<p>I had S2 give me his password the second semester of freshman year because the first semester was about as bad as it gets. The deal for returning to college for the spring semester was that we had to have access to his grades.</p>
<p>Despite giving my parents my password every semester to pay tuition/r&b, they could never remember it for longer than the ten seconds they used to type it in, so I’m pretty sure they weren’t checking up on my grades randomly. 
They could have checked my grades through that same portal, but AFAIK, they never did. I don’t think they ever asked, either, though I did occasionally talk to them about grade-related stuff. I’m not sure they even know my final GPA, come to think of it.</p>
<p>Now that I’m in grad school (fully funded, thankfully, so no or little tuition to pay), they’ve never needed my account password or asked about grades. I guess they figured I’m probably doing fine and would talk to them if I wasn’t.</p>
<p>The answer may be a big ‘it depends’. In DD1’s school (state flagship) one would be lucky enough to see grades updated once a month… One does not see individual grades for each homework, test, etc, just a letter grade. Most profs maintain their ‘internal’ grade book in a different system but I do not think the students get to see their grades there on a regular basis unless the prof shares these like we had in K-12 (progress slips etc) plus what gets returned graded by the TA etc.</p>
<p>Final grades? D1 signed the FERPA waiver, so I guess I could request them from the registrar. No paper grades of any kind go out without a specific request for paper copies (campus does as much as possible to be green). Her final grades are on the portal. I need one copy a year for the good student discount in the auto insurance, and so far the printed copy of those has been acceptable.</p>
<p>Are you talking about grades while a class is in progress? Only option there would be if d1 gave me her id and password. And even then, I’d only get to see grades in classes where the prof used the online system and kept it up to date. I really don’t see the point in seeing grades of a course in progress. If my kid can’t manage classes on her own, she doesn’t belong in a four year residential college. Even if I peaked and saw some lousy grades, what could be done? Am I supposed to nag her?</p>
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<p>Exactly. I found out during DD’s residential high school experience - where we had full access to grades in progress - that nagging from afar was, if anything, counterproductive.</p>
<p>Our son was given the opportunity during orientation to set up the system so we can log in and see his grades and also whether tuition is paid up. Probably other stuff too. The grades are never posted until a few days after final exams, so there’s no way for us to go into a panic until it’s far too late. He’s pretty open about how he’s doing, and not too amenable to our suggestions for how to get advice to study more effectively. There’s only one subject that’s an issue and part of the problem seems to be that the department is run by sadists. (Nice ones, but they probably have unreasonable expectations.)</p>
<p>We are not asking for formal access to his grades, but we are telling him that he can’t have his PS3 at school until after the first semester, and only if he meets all the GPA expectations of his honors progams. He hasn’t had to study much in high school, and needs to learn time management and study skills because college is a step up. He tends to zone out, get anti-social, and lose all track of time when he plays video games.</p>
<p>^^just remember, the kids on either side of him, maybe even his roommate, will have gaming systems that he will be able to use.</p>
<p>They are adults now. Time to let your babies leave the nest… </p>
<p>If you don’t think they are responsible & capable of doing well in college without managing things for them, then they shouldn’t be going to college yet(AKA you shouldnt be supporting them).</p>
<p>We do not have access to our son’s grades and nor do we want to. It’s actually a huge relief from HS where we saw everything! His grades are his to handle and, if he’s having trouble, he needs to find his professors or advisor. He does know we hope he’s maintaining a reasonable average if only to fulfill some of his dreams down the road. But again that is his call and our funding (no FA) is not tied to grades.</p>
<p>I always volunteered my grades to my parents. Some were good, some were decidedly not-- the ones that were not were generally due to circumstances that I would not have been able to keep under my hat anyway. They did not have access to my grade report, but I generally verbally reported what my grades were.</p>
<p>I didn’t tell my parents every single assignment grade, though, just the final ones. Occasionally if something was a major point of stress I would mention it to my mother, and she was really at a loss for how to react. Her first instict was to blow up about it, when really that’s not always reasonable-- one is not going to do well on every single assignment they touch, or at least /I/ won’t-- and once she realized that she realized she was really out of her depth and I think she preferred not to know. I let her know when there was a problem on the horizon… I didn’t have a problem determining when those points in time were.</p>
<p>This is pretty much the same scenario as we had in high school. My sister needs more monitoring and my parents checked all of her grades in HS… in college they aren’t asking for anything from her and I think that’s probably a mistake.</p>
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Nagging is never productive, is it? It just makes your kid to tune out. On the other hand, you may be able to have a discussion with your kid as to why he is not doing well and help him come up with a plan to tackle the problem, may it be going to office hours,getting together with other students, goind to classes, or even getting a tutor. Your kid maybe having some emotional or LD issues, as we have discussed many times on CC, but often it is disccused when it is too late.</p>
<p>Going to college is a big change - new living environment, new school (job), new roommate (partner), those are all most stressful changes in one’s life. Mature adults could only handle one or two well, but to expect a young adult to adjust well when hit with all three is not realistic. Too many adults like to throw this “my kid is an adult now, if he can’t handle his own school, then he shouldn’t be in college.” Try to start a new job and move to a new house and get married (or divored).</p>
<p>Our S does not give us any access to his account. Worked out fine for the fall (he did pretty well) but his grades dove in the spring (his fault entirely) and he didn’t give us any signs that he was having troubles. Not happy about that at all.</p>
<p>Even so, I still don’t care about account access since as an adult it’s up to him to manage his studies and monitor his grades (or not?). I do, however, insist on him logging on and seeing his grades and class schedule before the next semester bill gets paid.</p>
<p>We never had access to the grades, just asked how things were going. Both DDs knew they needed to hit a minimum GPA to keep their academic scholarships. Fortunately it was never an issue.</p>