@MACmiracle I have to believe coming home to sleep is doing her well.
My girl flies home tomorrow! Woop! Saying a prayer for the doggone Weather Advisory to not interrupt her flight.
The hubs already bought her favorite desert and it’s waiting on the counter. I have planned surprise facials for her and the little sis and that is the extent of my trying to meddle in her plans. I will just love on her so hard every single moment she is around. I will try not to smother. Who am I kidding? I am going to gaze at her lovingly like when she was a baby. Oh, gosh. I better reign it in since it sounds way too creepy! lol! :-*
I’m also sorry to hear this about your daughter, @MACmiracle Will she be home for Thanksgiving? Maybe a few more days at home will let her decompress and also clue you in on what’s going on with her.
@MACmiracle it sounds like your D has a good plan to manage her lifestyle next year. My D needs lots of downtime too and ended up in a suite of 8 girls. It’s been good for her but she retreats to my adult D’s house for quiet time.
@Meddy your post made me lol! I’m really excited to see D on Tuesday. What’s her favorite dessert? I bought D her fav snacks too!
@carolinamom2boys at cofc, when should kids declare a major? D18 signed up for basics this semester and it sounds like more gen ed next semester. Is that going to be an issue or is it pretty standard? I guess I needed to listen better for that type of info!
It’s been a busy school year so I’ve been reading but get too far behind to post.
I just talked to D and she sounded much better today. She’s said she’s coming home to get a warmer winter coat because we suddenly got really cold, messy weather, so I’ll get a chance to see how she’s doing. It’s a good sign that she didn’t ask to be picked up Friday but will come home only for a one day over the weekend.
@mommdc The work load is probably a big adjustment but she hasn’t complained about difficulty and seems to be doing rather well. I don’t think she’s crazy about her classes, though. But since she wants a science major, most of her classes would be the same for the next couple of semesters even if she switched.
I think she’s having a very hard time managing all the distractions and setting boundaries. She registered for 8 am classes every day for next semester so she’s going to have to work on setting boundaries in order to get any sleep.
@suzy100 I can’t wait for Thanksgiving! She’ll have homework but she’ll have a good chunk of time to relax.
@MACmiracle I was just catching up and saw your posts. I am also sorry your D was struggling a little. Your comment about setting boundaries sounds pretty insightful. And the issue of being with others 24/7 makes it really hard for the kids to gain some perspective. I think it’s really good your D lives close enough to home so she can get away from school and decompress. And with Thanksgiving less than a week away, she’ll soon have a little break and can hopefully hit the reset button during that time.
DS comes home on Tuesday for the Thanksgiving break and is bringing a friend. Part of me is a little disappointed that we might not get any alone time with him.
@drewsmom17 I should say her favorite Trader Joe’s dessert, which happens to be Carrot Cake Cookies.
D’s morning flight was cancelled due to weather. She sent me the ALL CAPS text, “I don’t want to be stranded here for Thanksgiving!” Hey, but the lovely President of Amherst College is having kids over to her house. I mean, it’s not home, but how nice is that? The hubs rebooked her on another flight out this afternoon. Praying for good weather on the East Coast so she can get home tonight.
Wishing my fellow 2018 Parents a very lovely and stress free Thanksgiving
Our DD is flying home on Tuesday. She frequently complains about the food at school, so I asked her if there was anything special she wanted on the Thanksgiving table - I would be happy to get it for her. She responded, “as soon as I get home, I’m going to the grocery store!”
Son was coming home Wed. night but it now works for him to come home late Monday night, so I am so pleased that I spent the somewhat extra on Southwest (no change fee) rather than another airline just in case he was able to change. Will be delighted to have him home an extra 2 days!
S was supposed to be home tonight, but there was a big snowstorm. He’s got a ride to Wilmington, DE tomorrow. I’m dropping him off to visit friends at UMD.
Picked up S in Wilmington, DE this afternoon (he got a ride that far, and it was a lot shorter than driving to Ithaca). He had me drop him off at UMD, so animals were confused when his stuff came home but he didn’t…
@drewsmom17 Sorry, I’m just seeing this now . My son declared his major when he was admitted . I would think in order to graduate on time, no later than sophomore year.
@Genevieve18 , don’t you love Southwest for their no change fee policy? We had “Southwest flies there” as a plus in our college selection process and I think we were right to include it.
DD came home on Saturday. School officially closes on Wednesday, but they are having study days so the kids got to go home early.
@MACmiracle DD is taking computer science and is not thrilled w/ many of her classes either. I have told her CS, like engineering, is a tough major and there are just so many specific classes, that she’s just going to have to pick fun classes for her electives. She is enjoying her linguistics class though and the teacher loves her as she wants to minor in it and the other kids are just there for the credits.
I think there are just so many ups and downs w/ this new chapter in their lives; it’s a huge adjustment and it’s just going to take time. Hopefully the time home will be the boost they need and very soon they will be home for Xmas break and they can fully recharge.
DD will actually be working most of Thanksgiving break. She will be off on Wednesday, but is working all the others. Luckily they are afternoon shifts and only 4 or 5 hours. Once she figured out her pay, she was quite happy.
I don’t want to talk out of turn (just found this thread) but if your freshman engineers and CS majors don’t like their major classes don’t assume it’s simply because the major is tough. High School students often misunderstand what is actually done in stem professions. If you don’t dig your CS classes you probably won’t enjoy working in CS. Ditto engineering - you need to really love the math and science and hands-on stuff. If your kids don’t like their major classes, maybe they are in the wrong major. Not saying that is the case here with any of your kids! But I watched my older D go through FY engineering - it was very tough going but she loved it - she was thrilled to finally leave those “liberal arts” classes behind and geek out full time on stem.
Hey everyone! I haven’t been on in a few weeks, so catching up.
I’m sorry for all of you with stressed children. Hopefully the break will do everyone good.
I know a lot of you like Southwest, but I’m a Delta girl here. Just changed natural gas providers here in Georgia because they offer SkyMiles as an incentive, plus SkyMiles earned on dollars spent. With S so far away, anything to save on tickets!
S dropped his Philosophy major and is now a straight German major. He hopes to also pick up Sacred Music. He’s going to be taking Piano this fall and has auditioned for a choir group. He will continue his campus job and writing for the paper. His classes will be German 102, History, Physics with Calculus base, Piano , and another Theology.
S won’t be home for Thanksgiving but will be home mid December for a month.
I’ll chime in with our status. D18 came home for Thanksgiving tonight. She looks great. This first semester away couldn’t have gone better. She has nice suitemates (four person suite) and is doing fine grade-wise.
Everything else is in disarray. Our family has really been turned upside-down. DW also flew home tonight. She’s been TX for several weeks for her mom’s back surgery and dealing with FIL. DW was in court there today for guardianship of her father, who’s incapable of handling life outside of a controlled environment. Meanwhile, we’ve taken in DW’s niece to try and get her into a pharmacy degree here in GA. DW’s sister passed away late last year from sepsis following a minor surgery. It has given me a new perspective on college applications. D18 has always had 99+ percentile scores while DW’s niece is at the 50th percentile, which means that the non-test parts are more significant.
Anyway, the three of us (me, DW, and D18 … the niece flew back to Houston to be with her family) are back together for Thanksgiving. Just the three of us … it’s great.
