invited him for a visit and their ID camp. Since the ID camp was a week after the bball season ended, he went and did an overnight with the team. He was terrific at the ID camp and he felt connected to the coach. By the time I met the coach the next morning, S and the coach had worked it out.
Now we wait for the pre-read to come back. In retrospect, I think he should have waited and talked to other coaches. I believe my son to be a very good player and great kid who could thrive anywhere. By putting all of his eggs in this basket so early (March), he’ll have to scramble if this goes south. That said, I think he’s ok and the coach has done nothing to make me think it will, other than us not hearing about the pre-read yet. We’ve taught him that the grass is very rarely greener on the other side and I guess he took that to heart.
My best advice is let your child take ownership. In our case, my S found the school he liked, the coach he liked and what he wanted to study. Even if it doesn’t work out, he’ll take something from the experience. My final bit of advice is to let the kid own it. It’s odd for me, since I’m paying for this experience, but if he feels like it’s something he’s done, he’s more likely to be successful.
Hope this helps, but your mileage may vary!