Either way, mom would have prompted a low income verification because she has no income. The school would have still asked how is she existing day to day (who provides her food and shelter).
If mom stated that she was being supported through public assistance/food stamps, they would have asked for a budget letter. If she being supported by getting SS/SSI, they would have asked for an award letter.
Mom said she lives with BF and he pays the bills and that is how she lives and eats everyday. So they want to se what he makes so that they can attribute a portion to her.
They would have still asked for BF info or anyone else’s income that she was living with because mom is part of that household. It is not an unusual request for students applying for institutional aid or opportunity programs in NYS.
If the mom and DD were living with the grandmother, and the mom had said that grandma pays the bills, would the school ask to see grandma’s finances and “attribute a portion” of grandma’s income to this student’s mother?
It may have been better especially if grandmother was retired, disabled or low income.
What is stopping mom from getting a job?
Why is she choosing to be Blanche Dubois and live off the kindness os “strangers” than to stand on her own two feet (especially if according to OP, the situation is not that great)?
Following this logic if mom had many boyfriends supporting her they would require Tax Return from everyone whoever bought mom a dinner?
I think OP should explain that adding boyfriend to the Profile was a mistake and that her mom’s relationships with her boyfriend are temporary and abusive and that she goes back and forth between her boyfriend du jour and her mother (OP’s grandmother). Boyfriend does not give out any spending money and refuses to provide any financial info.
It may be helpful to get a copy of the NC Profile that was submitted to the school to see what exactly mom wrote there.
If the issue is not resolved at the lower level then OP should try to reach out to the higher ups. The names, titles and contact info of the Fin Aid Officers are usually on the school web site.
This is not a situation of getting tax forms from anyone and everyone who buys you dinner; mom is saying that the financial support for her day to day expenses to meet her basic needs of food clothing and shelter are being supplied by someone else and she has stated dependency on her BF because she does it have the financial means to provide them for herself
It is the school’s money, and they can ask for what they want. Unlike federal aid where she would be entitled if eligible. Op is not entitled to nor is she owed institutional aid and it is her parents who are first in line to pay for her education as the monies for financial aid come from the generosity of other people’s parent to donate to the school and the endowment
So is it very likely that I won’t be able to get aid for this spring? He will not file taxes, whether it is for the fall or spring. This is why I didn’t even want to get him involved, because he is a sketchy person. I am going to ask if I can change residency of my mom’s household, do you think I can reason with them so they can set a number that my mom is expected to pay? Even if it is pretty high, it would be better than nothing. I hope to get a few big scholarships for the fall, but I really need to go back to school in the spring.
Where do you live? With your grandmother? If so, and your mother returns to grandmother’s house, that should be your permanent address. It would be better for your school to be asking for your grandmother’s tax returns than your mother’s boyfriend’s returns.
All you can do is be honest about the situation and see if you’d be considered homeless (not living with either parent).
It is highly unlikely that you’re going to school for spring. The school could not get your aid processed in time if the BF filed…and it appears that he won’t, anyway.
do you think I can reason with them so they can set a number that my mom is expected to pay? Even if it is pretty high, it would be better than nothing. I hope to get a few big scholarships for the fall, but I really need to go back to school in the spring.
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Not only will that not work, but be realistic. Even if they set a number that is “pretty high”, you don’t have the means to cover that “pretty high” amount. And, you can “hope” that you’ve get some scholarships for the fall, but the reality is that you very likely will not. It is VERY hard and very RARE to get much or anything for continuing students.
You need a SENSIBLE plan, and right now you don’t have one.
Ask the school to defer your admission until Fall.
Have your mom (and you) move to Grandma’s home.
Delaying enrollment and moving to Grandma’s will mean that whatever you filed for FA will now be void since it was for the 2015-16 schol year
File new FA forms for the 2016-17 year, using Grandma’s address, and obviously no BF info or mention.
My mom is my non-custodial parent/not the person who raised me and my relationship with her(in terms of financial) is non-existent. My mom doesn't work and mostly is dependent on her boyfriend and other family. I understand that the non-custodial parent is expected to pay a part of my college tuition when the school is calculating a package, however, me and my father have always paid it together. I do not like my mom's boyfriend due to his treatment of my mom, and do not feel comfortable asking for his tax returns as he will never agree to pay for me and my twin sister's education
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Well, the strategy I proposed could still work if you could get your mom to move back with her mother.
Either way, there’s really no way that school is going to work out for this spring. The BF isn’t going to file, so that’s that.