<p>I hate coming off negative, this is generally such an upbeat forum and I sure would rather be the opposite. The reason I am panicked is because I have tried ALL these suggestions. I have been up until 3 the past 2 nights trying to work out a schedule that will assure he gets it all done in time. We have sat down and talked about it and screamed about it and walked off disgusted about it and everything in between. I have written notes for him to use for ideas for his thesis papers. Done research for his history paper and sent him notes, hounded him whenever I see him NOT working. (and that does not work)</p>
<p>Because we live in a tiny tiny town there are no tutoring centers anywhere near. The closest one closed and it was 25 miles away. We used it for a while a few years ago. Any other “help” would be a good 2-3 hours away. I have been searching for a private tutor/mentor for years - unsuccessfuly. In other words,I have been trying to stave this exact issue off for the past 3 or 4 years. Fat lot of good that did me.</p>
<p>I have contacted the GC for help (and the principal) on several issues dealing with the writing problems and trying to tailor a course of work that he could handle (like he would have done fine in business English, but he couldn’t take it if he wanted to take AP Calc) I suggested independent studies (nope) Her answer last year was that a C is an average grade and maybe we should be happy with it – implying I was only concerned about his grade and his transcript-- as it is he was lucky to get a D on English composition. The school requires 4 English courses, and despite that S had taken an accredited grammar course online through a college, they would not count it because he took an English class at school that year as well and they would only give ONE English credit a year. Had I known that I would have had him skip English at school that year and take it the following year. (SO he actually already had 4 English credits coming into Sr Year - but THEY required one THIS year for him to graduate.) This year when I contacted her just recently she said she had NO suggestions except to talk to the district psychologist for a reference to find a testing facility, but she basically said it was too late to do anything to help S for school now and had no suggestions on how we could get him caught up enough to graduate - again the problems with being in a small small town. He will not accept the help of any of his senior aquaintances - the pride thing. I cannot think of anyone I could even ask that he would agree to.</p>
<p>How is S feeling? Overwhelmed and in denial at the same time. He keeps insisting he will get it done and he will graduate yet I see him avoiding the work consistently. </p>
<p>I envy all of you who are thinking grad parties and proms and gifts and summer plans, and <em>even</em> the angst about saying good-bye. At this point I am really <em>hoping</em> to say good-bye (may feel differently once all this passes - see I DO still hold out some hope) But I need to state my fears and I am so glad I have somewhere to do it.</p>
<p>I have worked out all the scenarios - the worst being he does not pass one or either required class. </p>
<p>Worst case - his colleges deny him, he takes a year off, he takes some classes at the community college for HS credit or just gets his GED, learns to drive, gets a part time job, and we start all over with college applications. </p>
<p>The best of the worst case scenarios - College let’s him defer (and does not take away his merit awards) and they let him make up the failed course(s) over the next year, he learns to drive and gets a part time job and starts school a year later. </p>
<p>Best case of course is that he finishes his classes with a passing grade (but worst case in that scenario is that they yank his awards or deny him anyway because his GPA will be crap -so we will be back to worst case scenarion again) </p>
<p>“Bestest” case and the miracle for which I hold out hope is S somehow manages to get his grades up to passing by the time he will “walk” and in the few weeks before his classes are officially over, he brings his final grades up to a C (or better !- hey while I am hoping for miracles might as well dream big) And he can enter school proud of his accomplishment and confident that he deserves his awards </p>
<p>(meanwhile, understand, he has an A+ in AP calc and is one of the higher test scorers in AP Bio, is singing with the choir on a regular basis. It is just the writing assignments where he tanks) </p>
<p>He took the Math Placement test for college and he got only one question wrong - but he knew his mistake - was told he should skip Calc I and II. </p>
<p>He has a lot to offer if we could just get past this and if he can eventually find help for, or grow out of, his writing issues.</p>
<p>Yes things could be worse. I am thankful I am not the mother that went to wake her son up the other morning only to find him dead of a drug overdose. I am thankful I am not the mother whose child is having a child. I am thankful my son is here actually sitting at his computer “trying” (for what it is worth) to be “something” and to get this seemingly impossible task done. Yes things could be worse than having to wait a while longer for some dreams to come true.</p>