@momtwin, so happy to read your update. Yahoo!!!
Great news, @momtwin.
@momtwin You have been on my mind. So very happy to hear. I love the lesson here on just being supportive. Itâs like balm to the college kidâs soul.
@momtwin Thatâs really great news.
Just curious if anyone elseâs kid is thinking of changing a roommate next year due to schedule differences, etc., and worried about how not to hurt feelings.
@momtwin So glad your daughter has settled into her new life. I think just giving them options allows them to calm down and gives them the chance to adapt. And you are probably greatly relieved. 
Spoke to mine last night, and she is still pushing to get out of traditional dorms. The expensive affiliated college housing, which is where her friends live, is $4K more a year. She thought it was only $2K, but I told her that is per semester. One friend is going for off campus housing, at a $1000/monthâŠcrazy!
The dorms donât have single rooms, so that isnât an option, unfortunately. I told her she needs to plan on traditional again, or she can do the south campus school housing, IF she can room w/ kids she knows. Best I could offer her.
On a positive note, she is applying for a summer coding camp offered on campus. She worked 2 years at summer camps for kids and she meets the coding requirements as well. They will provide on campus housing for a couple of weeks. She makes good money at Dunkin but this would be a nice break for her for the summer.
@momtwin, I was so happy to read your good news!
@MACmiracle, I donât think itâs come up with D yet, since housing picks arenât until late spring. If itâs a scheduling issue then that shouldnât pose too many hurt feelings I would think. I guess if sheâs going to change roommates (and many do), Iâd suggest she tell the roommate sooner rather than later so she can look for another roommate.
Last week of classes for D, and she is pretty sick. They tested for mono which was negative. (I knew that would be the case since she got it last year. I guess it could have been a recurrence?) Not great timing but hopefully the antibiotics will kick in fast.
Good luck to all of our kids closing out their first semester in college!
@MACmiracle as suzy100 said, I think itâs pretty common. I think it would hurt less if she can show that sheâs going TO something rather than away from her roommate. So switching to room with her best friend (assuming roommate knows sheâs not the best friend), or to room with someone with the same major or sport etc. or as you said, someone with a more similar schedule. And I think suzy100 is right that the more notice the better so roommate has time to make plans.
@suzy100, thinking good thoughts for your daughter to feel better soon!
@momtwin , whew that is a relief for you! Glad your kiddo is finding her way.
Weâve gotten to see a lot of S18 recently. He has a car at school now so can make the 6 hr drive back when necessary. We took him on a family trip, he came home to see his little brother perform in a musical, he came home for Thanksgiving, and then we went to FSU last weekend to see his choir perform in a holiday concert. He will spend his first week of winter break touring with his a cappella group, then will be home for a little over 2 weeks. Grades seem to be going well and he has his spring classes all set. Trying to get him to focus on summer plans, but the kid marches to his own drummer.
@MOMTWIN - That is great news. Did the transfer she wanted go through as well but she has decided to stay at UCLA?
I have a co-worker whose son is at a small LAC as an athlete. Several of his class/teammates are changing schools mid stream. His roomie is leaving as well at the end of this semester, he is currently packing and my co-worker is hoping her son doesnât get another roomie as its pretty tight quarters. Roomie was recruited as an athlete but is not happy with the program and is moving on. My co-worker suspects it actually has more to do with his girlfriend being some distance away at another school.
Meanwhile, my DD is due home in a few days. Her last final was last night and I canât wait to see her and just hang out with her. She says she ended with 4 Aâs and one B in Calculus. She also commented that that was the last math class she will EVER have to take. She was pretty pumped about that.
@MACmiracle DD has been going through roommate drama for quite some time now.
The girl wasnât happy, went to the RA, spoke to parents, and planned on moving to another room. DD found her a bit annoying, but she didnât think they couldnât get along, so was upset when roommate told DD she had go talk to the RA so she could move out. I think it was handled poorly, but unless they canât stand rooming with each other, there will probably be hurt feelings.
It can be tough no matter what. My friendâs son is rooming w/ one of his best friends, and they stopped talking to each other for over a week. They worked it out, but it certainly affected their friendship. His mom thinks they would be better off if they donât live with each other next year.
So rooming with friends can also be tough.
@SnowflakeDogMom She actually did get into the school where her older sister goes to, but decided against, and started feeling better about UCLA. We are in California, and you cannot transfer to any UC or CSU unless you have 60 college credits. The school she wanted to transfer to is in WashingtonâŠthey are not as impacted as California schools. You must be happy to have your daughter home. Where is she going to school?
Will your daughter get another roommate after the roommate leaves? Thatâs hard for her.
Thanks for your support, I hope your daughter starts feeling better. I think this first year of college is full of stress and the kids get sick a lot.
@momtwin Thats awesome that your DD was able to make the choice to stay! She was able to get over the new student hump and discovered she actually likes her first choice, what great news!
I reminds me of when I switched jobs a few years ago. There was a time of âbuyers remorseâ where I wondered if I had made the right decision, I was unhappy, bored and feeling unchallenged. The company I left came back to me 6 months after my departure and asked me to come back. I sat down with them and then was reminded of why I left LOL. That sit-down completely changed my attitude towards my new company. I realized I was bored and feeling unchallenged because I was mourning my prior position that in reality sucked and not giving my new position time to be different in its own ways. I was comparing the two instead of embracing the new and the challenges that came with the new.
Now, 2 years later I am still here, have settled in and am very happy with the decision I made but it did take a bit of time to grow on me.
My DD is at Univ of Alabama, Huntsville. Not her âdreamâ school but it is proving to be a great fit, she has settled in and is happy. She got a fantastic merit package and is now looking at study abroad and coop options.
My daughter tripped yesterday morning on some steps around the chapel on campus and hit her head, hard enough to leave a bruise. Her professor walked her over to student health after she got nauseous during his class. She went back this morning and was diagnosed with a mild concussion. She has been instructed to go back to her dorm and rest (not sleep) and wear sunglasses and stay off of electronic. Since she is an engineering student, she really only has one final to worry about, but since itâs math itâs going to be difficult, to say the least. She had a concussion in March of this year as well (sheâs not exactly the most graceful young lady) and her recovery took several weeks. She has contacted her Academic Dean as well to let her know, and to find out how exams will work. She did tell me she feels much better and that it does not feel as bad as the concussion she received in March. Hearing that, and also knowing that she is being well cared for by Duke, makes me feel so much better. Thankfully, she comes home soon for a few weeks.
Last weekend I went down to Charlotte for the Pitt/Clemson ACC championship and my daughter came up from Clemson. My sister law asked her what was the thing she like best about Clemson and after a long awkward silence my daughter said âŠâits easy.â Later on that day I mentioned to her that a player on the Clemson basketball team had transferred there from Vanderbilt (where she was waitlisted) and her response was âdear God whyâ
She had not said anything to us out load about transferring but it doesnât sound like she is too excited about the school. She will be home a week and I guess we will talk about then.
@hopewhite25 Iâm so sorry for your D! I wonder whether they would let her postpone her final until she comes back in January, if she has to stay off computers and not study for a longer period than she currently thinks. Hope she feels better soon!!!
@melvin123 Thank you. She is waiting to hear back on accommodations for the exam since she has an official diagnosis in hand now. My senior at UofSC also currently has a concussion due to an automobile accident on the 16th of last month that totaled her car. They coordinates everything through the student disability office and she is being allowed special accommodations for her finals (time and a half and taking the exams separate from the class to limit distractions). I am hopeful that this happens for her as well. The engineering professor that walked her to student health told her that the 30 point project that she has due in his class can be done next semester without affecting her grade.