<p>LF, you are not being fair to me. The day after we saw the lawyer I made two appointments, Maplewood in Danbrry and The Plaza in Carmel. This industry is hot now and we had to wait weeks for an appt/tour/meal. I had no control over having to wait for the appts. Also I got a kind PM on CC highly recommending The Gardens in Danbury,so I made an appt there too. I’m sorry to the nice woman who recommended it,but this is the place where we would have to fill the pill boxes ourselves. For that and several other reasons we ruled it out. (So you were wrong to say we were contemplating a place where I would do meds.) The Plaza pushed our 8/22 appt to 8/29. We saw Maplewood on 6//18 first said the nursing assessment was 'a breeze but waslater embarassed to admit that the nurse who does the assessments was on vacation. I am waiting for a call or email back from her to have the assement done this week, critically, asap. The Plaza cannot do it until the 5th. We CANNOT–they will not LET US secure a room-until after the nursing assessment was done.</p>
<p>IfI had any idea a nursing assessment was part of the picture I would have pleaded to have it done on the day of the tour after comparing the two and fulfilled all requirements,we would have struck a deal. </p>
<p>LF wrote: “YoShe promised to decide by Sunday and you rewarded her for that.” This is not true because neither place has done the nursing assessment,vital to being accepted,which I thought could be done by 8/30.Donna at Maplewood made it sound like a 5 minute breeze but her nurse went on vacation for 2 weeks! The Plaza pushed us back to 6/5! If both facilities have a room available after the nursing assessments, she can choose. If only one has a room available, she goes there. But I infer WE are first in line at both places becausse I am strving so hard to get that nursing assement done --without it, no other applicantcan “skip over” us.</p>
<p>LF: You point out correctly that we will be paying the caregiver one more pay period thanI would have liked to?</p>
<p>LF: Even writing that makes me wonder why that location is on the table. LF, Danbury is not far. The way you worded that sentence hurts my feelings. Maplewood is exactly across the street from Danbury Hospital. I can always arrange for her to switch MDS. Like with everyone, she is always putting down her MDs and saying they don’t know anything. </p>
<p>LF " Bottom line: you are not ready to leap." LF,as soon as the nursing assessments are done, of course I am ready to leap. As I’ve explained, I could not control the timing of the nursing assessments. </p>
<p>Yes, its confusing because things keep changing over which I have no control. I know I write one thing and it changes the next week. </p>
<p>Allow me my little ramble about walking my dog in the rain. My mind was just wandering. What is APS?</p>
<p>I am glad to acknowledge one dimension in which I am making this more complicated than perhaps need be; I am giving my mother the choice to choose between two places, the place she prefers. I could simply it and say “You are going here. End of discussion.” And what will determine that choice. Simply, the impression she has of where she will be happiest. Not the ratio of aides to patients; not the number of 24hr RNs (Maplewood has them; Plaza has only aides at night). Not even the cost. Am I giving my mother too much power? Control? Let it be.</p>
<p>LF,I like you and I know you personally. Try to overlook my deficiencies, and I thank you deeply for reading my posts.</p>