<p>When my “S” and I visited the College of Charleston fall 2009 (67% Female), it became pretty clear the gender imbalance was an issue for them. While not specifically said, they are concerned “smart” women may not attend due to the sex imbalance due to difficulty finding appropriate male partners. It’s almost as if they wanted to give my “S” leverage in attending, but not specifically mentioned since this is illegal.</p>
<p>Personally, this is a concern - I met my wife of 25 years in college - (50/50) back then. Real or perceived, the gender imbalance is there for a lot of schools. Fortunate for the Ivy’s, they have so many “perfect” applicants, they can pick and choose a “class” that meets their perceived goals - which I’m sure include a gender balance!</p>
<p>No kidding. I hadn’t thought of it as a matter of economics, but I guess that would be a consideration.</p>
<p>And by actually having met each other in some non-bar setting both the male and female can better maintain their boundaries. Less —“I did WHAT!?!”</p>
<p>Think about how much better sober sex is for both involved. The stats on unprotected sex show that remove the alcohol and pregnancy and disease goes way down.</p>
<p>My D has never had any trouble finding great guys her age, as friends or as relationships. She’s not the hook-up type. There’s one group of guys she’s not a fan of, at all, but they aren’t the immature type with the D & D books! These boys she thinks are great, even if none of them ever ask her out. She loves her boyfriend’s mother and the feeling seems to be mutual. I don’t think it has to be so worrisome, really, as long as the laundry list we have for men (or women) only applies to our OWN partner. ;)</p>
<p>Today’s Doonesbury is funny. It shows a gal in uniform in Iraq. She grumps about trying to eat lunch with 200 horny dudes watching her. She says “I hate mid-deployment.”</p>
<p>The biological ratio of males to females at age 20 is close to 1:1. It’s a venue problem, not a statistical one.</p>
<p>Really, I am toooo worried. Amongst DS classmates, m/f, now 25-26, only a few are married of with steadys. Most are too busy with career making, exploring everything. Hooking up early means a lot of compromises that must be made by both parties. DS doesn’t need or has the need to make these compromises- DW and I both envy his freedom that we were not able to enjoy at his age. We did not have the money and opportunity. He fortunately has both, for which a young lady with the right-stuff can make a great catch.</p>
<p>Going out with the girls, will not find themselves a match. (too many fishing, in the same fishing hole, too few fish). The girls need to be looking in locations where the big ones lounge out. The same hold for males.</p>
<p>What was the XT game, Lizard Larry, ???, Its been soo long ago.</p>
<p>FallGirl, I said MAY, not ARE. Wouldn’t you agree that sorority girls are more interested in social life than other girls? The girls who care more about academics than guys, who aren’t there to “find their MRS. degree” as other posters have said, aren’t going to rush! So the girls who do rush, who are interested in the college social sphere, are more likely to go farther than they might want to, because they’ll be more desperate than the girls who couldn’t care less. I’m not asserting that all sorority girls are total sluts, just that they’re the kinds of girls who like to go out and try to date guys, at least moreso than other girls. I think that’s a fair statement?</p>
<p>“of the 40% men, they’d only consider half. I don’t necessarily blame them, but it’s important to remember they’re artificially excluding a lot of people and then complaining about it. I don’t think it’s a stretch to suggest their standards are unreasonably high.”
Exactly how much experience with sorority women do you have? If your views are any indication of what these young women are exposed to on campus today, perhaps their “unreasonably high” standards are spot on.</p>
<p>The “holier-than-thou” argument is purely show on the part of the girls in the article. There is a reason why many sorority girls are called “sorostitutes” at UNC.</p>
<p>Many sorority women are serious students. Just because a woman joins a social group does not mean that she is not serious about her education and just because a woman chooses not to join a sorority doesn’t necessarily mean that she cares more about academics.</p>
<p>I also think that you posted what you know is a ridiculous statement in order to see who would respond to it and you know it. So I will not be bothered posting any more responses to this nonsense.</p>
<p>Since when does wanting to date guys equate with being a slut? Do you live in a cave? Believe it or not, there are many women who are able to maintain both a high level of academic achievement and a vibrant social life, including developing meaningful relationships with the opposite sex. Sounds like this might be a foreign concept to you.</p>
<p>Me, I just wish my son could find somebody to be with at some point, since he’s never had a boyfriend. Even though he really isn’t looking right now; he’s afraid that a relationship would not only distract him from work (he’s seen that happen with people he knows), but leave him less time to hang out with friends – something he honestly didn’t get that much opportunity to do in high school since he didn’t have many friends, and is enjoying a lot right now and doesn’t want to give up. But he’s not interested in picking people up at parties, either (and is almost as shy that way as I was at his age); when one of his lesbian friends drags him to an LGBT party, he ends up just sitting around talking to his friends.</p>
<p>So I think it may be a while before he tells me he has a boyfriend, but he doesn’t seem unhappy about it, so I guess it’s all good.</p>
<p>After all, my first relationship was when I was, um, 26 (how embarrassing!). But he’s much more well-adjusted than I was, and has the major advantage of accepting himself for who he is. Something I didn’t even begin to do until I was in my 40’s.</p>
<p>Having grandchildren someday would be something I’d love, whether J. finds someone to marry (or the equivalent) or not, but right now being a father is the very last thing on his mind (and I suspect that’ll be true for many years to come). So twisting his arm would do no good at all!</p>
<p>That’s the ticket. There’s enormous pressure at that age to have a relationship – any relationship – to avoid being made fun of and thought of as a loser. Unfortunately, social status is a terrible reason to date someone and it’s better for your son to wait until he finds someone he’s comfortable with than to immediately hop on the first idiot to fall off the wagon just to say that he has someone.</p>
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<p>They can’t be that high, considering the tone of this article implies that the college women chase after any unkempt mouth-breathing tool they find in some scuzzy bar. I think the problem is that these are young women who happen to be slightly insecure. 60 / 40 isn’t that big of a deal, and I doubt that all of the men in North Carolina are below their standards.</p>
<p>If a college admits URM or someone from a disadvantaged background etc–who may be less qualified and a minority–in order to have that part of the class represented…over a more qualified candidate…and its considered pc</p>
<p>…why then is admitting a male over a female because a school is trying to keep a certain ratio —wrong?</p>
<p>Who decided a univ should have
x number of women
x number of men
whites
blacks
asians
glbt</p>
<p>etc</p>
<p>PS Anybody read that item I posted–the article written by a woman about why women are having trouble dating…an interesting read…</p>
<p>I don’t know fog-fog. That’s a pretty good question. I know that a lot of schools actively seek out female engineering and science and math students. fwiw. But, I know, too, that guys probably have at least some advantage in terms of admittance to LACs… </p>
<p>But, yeah, given the fact that adcoms say they are mainly trying to make a “well-rounded” class, I’m not really sure. </p>
<p>One question I would ask is what percentage of women who enroll vs. men who enroll actually graduate? Because that might be a factor, too. If more women who enroll are actually also graduating, then that might be another reason to keep the imabalance. But that is pure conjecture based on the girls and boys I know.</p>
<p>I’m 19, never had a girlfriend. Rejected in high school, pretty much my entire life.</p>
<p>Even though I’m given an ADVANTAGE, it doesn’t matter, know why? Girls hate me no matter where I go. </p>
<p>I don’t care if the ratio is 80/20, for some reason, girls do not want to know me, nor do they not want to date me. I guess girls do not like smart, confident men. Better luck in the future.</p>