<p>Not that you're pointing fingers at me, but let me just say that I was accepted, yes, and I am extremely proud of that, yes, but I did not respond to the "only minorities, recruited athletes, and legacies get in EDI" because I somehow feel as though I am better than him/her. As much as it is to be happy that we got in, I don't feel as though we inflated ourselves in any way. And if anything, you can also say the same for the other side. If you were deferred last Saturday, I'm sorry, I truly am, but that doesn't give you the right to make blatant derisive generalizations about those of us who did get in. </p>
<p>Why were you deferred? We have no idea. We never will. But take a look back at your essays (I heard those were especially important for Middlebury's adcom) and application and reevaluate where YOU may have gone wrong instead of placing blame on everyone else.</p>
<p>Acceptance at elite schools seems to be a whimsical and capricious process. There frequently appears to be no logical reason why one person is accepted and another isn't. It still smarts that my son was 0 for 5 at the Ivies when I saw others from his school no more qualified (or less so) who got in.</p>
<p>On the surface, it's hard to understand why zlin didn't get in and I can understand her anger and disappointment. And that is not taking anything away from the kids who were accepted.</p>
<p>Let's be clear, my S hasn't yet even submitted his application, so there is no deferral or rejection from Midd around here. Not yet, anyway. :) But I don't see how my suggestion to employ a little compassion for other students is a "blatant derisive generalization." On the other hand, suggesting that others went WRONG (which infers to some degree that you were infallible as an applicant) is definitely hubris instead of humility. </p>
<p>Take a chill and realize that no one has to have "gone wrong" to be deferred or denied. As you have proven, it's not grades or scores that are the only consideration and it didn't just come down to your essay or your recommendations. You just never know how you fit into the larger puzzle to say "this is why I got in" or "this is why you didn't." All I was suggesting is that it would just be nice to see kids recognize this a tad more often instead of thinking their just that much more "special" than the next kid.</p>
<p>I wasn't talking about what you were saying, Modadunn, I was responding to the comment that "only minorities, legacies, and athletic recruits get into Middlebury EDI." I totally understand your comment about having compassion and I thank you for being the only one to congratulate me while the others were discussing the "special reasons" as to why I (or others) was accepted. I don't think I'm any more "special" but for them to say that the only reason why I did get in is because I'm half-Filipino is ridiculous and, in itself, exactly what you're talking about with people elevating themselves above other people. They feel as though they definitely deserved spots and that we who did get them somehow qualified for some special benefits or something.</p>
<p>So, the comment about compassion can be spread around to both sides, I'd say.</p>
<p>Hi, I stumbled on this thread last night, Googling around, after hearing that a really great kid at a local school here hopes to go to Midd. I am an alum. Zlin or anyone else, if you get these messages after all these years, can you please give me the epilogue? Most or all of you are graduating from somewhere this year! I do Midd interviews and get my heart broken sometimes when fantastic kids are declined. I like to know what they went on to do. They remain, of course, as fantastic. Zlin, you became sort of emblematic - and your stats WERE ridiculous! Any of you… what is the afterward here, please? Thank you.</p>