<p>Thanks for the welcome, you bunch of naggers, you!</p>
<p>northeastmom, that's the way I've been trying to sell it to my S - "won't you feel so good when you know you have at least one school that will take you?". Oh wait, that came out wrong. "Won't you feel so good when you have that first acceptance under your belt?"</p>
<p>northeastmom--oh yes, after son took the SAT, he said, "Thanks for making me study, mom" (he knew he did well). However, he actually did even better in the ACT, in which I was not involved at all. So who knows if my involvement is a + or minus.</p>
<p>It's kind of funny---some of son's friends have applied to say, one ED school, and are dragging their feet on applying to any others beyond that first choice. Son nags them: "Really, you've got to apply to a lot & apply early." </p>
<p>He may not like what I say, but he does repeat it...</p>
<p>Ha! Tiredofsnow, I've had to re-frame it, also. My unswerving optimism that fueled son's many, many apps ("Try anything!") has declined to pessimism now that we are starting the waiting process (e.g., "hope he gets in to the in-state safety!")</p>
<p>In the begining, before school started D didn't like the constant nagging, and she said that she's not interested in applying until Christmas. Since then, continuing my constant nagging and showing her threads were students were deffered from her top school for certain reasons, etc. she is now concentrating on her college search.</p>
<p>Almost every day we have at least one conversation geared towards college, whether it be asking her if she's done something or telling her I found a safety or signed her up for a campus visit, etc.</p>
<p>The other day, Friday, I got an email from Spirit Airlines with $18 fares to Myrtle Beach. Now Myrtle Beach is in South Carolina and her #2 choice is in North Carolina 4 hours away (but MUCH closer than for us to drive from home). I quick called her and my husband and asked them if they were free 3 days next week. They said yes, so I booked the flights, she even got on the phone quickly with her BFF and I was able to book the friend's flight for $52 round trip too before the fare jumped back up. The next dfay, both of them thanked me and told me how excited they were now to visit the school and that they are both fully engulfed in their college search.</p>
<p>After a nice little temper tantrum, s is only applying to 3 schools. Gonzaga, WSU and U of Idaho. I'll be glad when all is said and done. The drama is starting to get thick.</p>
<p>Those are great rates, Jerseyshoremom. I think we've done our fill of visiting this spring/summer and will see what the apps bring (maybe visit the [hopefully occurring] acceptances).</p>
<p>familyoutdoors--I wouldn't necessarily give up. Sometimes they take a hard-line position in response to parental nagging. When I back off & be nice to son, then we can have a more reasonable convo re: it all.</p>
<p>Since D2 has her acceptance in hand she jokingly said she could start her senior slide! Arrggghhh!!! She knew my reaction wouldn't be good and was already laughing at me as soon as she said it. Guess I shouldn't worrry so much since she did her homework early Sunday morning when all the other girls were still sleeping downstairs during the sleepover after Homecoming at our house. What a good girl! ;) Remind me of this later in the year when the real slide begins!!!!</p>
<p>Hi Familyoutdoors and Tiredofsnow! Welcome!</p>
<p>familyoutdoors...whose tantrum? Yours or his? ;)</p>
<p>I haven't posted in oh-so-long because ... I have absolutely nothing to post. :(</p>
<p>ignatius--oh I feel for you---</p>
<p>Jerseyshoremom---yippee for you! </p>
<p>I'm also wondering if the younger sibs could be hired to do some nagging at my house? DS (a freshman) just doesn't cut it for nagging his sister about college apps. He knows his turn is soon enough, plus he just taunts her with remarks about repainting her room and turning it into something better. I also might use those youngsters to aid in room clean ups, laundry, etc. for both of my teens. This could be a great income source for the parents--but only if it can be taxed at the younger sibs tax rate and in some way would not need to show on parental tax returns--don't want to hurt any FA possibilities :) </p>
<p>DD informed me last week she wants to retake the SAT in Nov. when she has been insistent for months that she wasn't going to retake it. She did spend about 6 hours or so studying on a weekend trip. We visited Vanderbilt over the weekend. She, of course, wants to add it to the list. Not much progress on apps over the weekend since we were gone. We did spend some time discussing "the essay." </p>
<p>I've come to realize we really should have done more visits MUCH sooner! That's probably why I forced DS to sit through the presentation and walk the tour. (I think he played a game on his phone the entire time!)</p>
<p>Well, I am happy to report that S2 has an acceptance from his safety state U. He doesn't want to go there, but as his 14 yo bro said "You're going to college!" It doesn't hurt to have one in the bag, even the one you know is your last choice. He does, however, have to apply to their music school still.....</p>
<p>About his ED choice, however, I am biting, biting, biting my tongue to not nag about the myriad pieces of the puzzle that have to be completed in the next 30 days. I swear he thinks the college counselor is waiting with baited breath for the amazing opportunity to write his school report and send his transcript....</p>
<p>w(h)ine anyone?</p>
<p>Congrats, SJTH! One acceptance is awesome. Hope we get to that point (biting nails). </p>
<p>rrah--I'm impressed that your daughter studied for 6 hours on a weekend trip! (& yours, NM, who studied at a sleepover!). My son never, ever studies in the car or on trips (husband has said--you shold study properly at a desk, at home, nowhere else..I'm more the 'fit it in when you can' type, but he's not followed my advice).</p>
<p>Son's Eng teacher edited his state school essay--now he just needs to make the changes & (please) submit the thing!!</p>
<p>Well D finally got common app done (AP English comp teacher is having them write one essay a week and she used her's to get the common done). Now having to get supplements done for each school but again she's using her weekly comp assignment to get those done. So she has applications in for 2 colleges and files started at several others. FYI Carnegie Mellon won't take the common without having turned in the supplement first and since she still has to write that one, no file started.</p>
<p>We have things going all out of order. Test scores went first, in some cases recommendations are coming second, then the common and finally the supplements. Hope things don't fall apart as a result. School list is currently at 7 with one more visit which will occur on Oct 15 to Miami of OH (the only public on the possible list).</p>
<p>take heart ignatius! Is your (S right?) still looking at Trinity? Will he be applying EA? My girls are taking one more stab at the ACT. Both of them have math scores below the mid range so if they don't get the result they wish for fromthe Oct. ACT then they will pray that the strength of the rest of their application will carry the day :) at TU</p>
<p>Ohh...I love Miami of Ohio! Beautiful campus. We used to live in Ohio many years ago and H went to Bowling Green... seemed like he majored in hockey there. ;) </p>
<p>D2 finished her housing application last night and submitted her dorm request. Supposedly requests are based on first come, first served so she should get the new dorm she requested. I wouldn't let her apply for the on campus apartments since you don't have to have the meal plan and I figured there would be a lot of upperclass students applying for them. I really want her to be with other freshman. She agonized over the roommate questionnaire.</p>
<p>historymom...what are the D's doing to bring up their math score? Tutoring or working on their own?</p>
<p>Welcome tiredofsnow (really?) and familyoutdoors to our little oasis where you are truly understood.</p>
<p>I didn't realize I'd been nagging so much until S said on Sunday that "it's a good thing the car has to cool down before the tune up so I can work on the essay before you moan and sigh." "Moan and Sigh?!" I said "Well, yeah, over all the application stuff" said he. I just had to laugh.</p>
<p>We turned a corner this weekend. We went on our final college visit, ended up liking the school and were able to finalize the list. Having a set list in hand suddenly motivated the kid to actually talk to his teacher about a recommendation and bring home the transcript request forms. He's even gotten through a rough draft of his essay which I thought would never happen. Half the schools on the list are ED/EA, but he's decided to agree with me and get them ALL done before the end of Oct.</p>
<p>Hang in there ignatius! It was your dance with your own DS that inspired me to post on this forum. Things that have worked with mine are campus visits, periodic meltdowns (mine) and constant moaning and sighing :)</p>
<p>Campus visits and moaning and sighing worked well in our house too. A big argument between me and D was applying to Summer session for the more competitive schools. D refused to even THINK of applying for Summer for a long time. Within the last few weeks a few other CCers who applied to Fall with the same stats have been deferred, so I pointed those threads out to D and had her read it with her own eyes. She FINALLY (after months of protesting) she agreed to apply to Summer C for two Florida schools, #1 and #3 on her list. </p>
<p>I think I'm finally getting through to her! :)</p>
<p>North Minn they are "working" on their own (and I use the term loosely). The ACT is not very big around here so there are no classes available locally. </p>
<p>Taking practice tests and evaluating their own results is their method as well as reading the hints in the big red book. They really knew HOW to answer the questions. The problem was pacing the first time out.</p>
<p>Thanks for the welcome, SueD. Yes, I am TiredofSnow. I live in Alaska, and as a transplant from the South who's made it through four winters up here (and with a fifth rapidly approaching), even in summer I am tired of snow!</p>
<p>^^ I feel that way in March, and I'm in MA. I can imagine I'd be tired of snow all year long if I lived in Alaska!</p>