<p>So, I transferred to U of M from a community college as a junior a year ago. So far, I've met 2 people I consider to be good friends. It seems like everyone knows everyone else and I'm kind of a loner...I'm not sure why. In addition, it seems like a lot of people have friends from HS also attending. I was homeschooled (unfortunately) so I don't have friends from HS. And no, I'm not an odd, stereotypical "homeschooled kid." People who know me tell me I'm cute, funny and one of the nicest people they know yet this doesn't seem to get me anywhere in the friends department. I'm a bit quiet and not the type who parties and drinks myself into an oblivion. I've got 2 semesters left here and I've made 2 friends. Pretty pathetic, huh? Anyone have any advice? My time here has become pretty depressing...</p>
<p>Put yourself out of your comfort zone, get a job, join clubs, etc.</p>
<p>Cliche but I’m only repeating it because it works. TAKE CHARGE!!!</p>
<p>I find I’m pretty good at making “friendly acquaintances” but not very good at making close friends. I don’t think I’m the only one out there like that either. Your plight is not uncommon. I’m told 25% of Americans have no friends. You have 2.</p>
<p>Seriously, this sounds totally “Dale Carnegie” but in truth you have to BE a friend to MAKE a friend.
Invite people places. Confide in them. Listen to them. Help them in a bind. Expect the same.</p>
<p>It is harder making friends as a transfer. Most students at universities are in a friend-making mode as Freshmen. Come Sophomore or Junior year, they have made their friends and are more settled. </p>
<p>Still, you are going to make friends, you just need to make an effort and be patient. </p>
<p>By the way, if you have two friends already, that’s a great start. Work on those two as you develop a couple more. As kmcmom suggested, friendship requires commitment from both sides.</p>
<p>I just graduated as a CC transfer and I really only made two friends… one I ended up not seeing more than once at all my senior year because she lived on North Campus and I didn’t and it was just never convenient, and one that promptly moved home to South Korea when school ended. I founded a successful student org and still struggled. It’s really hard as a transfer. Don’t take the struggle personally and keep trying.</p>
<p>Try joining student groups. I made some of the greatest friends through student organizations.</p>
<p>Definitely join many clubs, it is the easiest way to meet people and make some friends! You could also try joining an acting/theatre club, I know it might sound ‘bleh’ if you’re not passionate about the arts, however it really does help and you start progressing out of that comfort zone and make some friends!!
Also, remember that there are many people like you, so you just have to scan around and find the right people to hang out with. </p>
<p>I can tell you that during high school, I had a slightly hard time making friends for a while, because I wasn’t into partying, and I wasn’t really into being a nerd either (not that it’s a bad thing), after a couple of weeks I joined the volleyball team and found people just like me :)</p>