<p>I think they're cute/nice for a while but ultimately futile and kind of a major distraction.</p>
<p>Eh, I don’t know. If I involved myself in one it would just be for the novelty. I don’t like the idea of being really committed to someone.</p>
<p>Definite distraction in senior year – gonna lead to avoidable heartache/hurt feelings since both parties will likely go separate ways.</p>
<p>Depends on who you’re with. 99/100 times it isn’t worth it and a waste of time, resources, money, and emotion, but that 1/100 chance is still there.</p>
<p>I think there’s two kinds:</p>
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<li><p>Your typical 3-week or however long one that’s based mostly on someone’s looks and has little to do with things other than the typical superficial things teenagers typically care about.</p></li>
<li><p>More of a “real” relationship, based on a lot more things than just the typical things most teenagers care about. I know a few couples in this type of relationship and have observed their relationships are also somewhat intellectual too (interpret that as you wish). </p></li>
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<p>I know two people who’ve been together for a while now (years) and she’s in college and he’s a senior, so I think that’s a worthwhile relationship for the two of them.</p>
<p>they are a waste of time. sometimes i feel people break up with each other just to “show off”(if you know what I mean).</p>
<p>I thought that there was a pretty legitimate relationship in my graduating class as the two individuals had been dating for three years since 9th grade… but then in the course of two weeks, they broke up and the guy started dating his ex’s best friend… Kind of blind sided most of us because everyone thought of them as the couple that would end up getting married down the road…</p>
<p>I just think its completely annoying… Like all people do is talk about it, talk about other people who may be in a relationship. I don’t know. My class is all about it -<em>-. You can be in a relationship, but don’t emphasize it so much and then start pairing up possible relationships -</em>-</p>
<p>There was a guy at my old school named Chaz (graduated 2 years ago) and he is engaged to the girl he has been dating for years through highschool and college</p>
<p>I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year now, I’m a senior, he’s a junior. We’re a smart couple with high-level classes, GPAs, etc. We’re not typical overachieving nerds though, we also have good senses of humor and like to bend the rules a bit. We’re that couple that teachers make fun of us for being so cuddly. We just make each other happy, and help each other manage the crazy amounts of stress and work we’ve both committed ourselves to. Totally, totally worth it.</p>
<p>I think for many high school relationships proves to be a learning experience. Not particularly a waste of time and yes it can be a distraction. Nonetheless, it prepares you for adult relationships that are more intense and deals with more mature topics. </p>
<p>I honestly can say even if my high school relationships were really stupid and short-lived, my current college relationship works a lot better because of little things I learned from my stupid HS flings.</p>
<p>Two pros about high school dating:</p>
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<li><p>You can see the person more often.</p></li>
<li><p>You know more about the person’s background. </p></li>
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<p>Not saying this in a high school dating is better or anything. It’s not. But those are two nice things about it.</p>
<p>I don’t know, I don’t really see them as good. One person who used to be my friend decided to go out with someone who is my friend. She treated me like dirt the entire time, and then when she got dumped demanded to know why I wasn’t there for her. </p>
<p>Also there was this couple last year who was like “oh should I go to this school because my SO is going there?” and it was pretty annoying. </p>
<p>I haven’t had the experience where couples aren’t overly annoying or feel entitled to everything. It’s probably just my high school though. </p>
<p>I think it’s what you get when you put too many competitive people with each other.</p>
<p>I think they’re pretty much pointless. I guess for others, it’s useful for discovering what you really want, but I sort of feel like I already know what I’d want (and I’m so picky… gah. I don’t regret being picky though), since I’ve done a lot of observing and thought a lot about it (I’ve always been very introverted), and I think I’ve become a lot more confident in myself/my beliefs over time.
I feel bitter whenever I see PDA or nicknaming… maybe because I feel like the people in question are showing off while being completely oblivious about it, which is extremely irritating. It’s especially aggravating when they act like (or give the impression that they’re acting like) their so-called “love” is the most mind-blowing thing in the entire world, like it’s powerful enough to destroy the universe. I feel like it’s inconsiderate to show off like that. It’s also frustrating because I don’t know how to describe it, but it feels like my brain is immature in a way when it comes to love? Thus far, I have never been able to feel love (not even toward family members), which kind of makes me feel childish. But at the same time, I take the idea/concept of love really, really seriously (I haven’t ever been able to say “I love you” because I feel like you should only say it when you completely mean it) and I completely reject basing love off of looks/lust, so in a way I feel like my brain /is/ more mature… argh. So I guess I feel like it’s inconsiderate for these couples to show how confident they are in their idea of love (even if, like the vast vast majority of people, they’re not 100% /truly/ [“truly” as in like “I seriously would lay down my life for you, and I’m not just saying that because that’s what you want to hear”] in love) while I’m standing here unable to feel anything yet so far. I guess I just feel like SERIOUS love is just too powerful and shouldn’t be showed off? I don’t know. Basically I guess I just feel like people take it way too lightly?</p>
<p>Ugh, this is so complicated to explain/articulate… this is the first time I’m trying to write this out. xD Sorry for all the parentheses…</p>
<p>I think high school relationships are a joke. I’ve never been in one, but not really planning on it anytime soon. It’s so hilarious when you see a couple (especially the girl) already say they love each other. But anyways, it seems like waaaay too much drama.</p>
<p>I probably agree the most with lullabies. A high school relationship can be fun and help you realize things about yourself, but you have to recognize its limits. Don’t go further than you want to go with it, realize that you’re not an adult and aren’t able to make adult-level decisions about your future based on it (i.e., don’t pick your college based on your high school relationship), and don’t take it overly seriously. It’s also important to watch out for the melodramatic, potentially harmful, or abusive relationships. It’s bad enough for these to exist in the “real world,” but the last thing high schoolers need is an abusive relationship.</p>
<p>I had a boyfriend for a while in high school, but it was very much the “Look, we’re going out! Isn’t this awkward and exciting?” In retrospect, it was really awkward, but I don’t regret it. My college boyfriend never had a girlfiend in high school, so with my limited experience I am the “knowledgeable” one when it comes to relationships.</p>
<p>Perhaps I’m biased, as I am in a serious relationship, but I believe it can work. It may not happen often, but then again, that logic could be applied to many other things (careers and college admissions being two examples that seem the most fitting here).</p>
<p>Serious love in high school is rare, and people do tend to act flippant about it, but there is nothing that inherently makes a high school relationship “bad.”</p>