<p>The cost of 24/7 is going to be about 60 K/yr. $150/day times 7 is $1,050 a week. 52 weeks. And add to that the payroll service and workman’s comp. I haven’t looked into the price of payroll service, but I read that a yr of workman’s comp insurance from Allstate is only $47/yr.</p>
<p>And yes, you lose a whole yr of paid care money if you chose RM over IL.</p>
<p>Old mom, your story is extraordinary. The part about Hurricane Sandy is horrific. Luckily I have a husband who is a good listener and cheerleader, and a good friend who is a social worker who works with elderly who listens sympthetically and offers good concrete advice. </p>
<p>But logged on now to report the most remarkable afternoon. Every evening mom adds her list of “things to bring” so I got the stuff and went to the vet to get a copy of the dog’s vaccintion records so I could bring her to the NS. Helps me to have the dog and makes staff/inmates happy. Very surprisingly (how did he know me?) A Director stopped me as I entered and said, Just to let you know your mother asked to speak to the NS Psychiatrist, and they did. Weird. How did he know who I was, and what about professional/client privacy? But this might have bearing on the story that follows.</p>
<p>Found mother emerging from bathroom looking frail and weak. Clearly she cannot live alone. The dog went wild to see her which was nice. She laughed and said, You know, I don’t think I’m going to live very long. Then she asked me how things were going… I told her I was researching "care options"and that new laws were in place to ;protect caregivers,and as we had agreed,we would do everything right and legally. I told her straightforwardly that whatever route we take would be expensive, and she surprised me by saying “Anything done well is going to be expensive.” And I told her about my research into RM, how she would get much more value if she sold the house and moved to AL, and said a RM rep would come to the house for a free consultion. I told her I was looking into AL, but I know she would be very adverse,I mean, downright refuse, to go that route. </p>
<p>She wants to go home and wants the caregivers. She asked me,how long will my money last? Six years? I said nothing, and paused for a long long time. She asked how long? I replied (sorry to admit, I padded my answer to talk about “experts”, I have consulted numerous business people, bankers, accountants,and other professionals,and their estimation is three years. Long silence. Then she asked, and then what? I said, you will be 91, you are frail and have several health issues. You are likely to be even more frail and to have even more health issue… I think you will need full-time nursing assistance. She replied, which means a nursing home. I said , yes. She said, I don’t think I will live for three more years. But yes, I understand. Good thing we had the happy dog to pet and play with.</p>
<p>So the conversation I expected to take place after I saw the lawyer and/or went to the caregiver’s meeting on Wednesday came up today. She initiated it. I am wondering if the psychiatrist who talked to her asked her to discuss her vision of the future etc. And certainly she is feeling bad because she mentioned death twice.</p>
<p>So my anxiety about “confronting her” and the disaster that might ensue is abated. Now I am wondering, what if we get the RM and in six months she needs skilled nursing staff in a NH, or dies? I know the lawyer can explain this on Mon, or the RM rep when we talk on Tues.</p>