<p>woody: D did a coed sleep over last year and will probably do something this year as well. Details are still being worked out. Just make sure that the parents who are hosting are well prepared. We know that last year there was nothing going on. Kids new the mother from school - she works at the school. This year we may be hosting. Not problems there either as they know us and know that we won’t put up with anything.</p>
<p>D did a coed sleepover way back when. S1 has guy and girl friends coming here for sleepover this year - separate rooms for girls and guys. We’re ■■■■■■.</p>
<p>Funny thing about coed sleepovers. I never thought I would be agreeable to a coed sleepover situation. Then I actually thought about it and realized this goes on in my house pretty much all the time.</p>
<p>My D is 18 (senior), S1 is almost 17 (junior), S2 is 17 (also a junior) and not a blood relation. They have MANY of the same friends, and several weekends each month, I have 4-5 additional kids spending the night. Sometimes my D will have a friend or 2, and both boys usually have 3-4 other boys over, so essentially, I guess we are having coed sleepovers. They are all friends afterall.</p>
<p>I have never had a situation where a “dating couple” stayed over. I’ve always discouraged that situation. </p>
<p>Hmmm, I guess I’m more liberal than I thought :)</p>
<p>Going with my H, Class of 2010 Son, Class of 2009 Daughter, my parents & D#1 to see Daughter #2 graduate from St. Lawrence on Sunday. </p>
<p>No internet or TV at this rental house-they will have to make their own entertainment.
H has a Blackberry though!</p>
<p>Happy travels, SLUMOM, and congratulations to your college graduate D! </p>
<p>ksabbo, right - that’s what made us stop looking at it as COED SLEEPOVER, and realize that it wasn’t that different from regular weekend situations. I do still feel grateful that our “rec room” (such as it is) is on the third floor, with D’s bedroom. When there are extra kids staying here, the girls sleep in D’s room (she has a bed + futon + floor space) and the guys stay in the outer/rec room (foldout couch + floor space + giant beanbag things). Our house is very old and very creaky, and H’s & my bedroom is right underneath D’s. The kids know that we can hear people moving from place to place - and NOT MOVING from place to place - and that’s fine with everybody.</p>
<p>Happy day! We got D’s (she’s a college junior) financial aid award for next year, and we’ll be able to afford two tuitions (with mortgage refinancing, finding cheaper auto insurance, etc). Carleton gets an A from me for financial aid!</p>
<p>S is on autopilot for the remainder of the school year. One of his teachers told her class yesterday they could either study for AP exam, read, or sleep. Guess which option he chose? Monday is the unofficial skip day. S will be at school because Calc teacher is giving a 3-question major test that day (1. Is today a school day? 2. Are students supposed to be here on school days? 3. Are you here?).</p>
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<p>Wish the Stats teacher would do that. He could use a gift test grade!</p>
<p>love that gift grade…that’s a teacher who “gets” kids and senioritis.</p>
<p>just got off phone w gc who was irritated by my coming in on the last day of school to inform the school about a young man sending my d suicidal text msgs. I wanted her to hear directly from me how that felt, and how her attitude could have heightened risk had I not gone to the principal. (I was pretty assertive, although I ended up crying, realizing now how tense I was with that whole experience)</p>
<p>lindz, good for you. I would be shaken up, too; this was your D this young mane was communicating with, and the what-ifs are scary as %$#@. What the GC have to say for herself?</p>
<p>lindz, glad you got it off your chest. I hope it made the gc stop and think. So sad that school officials would have to concern themselves with student life/death situations, but now that we all know what can happen when a kid goes off at school, it’s wildly imprudent to brush it off when a potential threat appears.</p>
<p>At least in this case that GC is clearly an example of the Peter Principle. You were right in confronting her and I am sorry you cried. I do too when I get angry. You were exactly right in doing as you did the last day of school. If you hadn’t and ,God forbid, something had happened what would the GC have had to say about your non-reporting the incident? </p>
<p>Would she have been “Irritated?” </p>
<p>“IRRITATED!!” Sheesh as if her irritation has any bearing on anything of importance.</p>
<p>Slumom–congratulations: what an amazing thing to see a college graduation! Have a wonderful time!</p>
<p>and regarding Lindz–Hmom said exactly what I would have–gee, it would have been a real shame to “put her out.” SOME people!!! Maybe she’ll become an ex-GC soon…</p>
<p>The WPI swag came in yesterday and I let S open it - supposed to be a graduation gift, but when he found out it wasn’t a computer for graduation he wanted to open it now. He went to school today in full regalia - the physics T-shirt spells put WPI in formulas instead of the letters - ultimate geek speak, and his new zip up hooded sweatshirt (which is maroon but he says is too purple - but he wore it anyway)
He is really getting excited about going to College stating “there is going to be SO much cool stuff to do, I will never be bored”
I am hoping to use this excitement to fuel the fire to get his English writing assignments done.</p>
<p>Lindz how disappointing that your school’s GC can’t look past her own nose. Do you have additional kids in that school. I know I had a run in withour GC early on and thus received little support form her throughout the HS career. She lightened up at the end, because my being involved actually ended up making her job easier (which was my intention) but she was clearly miffed at me from an early date for being onoe of “those” parents who actually get involved in their child’s education.</p>
<p>Lindz–I seriously think you could report her to the state licensing board. Most likely nothing would happen except that they would look into and she would realize that this was a BIG deal. She had enormous liability when you shared the texts with her. In fact, depending on what they said, she could have broken confidentiality and called the police. Good for you for talking with her. Is the young man OK and is anyone intervening?
All of you whose D and S are close to graduation, I am jealous. S’s is not until June 6th and it seems like it is forever away. He is embracing the idea of college and it has gone a long way in my sense of peace with where he is going (one hour from home) a I do wonder everytime someone talks about airfare and travel and such.
Now tomorrow I am sneaking down to the state track tournament to watch him do his triple jump through binoculars. He is being so independent lately but in a good way. His b’day is the 20th and he turns 19 so I do think that extra year has finally paid off!</p>
<p>oh theorymom—creative shirt–its powerful when your kid dons their college apparel and starts to take on a college kid persona. good for him</p>
<p>I’ll give the gc credit she did actually listen “this time”. she apologized, still remarked about how stressful the last day of school is for gc’s. I took the opportunity to say, "its also stressful for the students, and the parents as well as the teachers and the gc’s. I reminded her that I took a half day off from work to come in to talk w administration and that my daughter spent half of her last day of high school in the principal’s office w police and security, talking guns and suicide…um yeah, that would qualify as stressful. </p>
<p>she got it at that point…and she was also crying a bit as we ended the call.</p>
<p>p.s. I talked w the principal at award banquet–the young man is doing better, “his mom is on it” were his words…and the young man also told my d he is seeing a therapist. I was glad to hear this…and hope for the best for him (have been a tiny bit anxious about him at graduation tomorrow since my d’s boyfriend is here from Philly to attend. hope all stays calm)</p>
<p>lindz, good for you - you’ve handled this so capably and so well at every turn. Sending good wishes to you and your D for a happy, unclouded graduation!</p>
<h1>theorymom, excellent shirt, and nice to hear that he’s so enthusiastic about the next stage!</h1>
<p>My 21-year old is presumably leaving for Brazil on June 27th (he says he has bought his ticket anyway), but he leaves so much to the last minute it drives me crazy. He hasn’t applied for the visa yet because he hasn’t gotten his acceptance into the Rio University yet because they were waiting on a transcript. I only know this because he called today asking how to pdf his transcript since they want it in pdf form. I went into don’t ask, don’t tell mode with him a long time ago because his methods are not my methods. There are two girls going in the same program who are reportedly in the same boat regarding acceptance and visa, so that makes me feel a little better. The college advisor is now involved to expedite matters. </p>
<p>I figure the worst that can happen is he goes late and misses some of the planned language immerision classes but would still make it for the fall semester of engineering classes. He made an A in his intensive second year Portuguese class this spring and feels confident in his language skills. As an aside, he mentioned that his housing fell through–which is a whole other story and not the university’s fault at all. He thinks this is no big deal. His plan is to stay in a hostel until he can find a place to rent after he arrives. Watching him prepare for a trip is like watching a plane crash, except he usually manages to avoid the ground at the last possible second.</p>
<p>TheAnalyst: Oh how I empathize with you, and how wise you are with the don’t ask policy. I try VERY hard to let my D1 do his own thing…sometimes with dismal results, but more recently, he pulls things off just fine. I know it does no good for me to step in and try to help him avoid disaster, because he will simply do what I tell him and not learn a thing. I bite my nails, only to find out he’s doing ok.</p>
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Ha… my son’s graduation is June 6th, and it seems like it’s tomorrow! :eek:
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Good on you! I would do the same for mine… and he would secretly expect me to, or at least hope I would. 
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<p>lindz – Hats off to you for handling such a tough situation, and the aftermath, so well. Sounds like maybe you got through to someone who needed a reminder of what matters.</p>
<p>TheAnalyst – Your son sounds like a cool customer! I hope this one works out as he thinks it will. From his track record, sounds like it will.</p>
<p>Analyst’s post about the departing son made me grin. They can be so nonchalant about things we find hair-raising. And then, drat, sometimes it DOES “all work out” Well, life has enough object lessons that come out our way I guess. I bet he will have a great year in Rio and yes, they somehow work out the housing things, etc. Just better if we don’t know the details often…</p>