@hopewhite25, I’m sorry too. I hope they give her a break for her exam and that she recovers quickly.
@burghdad, hopefully you’ll get a chance to feel your D out more over break. Sometimes it’s a “grass is greener” situation I think. Big game on the 29th!
@momtwin I am so happy things seem to be working out…I have been thinking about your daughter.
@burghdad agree maybe it is a case of the grass is greener, would not panic yet!
@hopewhite25 sorry about your daughter, seems like her school is very understanding so that must give you some comfort but I know you will be happy when she is home.
Have not posted in a while as the fourth quarter is the busiest time at work and therefore my personal life as time gets so squeezed. My daughter has totally settled in and seems very happy which for her is a major accomplishment as anxiety is her number one thing. She is doing very well academically and it is bringing her calm and confidence. I almost never hear from her unless I contact her. I know her test scores kept her from being accepted into the more challenging schools on her list and her GPA is high for the school she got into but I am very happy she is where she is…she does work hard and seriously but is seeing wonderful results for it and is getting to shine. In high school she always had A’s as well but she would get a 95 on a test and a friend a 98 and she would beat herself up. Now that the level of competition is not as intense and she is getting top grades she is able to relax and start to experience some of the other offerings of college and develop the confidence and independence she needs. Basically she is believing in herself and not doubting herself.
On a funny side note now that she is down south she is in the middle of a major snowstorm and up here in NE we have no snow. Since the area is not prepared for snow and the strategy is to shut down until it melts she is finding this very amusing. In one semester she has has two hurricanes and a snowstorm…hopefully this semester will be one they look back on and “remember” and not the beginning of four years of weather issues.
Curious to see what she does with the roommate situation. Pretty sure I know who she will want to live with, and it will be fine with current roommate. They are true roommates…they get along for the most part but are not alike and not really friends so I think neither is expecting or wanting the other to continue as future roommates. Overall life is good here…and I am gearing up for college tours in February with D20…in the Carolinas because she wants to get away from snow…I am asking her if she wants to cancel that trip and look further south LOL. In reality this will not be an easy search as she also has low test scores ( though we already are working on prep.) She also may have a disability in math that I am just now having her tested for, I will be relieved if she has it as it will explain her math struggles but also will feel so guilty it took me this long to discover it.
Hope everyone has a wonderful holiday season and a great break with your kids!!
Oh @burghdad - that’s so hard! In high school my daughters had many older friends who came back from freshman year to say that college was easier than high school … and it always made me feel they didn’t go to the right colleges. Hopefully she can find a more challenging schedule next semester.
My kid is working her tail off and looking forward to coming home for a break! I love that!
Ouch @hopewhite25! I hope she’s okay!
@burghdad I’m sorry your D appears to be not thrilled with her choice at this moment. It’s great that winter break is around the corner so you’ll be able to measure her true feelings. I wonder, once she gets her gen ed classes out of the way and gets more into her major, whether the topics will become more interesting and challenging and her classmates will be more engaged? I’m also curious if she’ll be a superstar at her school, which might open more doors for her for research and internships than she might otherwise get elsewhere? FWIW, I went to a college that was too easy and not a good match, so I focused on studying abroad and went heavy on the ECs. In retrospect I think I would have been happier if I had transferred, but I did get a lot out of my education, just not in a traditional way. I hope you have a wonderful winter break with your D. Wishing you success with this!
@burghdad I am sorry to hear this. I am anxious to hear more about how she is feeling about Clemson after she has had some time at home this break. We shall always view Clemson as “the one that got away”, I keep asking DD if she wants to transfer since they did eventually offer her January admit. Luckily she says she is fine where she is at, but does occasionally speak wistfully about Clemson.
@melvin123 when we spoke at Thanksgiving her plan was to finish up by the end first semester Junior because of her 35 credits HS (from AP and duel enrollment) and taking 18-19 credits a semester. Then doing a study abroad in her second semster JR. year and then starting graduate school in what would be her senior year.
Thanks to all of you have offered good wishes. I will let you know how the break discussions go.
I got a big surprise yesterday when D20’s PSAT scores were posted. Based on past test scores, I always said I would be happy if she got above 1000. She is bright but has ADHD and is not a particularly motivated student. And last year her grades weren’t great after developing medication side effects and having to go off for most of the year. So when the screen came up and I saw a 700 EBRW score my eyes popped out of my head. Math was not bad either, and it should only go up as she learns more algebra and puts in some practice. She didn’t prep at all for this test. I always worried if she would get into one of our local state colleges and now that looks like it might not be an issue. She might even get a scholarship. I’m hoping that this next round is going to be so much easier than with D18 because D20 knows that she wants to stay close to home and isn’t interested in a competitive major.
@MACmiracle congrats to D20. She should be very proud of herself to have such a great score under all the circumstances.
Exam week for our DD’18. We will see her Friday night!
D18 called me yesterday huffing and puffing as she walked up the hills at Amherst to say, “Mama! I just got my first final grade back and it’s an A!” Oh, happy tears for me. =D>
My daughter just had her last final and flies home tomorrow night! Can’t wait to have her her home again. This first semester of college went by so quickly. I am so proud of her…looks like she will have a 4.0. She has settled in, is so happy and has a great group of friends…and she did this while surviving a very rocky last month due to a scary, vindictive, unstable suite mate who caused alot of trouble for her. I will add that the school she is at was her “safety” and she wasn’t happy to be going there. She got many unexpected rejections from “reachy” schools and now she can’t picture herself anywhere else and is thriving!
S18 took the final yesterday for his intense math class, which has been his hardest class by far (full of math majors), and got the results that evening and he rocked it!
I think this week and next are big weeks for ED decisions. I can’t wait to hear how some of my D’s friends who are seniors this year did. But I’m thinking back on last year and how anxiety producing this all was. Glad to be on this side of that news!
Here’s a happy story about crazy college grading.
DS tested into Intermediate Chinese. I was so worried that they’d cancel the class because only four students were registered including my son but they still had the class. There were tests and quizzes and projects but no grades ever showed up in their on line grade book. The students suspected that the teacher had recorded them but for what ever reason kept them private. The day of finals they were asked to stay after they finished the exam so the teacher could grade them in class. After the teacher spent some time reviewing each exam, she threw up her hands and exclaimed, “Merry Christmas! You all get A’s for the course!”
All four have signed up for the next level of Chinese with the same teacher next semester:-)
Two more exams for S18! Tomorrow night he’ll be home. Should I be calling him S22 now? Confusing.
Both twins now home for the holidays. They had a great time their first term and love their colleges.
Son’s reaction: “the air is so cold” (compared to SoCal - it was 74 degrees in LA). Daughter’s reaction: “the air is so thick” (compared to Utah - she did her final in a blizzard then went skiing in 14 inches of fresh powder).
oh @Twoin18 I"m jealous of your D!!!
After 24 hours travelling, including a 7hr layover in Philly - son is home for 3 weeks 
Anybody else looking at this year’s early (action or REA or ED) results and feeling the stress all over again? ‘Cause that would be me. ?
I am and actually, I feel like it’s therapeutic, @suzy100 ! I see people riding the same roller coaster and experiencing the same frustrations and pain as we did and it helps me to recognize how far my D has come from the applicant of last year. She did BFA auditions plus BA applications so last year was hellish. Much nicer to have Christmas with no uncertainty and no stress!