<p>sigh…quiet, slow-to-warm D2 talked about how she doesn’t want to talk about leaving for college. Said she doesn’t want HS to end. I KNEW this would happen! She hates new beginnings, new anything! Same old drill…this summer will not be fun but she will go in July and after one week will be deliriously happy but the anticipation will kill us over the summer. Do people wired like this EVER grow out of this???</p>
<p>northminn–my freshman s gets anxious w transitions too, always has. so when he decided to go to school 16 hrs away we decided to take a roadtrip last summer to vacation near his college, a month before classes started. We stayed in a cabin, found local stream to “chillax” at, got him set up with a bank account, took in the drive in theater, the restaurants, he felt so at home by the time we were leaving that he couldn’t wait to go off to school. when he started he had a couple of “memories of our trip there” to ground him…</p>
<p>Thanks lindz! This has been her MO since she was born. I am used to it but it does drag me down! She is a very intelligent, beautiful and gifted young lady but hates to be away from home. Not that she wants H or I in her life all the time 
but still! She will only be 4 1/2 -5 hours away and will know about 6 other players! H is out of town with D1 this weekend as she moves OOS for her internship so this threw me for a loop while he was gone. I hate stuff like this!</p>
<p>OT–my posts reads 592 for the last few weeks or maybe more—what is this about? Why is it not counting and what can I do to get my true post number??</p>
<p>i don’t think CC counts posts posted in the parents forum and high school forum and other side forums.</p>
<p>It doesn’t count posts in the Cafe’s, but does count them out here in Parents. OR101, your post count did just go up to 593. Peculiar. Mine’s been going up in real time, as much as I’ve noticed.</p>
<p>By the way – excellent sneaking around on your son’s track meet! The way you spent your day sounds just wonderful. :)</p>
<p>I just checked and on 4-28-09 on the Willamette U thread it was 593…how do I ask the moderaters or ?
And thanks geek_mom, my D thinks I was “creepy” but I am OK with that!!</p>
<p>my posts were the same number all day too. I have noticed this before</p>
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I just checked and on 4-28-09 on the Willamette U thread it was 593
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Oh… okay, I think I understand your confusion. A feature of CC’s forum software is that each poster’s current information is included in the little box under the name.</p>
<p>See, this is my 856th post. After I post it, every post I’ve ever made on CC (except in a Cafe thread) will show my post count as 856. Until I make another post, and then they will all show it as 857.</p>
<p>Similarly, when I change my Location (which currently says something about a grad party and w00t!), it will be changed on all my posts.</p>
<p>Give it a try, OR101. Check your post count here, then go post in another thread somewhere and come back to look at this thread again. You will see that your post count is higher in your old messages. Or just go look again at the Willamette U thread you mentioned, and you’ll see that it now says you have 594 posts, not 593 (because when you made this last post which I’ve quoted above, your post count went up to 594).</p>
<p>That’s a feature, not a malfunction. Because the post count is intended to reflect the total number of posts you’ve made, not which particular post of yours we’re looking at.</p>
<p>Hi everyone-</p>
<p>I can’t help worrying about my D as she heads off to college this fall. She is exactly the opposite of what I’ve read in the last few posts- she can’t wait to leave- it’s gonna be the best time- she’ll get good grades and not miss her family 1 bit! Of course I know better (I think). It’ll be great for the first 2 weeks and then the reality of hard work and being away from family will hit her right between the eyes. My son (who is much more self assured socially) had difficulty adjusting after the initial fun wore off. My D is not as confident as she appears. I keep trying to prepare her for feeling homesick. Maybe I shouldn’t say anything? I’m really worried. How are the rest of you preparing your kids to deal with this transition? BTW- she will be 6 hours from home- so a quick ride out to see her is not an option.</p>
<p>You will be one of the fortunate ones if your child communicates her fears and worries with you. This will give you the opportunity to know what is going on and be able to help while the rest of us go cold turkey and can hover no more ;-)</p>
<p>The only thing that I think will keep my son from being a success at college is managing his time, especially when the going gets rough. So I am trying to drill into him that he will need to seek help. I know he will not call me for it, and I fear he’ll not ask for help there either.</p>
<p>I guess I would see if you could get your daughter to call a certain day every week so she can have the chance to talk it out with you if she wants. And you can be encouraging.</p>
<h1>theory: I’m so sorry for the angst you and your son are going through. Surely it must feel like a bad dream that you can’t seem to wake from. Kudos to you though, for posting about the situation and getting the support you need.</h1>
<p>oregon101: Way to go! I would have done the same thing as you did. I LOVE the screen saver idea!!</p>
<p>Wow, I can’t believe that some of us are already done with graduation! I’m not ready!</p>
<p>Prom was last night. Son and date looked great. Limo went to the wrong address - almost an hour away! - so the pictures were taken in the HS parking lot instead of at the botanical gardens. Oh well.</p>
<p>I worked for hours getting house and food ready. There were four couples and they left by 2:15. This was not a hard partying group, but I think they had fun…lots of kids aren’t looking for a blowout experience - they just want somewhere to go a chat for a few hours instead of going straight home.</p>
<p>Son was as bit nervous as he has never hosted a party (doesn’t count childhood birthday parties that we hosted). I know that sounds pathetic, but as he has Asperger’s, parties are frought (sp?) with danger - what if no one comes? It was cool that he was the one hosting some of the choir kids senior year. Guitar Hero, Wii, food, all good.</p>
<p>The kids loved the chicken wrapped in bacon and dipped in chili powder and brown sugar. Next time I’ll make the cubes smaller - all we had was super thick bacon, so I needed to make the cubes thick so the chicken wouldn’t get cooked way before the bacon. I also made the little smokies wrapped in crescent rolls - they devoured those. They didn’t love the greek spinach pies that’s okay because I do. They didn’t eat many sweets (I’m fine with having most of a homemade lemon cake with lemon cream cheese icing left over.) As much as Husband said I was going to too much trouble, they really did like the homemade hot food more than the chips.</p>
<h1>theorymom, have you found out about just completing the work in the early part of the summer?</h1>
<p>oh wow geek_mom thanks! I finally get it and, yes, the count went up. Guess it seems that I am posting so frequently that I thought it should be way higher by now.
Hey missypie it sounds like a great party and super that your son step out of his comfort level and hosted.
hayze–maybe just telling her that “I know you will be just fine in the end. Sometimes kids do get homesick and have a hard time but it usually only last for a few months and then they are OK. If this DOES happen to you it will be OK. That might be a good time to come home for a weekend (bus or train?) or we can plan something. But guess we won’t know until then.” …kinda thing. If you get her to really consider this now she might become frightened but if you are just reassuring that it can happen to anyone and that kids get over it then maybe she will feel you are on the same team–the team that says IF this happens I will be there for you. </p>
<h1>theorymom–waiting here too with crossed fingers and hope your S gets busy.</h1>
<p>Thanks all for the support with the track–I am glad I went and I wonder if S will even mention the screensaver. It is actually quite a nice one.</p>
<p>Shawbridge, I have been told he must be "on track by June 1st if he wants to walk with his class. Otherwise he needs to pass everything by school end and by the time grades come out. His main school ends the 5th - everything will need to be in by the 4th - but he needs to be better than passing his English and History (required for graduation) by the 1st to “walk”.
His online school ends the 19th so he can complete his English and Spanish those last 2 weeks and he can cram the Spanish - he did that at Christmas vacation for first term. And if he is passing English he will probably be able to get the last bit done then and get a grade better than a D.
All the time he will spend on the history projects will take away the time he needed to do the English to get to the proper point. We’ll see. I have a little hope but each day it is shaved away more.
I was told they won’t give him an incomplete from the online school. I haven’t asked about History, since if he fails English, it really doesn’t matter. It is do or die time</p>
<p>On a different note–Some of your are thinking about what to buy for your kids college room. When we took D out to Boston they did not have the BBB plan. We drove to at least 5 stores looking for a fan. They were sold out except for two little ones that clipped on a shelf. Her roomate and her mom ( I did talk to her once back then–not sure that is ok anymore) did not think it was necessary to have one. Turned out the roommate had them running 24/7.
So my point is just that that is one thing worth buying soon. I picked one up at Cosco for S–it is going to turn hot this weekend and I was afraid they would run out. I had read somewhere that tower ones vs tabletop are nicer as part of a desk or dresser does not have to be sacraficed. I LOVE the Cosco tower one ( we use one to cut down on the airconditioning temp). Anyway! have a good day.</p>
<h1>theorymom–just want to share an idea that you have probably had but here it is–is there anyone such as a young adult friend of your S’s who could mentor him/his work through this? Your S would have more pride and maybe push harder if someone he respected (other than you) could get involved. Course you might have to pay them but if you can it could be worth it. I know that when my S was lagging in Algebra I hired a man to tutor him (not quite the same) and suddenly he had some pride and put some effort into it. Paid off big time. Just a thought. I know I am the ONE person who has to step away when S needs to push. You could even call a local tutoring program and expain what you need --not tutoring but someone to track the work and sit with him while he is working and organizing and someone he has to report to. Again, just a thought and my heart goes out to your and your family. You know we are all hoping for your S to finish up his work and graduate.</h1>
<h1>tm - so sorry this is still dragging on. you have gotten some good advice here, and definitely lots of ears and shoulders. i’ve been wondering how your S is feeling - is he panicky? does he think he can get it all done? i second (third?) the idea of finding someone other than you to mentor him. maybe the GC can recommend someone? or maybe you know someone who knows someone who is a teacher in another school?</h1>
<h1>theorymom–I feel your pain. Not exactly the same sitch, but some similarities. Obviously the work has to be his, but is it permissible to sit w/him and review what he has to do, make out a chart for daily goals to get the Eng & Hist done?</h1>
<p>oregon–how big is the tower fan, if you don’t mind my asking?</p>
<p>On the sentimental tip … heard this song & it felt really resonant for those of us saying goodbye to our little guys/girls, soon. Not sure if I’m allowed to post (it’s very proper!) but here it is:</p>
<p>[YouTube</a> - Evermore](<a href=“http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xGDynr8mcFs]YouTube”>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xGDynr8mcFs)</p>