D24 was crying about it in the car on the way home today, said that everybody was talking about their scores. D24 said, “I must be like the stupidest kid in school!” One especially braggy girl (not in her BFF group) went on and on about how she was mad that she didn’t get a 1550.
D24 said that girl brags all the time and has even claimed that she’s Arabic when in fact the kid is 25% of Arabic descent and looks like a full on white kid. Then D24 said, “Mama, 2 of my best friends are really conservative Muslim, they were born in a Muslim country, they speak Arabic at home all the time, they wear hijabs all the time, and they’re fasting right now for Ramadan…like, DUDE…even BFF #1 gets irritated by her and complains that this girl claims to be soooo Arabic.”
D24 is afraid that she won’t get in anywhere. She also wants to get into an honors college because of the early class registration benefits. I told her, “Ok, so maybe you won’t get into an honors college. But you could get into the honors college after your first semester. Or you could end up at one of the TX LACs we are going to tour next month…at those places, you get a faculty advisor the entire time you’re there and meet with them regularly and THEY help you get into the right classes at the right time. A big public college won’t necessarily have that. And a kid like Miss Braggy Pants will look down on those “lower ranked” LACs because she thinks that she too good for that.”
D24 said that Miss Braggy Pants is 15 and is really immature. I told her that just wait until she gets to college and starts talking like that…college students absolutely will serve you a dish of humble pie if you go in acting like a butthole like that.
Tried to cheer her up a bit by telling her that she really has some amazing emotional intelligence. Told her what the HS counselor said on Monday…that kids like Miss Braggy Pants often have difficulty adjusting in college because they never had to work that hard and they’re big fish in a small pond and then are suddenly at a school where everybody else is as smart or smarter than you…can lead to some mental health problems, depression, anxiety, imposter syndrome.
Also learned today that she’s missing 4 assignments in APUSH. Am not yelling at her about it. Discussed some ways of how she should consider changing her habits now so she develops some work-arounds and “bumpers” (like the bumper lanes at bowling alleys) to keep yourself on track so you don’t slip off course…since when you’re in college, the professor isn’t going to remind you to turn stuff in on time.
Also told her that with the SAT score she has right now, she qualifies for some good scholarships at UNM and NMSU that make it really affordable.
She also shed several tears talking about fears of being alone and not making any friends at college.
So…yeah…rough day today.