Agree Shaw. Life is too short to hate what you do. I am just so close to retirement that I hate to move on to another company. Max I am 2 years away from being able to not work (I hope anyway).
@RochesterMom, the good thing is that she loves being an NP. So, she will find something new. She called me at the end of the 2nd day and has decided not to take the job and was seeking advice on the conversation with her old employer. She didnāt do a very good job of searching for other jobs after she had this one, so that will be a lesson for her. I have told her I will coach her as she sends out resumes.
Job searches are a learning curve. Good that youāll be able to help her, @shawbridge. Are you guys in California this winter?
RM ā Maybe time to take a good hard look at whether retiring sooner might be worth it?
@oregon101 - grandkids must be such fun. Exciting to hear more are on the way.
D is excited to have her apartment to herself for the next month as both of her apartmentmates are traveling. I think Iām going to make it out to visit one weekend next month. Even if February in New York is blech.
My D is only 26 and she has already had more jobs since her graduation with her masters than I have in the 35 years since I finished law school. I am on my 3rd job and she is on her 4th, the 3rd after leaving her original chosen profession of teaching. I am freaking about it but she seems to really like her current job.
@arabrab, we stayed in the Boston area because of ShawWifeās 2nd knee replacement surgery. She had her PT here and many helpful friends. Plus walking to the end of the dock and especially walking down to the sub-dock at low tide could have been difficult. `
@techmom99, I think experimentation is good. My sense is that when I went to college, lots of kids (especially English and history majors) went to law school sort of by default (not implying you did) and that in our kidsā generation, similar kids are going into teaching by default. Teaching is pretty difficult and often not well-supported by the schools. So, we had dinner with a couple whose D started as a teacher at a charter school and now is a technical writer (I think) at a health care software company. She is treated better and is much happier.
Arabrab - I would LOVE to retire but not in the cards quite yet. Hopefully in the 2 year mark but we really want to do some more updating of our house before we retire. Trying to get it in shape so that the expenses are done with when we retire. As Iām writing this I am sitting at my desk at work. Worked yesterday and today. Not that I have a lot to do - which makes it stupid - itās that I have to be here in the off chance the test team has an issue. Now why they canāt call me if they have an issue is what I find stupid. So here I sit. Yes I can get a few things done with no one to bother me. Yesterday test found nothing so expecting the same todayā¦
We need to get going on some home improvement/remodeling projects, but I do not seem to be very successful at getting folks to come out. I did get my tree guy out to take out two problem trees, but that was after telling him not to worry about the estimate, just to get it on the schedule. (Weāve used him for years and his prices are high but his guys are well trained, theyāre fully insured, and they do great work without leaving any messes.)
We are lucky as my husband does most everything himself. Tomorrow night he is going over to Dās new house and rewire the light switches as who ever did it didnāt do a very good job. We want to redo our kitchen one more time prior to retirement. We did it about 25 years ago but it is time to update again. I think we will buy cabinets but he will put them up. Originally he thought he would just make them and yes they would be gorgeous as he is a woodworker in his spare time but I think it would take to long for him to make everything so I believe the current plan is to purchase them. I need to reconfigure a bit as a want 2 ovens and a 6 burner cook top. Kitchens and bathrooms are always the most expensive to do. Other than that it is painting a couple of rooms and then redoing the carpet in our suite or putting down hardwood in there. I go back and forth on that. Hardwood is just so easy to clean - carpets I never know if everything is out of it when I vacuum but a carpet would be warmer in the cold months. Ugh! We will get there!
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We are in the process of updating. We just did the powder room that has sprung a leak. Now the laundry room. I think if you have hard wood, its good to have it all over.
We need to repaint. and do the floors that the dog damaged. We will replace the carpet with all hardwood. We also need to update the bathrooms.
My husband drags his feet. I think he thinks we will live forever.
Just got back form Las Vegas with a cold and stomach bug. had a great time though. renewed the vows and saw Jeff foxworhy. Stayed a couple nights at my college friends house. It was fun.
DTE I have a tendency to agree. Currently the sewing room and our suite are the only carpeted areas in the house. We have tile in the bathrooms and kitchen and then I have hardwood every place else. Sewing room and suite are off by themselves which makes it a bit easier to say stay with carpet in there - I donāt know though - the hardwood is just easy. Of course it take my H as while to get it all down where is having someone in to do the carpet should be a day job.
Sounds like a great time in Las Vegas, DTE. No comments on floors. We have no carpet as ShawWife is allergic to dust and mold (as was ShawSon).
ShawD formally quit the new job on Thursday (after starting her orientation on Monday). This was a job that no one wanted her to take from the outset. She sent out five resumes over the weekend and she agreed she would be applying to at least five every week. She got immediate call-backs on Monday from two (one internal medicine group in a hospital and one a family practice medical group with all female doctors and NPs. She had to work in her old job Wed-Thurs and so she interviewed on Friday of the same week with the family practice and was offered the job at the end of the interview. She had called me on Thursday to prep for the interview and particularly how to deal with compensation. She followed my coaching and it went well. So, sheās now employed at a place that looks like a good fit.
Hello all! I feel as if Iāve been among the missing lately ā and to some extent I have. H went to CA in early January and brought back a truly nasty cold/cough that he managed to share with me. (So many other things I would have preferred he bring back, including nothing!) I think Iāve finally recovered, or at least Iām about 90%. Iām so thankful he didnāt have/pass on the flu, but I was really down for the count for quite a while.
ANYWAY, Iāve done spent a lot of time communing with my ancestors via online research. This stuff is truly addictive! Iām also ahead on my Book Club reading. When I stop coughing quite so much Iāll head back to the gym.
Congrats to all as appropriate re: grandkids, new jobs, fellowships, etc.
Several people that are great performers at work have recently resigned and going to another local company that is somewhat a competitor. I think what my company needs to understand that they are working us way to hard so why stay? I think most of us donāt mind working hard but they are basically killing us. I havenāt had a day when I havenāt done some number of hours in weeks now and even with working 55-60 hours Iām still behind.
@RochesterMom, if it were me (and I havenāt been employed by anyone else since the early 90s so I may not be acutely tuned to the job market except as an employer), I would have a talk with company number two. Iād start with some of your colleagues who have moved over to find out if it is any better over there. It is always good to have an alternative.
@CBBBlinker, probably better to commune with the ancestors via the internet than via seance.
We are still working on ShawWifeās knee recovery (which is going very well) but I must say that this winter confirms my unhappiness with New England winters. Have learned a bunch of new stuff vis-a-vis tax treatment in various states. Weāre probably not making a major adjustment until we get a sense of whether ShawD ends up on the East Coast (sheās back where she went to school and grew up and has tons of friends and an aunt who sheās close to in addition to us) or on the West Coast (where BF wants to move and she has a brother and likely us part-time). If West Coast, would we go to Sausalito or Vancouver (or, I suppose, the PNW)? We visited San Diego, which was lovely, but probably not enough art/artsiness for ShawWife.
Shaw - job marked for the engineers is good. I moved into management a while ago. Not sure that I"m as in high demand. 
I just wish here they would learn that an engineer isnāt a pawn to move around. That is some of the issue. We just had a follow up survey and the results at least for the project I work on were dismal and Iām not surprised. I am maybe 2 years out from retirement unless the stock market totally tanks. I just at this point donāt want to move. Just doesnāt seem worth it for 2 years. In my line of work it would take me 6 months to a year to get up to speed someplace else due to the embedded type development I typically manage.
I feel kind of stuck and am wondering if retirement would be the best option. Leading toward December. In the mean time I will enjoy my weekends with my husband.
So discouraging that the job market only wants people with āexperienceā. Will keep looking.
I am with Shaw about moving out to the west coast at least during the winter. It gets to a person.
D has been offered a transfer to the London branch of her office! She is working on the visa process. She loved her study abroad experience in London, and is very excited!
Congrats to her cq!!!y How exciting for her! What a wonderful experience.
dteā¦Any news on the job front? I think of you often.
Thatās great c_q!
Hello everyone. The giant transaction that I worked day and night on for ten months closed a few weeks ago. I took a week off work after that and now feel pretty normal. Glad the deal closed before the Olympics.
Momās wedding went very well. Thank the Lord for Baptist Church ladies who came up with tons of great food for the reception. But now sheās had some small strokes and I think she can be mean to her new H.
Older D got engaged in December. Wedding isnāt for over a year. We are going up next weekend to meet the fiancĆ©ās parents. ( I hate to travel up there in winter.). The wedding planning will be difficult- Hindu and Christian ceremonies on the same day, and the Mom is quite assertive regardless her preferences.
Son is teaching at an economically disadvantaged high school. He tries hard but quite a few of the kids donāt care and donāt care about the consequences.