I laugh to myself when male colleagues will not understand that women still suffer discrimination, they are the same guys who benefit form the system and don’t get how they do. Many people say that women have an even deal.
I don’t see that there is an even deal or even close, particularly if you look at the lack of support we have in the US for maternity and child care – and the likelihood that the primary parent will be the mother. But, well before that, I think there are studies that show that a resume with a male-sounding or ambiguous names are more likely to get interviews than the same resume with an obviously female name.
Spoke with a former boss on Fri. He reached out to me about some openings that he has coming up. Sounds like it may be ideal except less money. Not sure I really want to go there. Will have to see. Different company and he has indicated much less need to work 24x7.
RM, big decision. If only you could be sure that the work load would be a LOT less.
I am beginning to realize that I really miss working with women my age. I had that support at my law firm but there aren’t really any other “older” women in higher level positions.
My boss is a Michigan alum, so another atty and I went to his office this morning to talk over last night’s championship game. Anyone with eyes would have noticed that he talked to/looked at the other person - male - exclusively. I’m not an idiot when it comes to basketball, so I was holding my own in the discussion. That’s an age old issue, but my point is that I don’t have another woman here at work with whom to commiserate.
MP - I get it. I have one here that we actually worked together at the other company I mentioned that the guy reached out to me. He actually worked where I am now and went to the other company. Agree with you that I would want to really know that it was a LOT less work to take a LOT less money. 
Today is my last day prior to a well needed vacation. Maybe I will come back with a better attitude. I did cut back my hours the last couple of weeks and that has helped a bit. I think I just get TOO tired and then it’s all over.
On a college-related topic (for once), Nathan Chen was accepted to Yale. Thinking of all the “chance me” threads…
RM you go at a speed I could never match on a good day.
I have been trying to work on crucial conversations. I usually find out the people I need to have them with, are not people who are reasonable to talk to. so I end up , not doing it. I think I am just biding my time to retire, but I have very few people at work I trust to discuss this with. is it worth having a conversation with someone you find to be rather unstable. How do you all handle clients like this. I am an introvert and as I have aged, I have become more so. Controversy causes me a great deal of anxiety. which I am experiencing right now. I am so tired of the politics. I do feel however, that I have sucked it up for so long that I am having physical symptoms and I don’t like it. I think if I felt more empowered or respected this wouldn’t be so difficult. I am also 'a say it like it is" person and I do see the BS. I am just not saavy in the correct words to use , so I tend to say NOTHING. I know in all of your respective professions, you need to do this, do you just walk away having addressed the situation, and deal with the person and their friends who will no longer speak to you. AWKWARD. (I don’t address things in a blunt way). I plan ahead .
MP I do think that people my age, get it. We have progressed in a way they have not had time to do yet. So we need our “tribe” sometimes. The trials of working with all generations
Well bosses boss (my old boss here) came to me today right before I’m going on vacation and said that maybe this isn’t the place for me and that I can work for my older boss here - the one that yelled a lot. Oh yeah sign me up. We’ll see what happens. Not being laid off but really may be better than the mess that I’m currently dealing with.
RM, so sorry…but it sounds as if the Universe is telling you to sift through your job options sooner rather than later. While it stings whenever someone says what your boss’s boss just said, perhaps things will become clear to you on vacation.
I am thinking of seeking some talk therapy. My self esteem and psyche are too bound up in my job.
Hi, everyone. Been reading along. My travel schedule has been pretty busy lately. I am working from home this upcoming week, which will be a nice break.
Got to see my D during a long layover in London. She was in meetings with her company’s office there. She’s committed to the transfer, but had hoped for a pay raise and/or title upgrade, which she didn’t receive. I guess salaries for her company are lower in London than in Chicago, but it costs more to live in London. She said she’ll probably need to live with roommates instead of on her own. But she thinks the experience will be invaluable, and she really wants to live in London, so it’s worth it to her. She anticipates moving in May (waiting for visa).
All in all the move for me is probably okay but am exploring options in another company. H says since I don’t have much longer I should just stay. Stings a bit what was said but isn’t incorrect. I do not like the chaos and well really I don’t think it has to be like that. Just the way the two of them operate and not the way I do. They like to react. I like to plan and then occasionally change when the plan doesn’t work out. We will see how things go once I get back. Old boss at New company can’t make things move that quickly so I’m at great there for a bit. Not expecting a great review.
I am thinking hard about what MP said about" My self esteem and psyche are too bound up in my job." I read something similar a day later. I realize that this has been an issue at my job where politics and unpredictability prevail. Why do I let this nonsense have such a great deal of influence? I plan to focus on the parts I can control for now and my personal life.
We have booked a trip to Europe for next fall. THAT should be fun.
Sometimes folks just aren’t “work compatible.” There is a woman here whose boss really wants her to move somewhere else in the company; I hope that his complaints about her don’t “taint” her. Truth is, the boss, while being a nice guy, is the very definition of “micro-manager.” I am very detail oriented, but when he was in a position where the two of us interacted a lot, he drove me crazy!
Great plan and I hope I can learn to do that as well.
Good morning, all. Just a quick hi and proof-of-life 
Sending everyone the good work mojo…not that I have a ton to spare! In my case, the boss that’s driving me crazy is me…Hi ho.
Some day I need to learn how not to let disorganized and demanding clients turn my skedder sideways every given week…but then again, same equals billables so what do you do. We did “fire” one of those types of clients recently, but there seems to be no shortage of replacements
Good morning, all. Last evening I worked on youngest child’s college graduation weekend. Amazing that I discovered CC during the oldest child’s junior year of HS, and now the youngest is about to graduate from college.
In a moment of sanity, I made our hotel reservations in early November…the school is in a smallish city, and I knew hotels would book up. I neglected the dinner reservations, however and of course, her celebration dinner destination of choice was fully booked for the entire weekend. But I did something that us old-fashioned folks do - I got on the phone and now we have brunch reservations. Turns out the web site only shows dinner openings. I also made dinner reservations at a place that seems very nice but (a) isn’t on Open Table, and (b) doesn’t have a link for reservations on its web site. Yes, again, I picked up the phone.
Way to go, @missypie!
@kmcmom13 - glad you’re alive and well!
D just texted me - she is moving to London April 28! That’s in two and a half weeks!
How exciting, cq!
Before Son was born, I had this idea that it would be cool to live in London for a few years. Then, we went to England while 2 months pregnant with Son; I was sick (24/7 “morning sickness”) and the English food made it worse. That cured me of the idea of living in London. Funny to think of a possibly awesome life experience being thwarted by nausea.
I’m in London now. Global warming has been good for London weather — many more sunny daysd — but this week is more like London of old. It is very expensive here — probably less expensive than the Bay Area but otherwise quite expensive.
MP, you might be interested to know thethat two female lawyers with whom I worked years ago are now General Counsels of two of Britain’s largest companies.
ShawD has moved into a condo that we just renovated (not the one she used to live in). She and BF seem like a very serious item and very happy together. Nice to see.
@shawbridge - she in a really nice studio apartment in Chicago in a good neighborhood with a 10 minute commute to work, and in London she’ll likely have a much longer commute and will need to be sharing an apartment. She’s aware her standard of living will go down, but doesn’t want to pass up this opportunity. She thinks the professional benefits and the experience of living in London are worth it.
Your D’s condo sounds nice! Glad she’s happy.