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Yes his brain freezes but I have tried all the things you suggest to get it unfrozen. From my observations, his brain is wired so differently in this area that most of the “usual” tricks to shake loose writer’s block simply do not work. </p>
<p>That is what is so frustrating, nothing <em>I</em> know provides the solution. <em>I</em> am actually a writer, and when I was in high school I excelled in writing (I sucked in math) and got 790 on the verbal and an 800 on the then subject writing test and 400 on the math. My brain froze on the math. I looked at it and became paralyzed. But not knowing math never held me back. It was, in fact, excused readily.</p>
<p>I have had him try to talk the words out with me, I have tried lists, I have tried writing down all the salient points he needs to put in the paper in list form. I have tried backing away. And I totally appreciate the advice, and would perhaps be telling someone else that is exactly what is needed. But I keep coming back to, with my S, that he just needs to get past this and he will be at a place that will see what he can do and will let him do it. </p>
<p>IF he bombs out at college - which my gut says he will not - then I will have done my part and the chips will fall where they may, and I will have let go. The institution of public education can only really adequately provide for the mean. It misses the mark for kids like mine (and I bet a good many of the posters on CC) and someone else has to take up the slack. That job has settled in my lap. </p>
<p>While the very thing I <em>want</em> to do is let go, it feels like I would be abandoning him in his time of greatest need. This is not an issue where he doesn’t <em>want</em> help, he does, we just don’t know how to give it so that he can use it, or where to find it and his GC at his school has ever helped with that. They see a smart kid who is lazy. I see a smart kid who has taken on that personna because it feels better to him than to admit he cannot do something. </p>
<p>I watch him struggle with this, stare at the page for literally hours. If I interupt his train of thought he gets angry and says he has to start all over again. Nothing I do seems to change the way he HAS to do this. He has to have it all figured out in his head, and THEN write it. He can’t seem to break it down into parts even with help. The truth is, and this is what makes it hard for people to believe he has a writing problem, he has written some very good papers (very short ones). So they can only imagine it is because he chooses not to write that he has not done the work. </p>
<p>In my opinion, it is definitely a brain and not an attitude issue. (other than he has given up I think and that attitude filters in). I had him tested at a learning center and I guess they did not have the sophisticated testing needed - if even there is a test for him - and all it showed was he was off the charts on learning levels but could not write anything out when asked to. He took this to mean there was no reason for him to have the problems he has, and since then has sort of given up. </p>
<p>I understand about backing away, and I have done that in almost every area in his life. His clothing, hygiene, etc - he had to figure that out. His food consumption - for a long time he would eat only ONE thing - so I stopped cooking for him and he had to fend for himself - so he did. He has finally added more foods into his menu. He has learned how to appropriately interact with people without my paving the way. I no longer check in with his teachers to make sure he is on track (although I wish I had this year as then the big history papers would not have been a surprise) </p>
<p>In short the only thing on my plate with him right now is to make sure he gets this writing done. It’s crazy hard</p>