<p>lindz–happy Grad day for you and your D. I think you did a great job with the GC and glad you have moved on. I, however, am fuming still 
(guess I don’t have enough problems of my own :rolleyes:)
Both my D and S have had a friend tell them in confidence that they were thinking of suicide. I called D’s friend’s parents immediately as I knew they were both social workers. I talked to S’s friend and evaluated (my field) and then called the principal and the parents. It is scary and can so easily turn bad. OK, I am deep breathing. And you did a super job and so did your D. I hope it goes smoothly tomorrow for your D and for this young man. Give her a hug from CC and tell her that she cannot make tomorrow OK for him but she can focus on her own joy…and smile for the camera!
TheAnalyst–wow, now I am deep breathing for you but sure sounds like he will pull it off. Sorta envy that “stlye” which is not mine or yours!
Thanks geek_mom–I do not think he really cares but I have decided that he just might not know that he does…oh geez…sure sounds like helocoptering!</p>
<p>OMG I am lucky if I hear of anything a single MOMENT before the last moment - no exaggeration.</p>
<p>Ah well, the stuff that makes fun memories right? (please say yes)</p>
<p>Guys, seriously, this group (YOU) have been such a Godsend. I swear, I feel alone enough. It is so wonderful to have the support of folks who really get it.</p>
<p>Great to not feel <em>alone</em></p>
<p>OR101
How stressful for your kids to have friends who are thinking of suicide. Deep breaths is right. Teenhood is SO hard. I really feel for all of our kids who are “dealing with it”
Maybe hovering as we do is not such a bad thing. eh?</p>
<h1>theorymom, that is exactly how I feel. This group is such a wonderful place to be able to get support for whatever is going on with the kids and life in general. I was thinking about the puppies today. I’m working so much now, I don’t get on as much but it’s the first thing I do when I get a break and I feel like I am just coming home to friends.</h1>
<p>yep–TA an #t–same here</p>
<p>I completely agree, I feel comforted by the nightly ritual of reading about all of your kids, and knowing you will read about mine—who else knows the week by week, day by day goings on, and understands all of it. </p>
<p>theory, history, Ta, Oregon, et al = thank you…thank you very much
(oregon–I’m also in the field, not sure if thats a good thing sometimes)</p>
<p>Ta–your son has a cool confidence that is probably more valuable in the long run, than being organized…must be hard to sit by and hope it all works out…</p>
<p>Sending all positive thoughts and big {{{hugs}}}</p>
<p>lindz…your kindness and compassion for others is inspirational!
Wishing the best for everyone as graduation crawls closer!!!</p>
<p>Back to the sleepover after prom thing, if you don’t mind… I never thought I’d be going along with this, but I’m going to let my D take part! She goes to an all girls’ school and will be taking a friend from the boys’ school to her Senior Ball. They have all made different arrangements for pre-prom but will gather at one girl’s home for pics (the parent’s can show up to take the requisite shots and another mom will load overnight bags into her car and take them home), and then, after the dance will be heading out to meet up at another girl’s house. Both parents will be there, as well as another mom, the pool and hot tub will be open, and the kids will gather for the night, watch movies and then de-camp to opposite ends of the (very large) house to sleep. I am not thrilled about it, but I do trust my D and know all of the other kids, and parents, well, so, am going to bite my toungue and wish them well. Can we all compare notes later?
BTW, this will be on the evening of 5/22 as the girls don’t graduate until 6/24.</p>
<p>I’m feeling the love here too, parental units!!! xxxooo</p>
<p>mezzo’–I would be OK unless my D or S had a serious “other” (as in my S’s case which is why we hosted the party that ended at 3 and yes, of course, they make their own decisions but just not on our time). Sounds like you have a group of parents who you trust.</p>
<p>One of geek<em>son’s junior friends hosted an after-prom overnighter. His family can always be counted on for good, clean fun. Staunch Christian family, the kind that will probably send all five sons into the ministry, and lots of experience handling parties and co-ed sleepovers. So no worries there, but geek</em>son and frosh_date didn’t go all the same.</p>
<p>From what I hear, there was an interesting rule: No sleeping allowed until 8am the following morning. By that time, I suppose that even if someone had been interested in a little extracurricular activity, (s)he would have had a very tough time finding anyone who wasn’t too tired to join in!</p>
<p>Sigh… I miss my kid. He’s been away since last weekend on a senior trip. I know their days are totally packed and I know he’s having a blast. He’s texted me at some point every day… until today. All day long, I jumped every time my cell phone went bzzt!
I’m so pathetic. :rolleyes:</p>
<p>You know he loves you geek_mom–and will no doubt tell you all about it soon–unlike mine who will say “fine” to any question.</p>
<p>So far we’ve got dinner plans (eat at friend’s house), but nothing decided for afterprom. Still not clear if S is picking up his date. All this indecision is making me nuts!</p>
<p>geek_mom, you’re not pathetic Just lots of love going on there.</p>
<p>I get moments of sadness from time to time, just knowing D will be away soon.</p>
<p>Mezzo: I agree with oregon101, it sounds pretty well supervised and harmless. Also, in only a matter of 90 days or so they will be off on their own. This sounds like a safe way to ease them into close coed situations.</p>
<p>I dont want to be One Up Girl, but I may have the most checked out senior. Son is very ADD and takes large doses of Concerta. Only yesterday, for the AP Econ exam, he didn’t. Nothing says “I don’t care” like not taking your ADD drugs the day of an AP exam.</p>
<p>Hosting the after prom party tonight. I offered to make it a sleepover, but too many kids have places to be on Saturday morning. NOw I think it’s just until 2 am. I’ve got a LOT to get done between now and midnight!</p>
<p>Mezzomom, the set-up for the co-ed sleepover sounds very secure for your D. I wouldn’t have a problem with that.</p>
<p>In our son’s case this year, he dropped his date at home after the school after-prom event (which lasts until 5:00 am but our son says he left it at 3:00 am this year) and then went to an after-after prom house. Since his date was only 16, I was glad he took her home prior to the final stop as it was probably not as well chaperoned or controlled as what your D is planning. Nevertheless, he got home at 10:00 am, went to work at 11:00 am, and remained cheerful for the remainder of Mother’s Day, cooking me dinner that night. </p>
<p>We pretty much let him make his own choices at this point, no longer pre-vetting where he goes or what he does. If we need him, we can call him on his cell. Around his junior year in high school, we shifted our emphasis to making sure he (1) understands consequences (if he gets arrested for underage drinking, xyz will happen) and (2) he understands responsibilities (work, school, family) must never be negatively affected by his decisions, or his freedoms will be curtailed. </p>
<p>I might parent a girl differently, as sexist as that sounds, but your described event sounds fine to me.</p>
<p>fireflyscout, a lot of indecision here, too. No dinner plans set (though after-prom is finally nailed down).</p>
<p>ksabbo, I sure know what you mean about those moments of sadness.</p>
<p>missypie, best of luck to you tonight. And I think you DO win most checked-out senior!</p>
<p>Mine’s taking his last AP this afternoon. S2 (the 7yo) wanted to know why S1 wasn’t awake yet. “He has one of those really big tests,” I said, “and he doesn’t need to be at school until later.” Shocked silence, followed by, “But why is he in BED, when he has extra time to PLAY?” Teenagers have been a part of this child’s life since the day he was born, but the sleep thing still baffles him.</p>
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<p>Missypie, if he is like our older son he probably just forgot. However, be prepared for that to happen in college as well. Our older son is very ADD but has decided he doesn’t like the way the meds make him feel, so he would rather get a worse grade or spend five hours on a task that should take him 1 hour than take the meds. I guess being focused is just not his thing. Him not on medicine reminds me of somebody stoned on marajuana. Life is just mellow, so I guess I can’t blame him, but boy do I prefer that other focused, organized, brilliant kid from the days when he would take his meds.</p>