Roeth- i was claiming nothing (and apologies for posting on the fly- I am not a psychiatrist as you can tell)-- I was pointing out that people often confuse the social aspects of “makes friends easily” with having good people skills. And used the example of serial killers (and many of them fall into the category of “popular” as it’s used to describe someone with a high degree of friendliness and sociability.)
There are indeed a lot of C level execs with various personality disorders (borderline, narcissists, etc). I’m not sure what you mean by disconnect- should companies stop training employees in leadership, influencing, mentoring skills even if the CEO is a narcissist? A company with 90,000 employees is more than its CEO and someone has to get actual work done to get the widgets out the door. A heavily regulated industry is likely to have more type A’s (and maybe some %^&*) in their General Counsel and Compliance functions than a company where the regulatory environment is less important… but that’s not a disconnect- you need to hire the person with the appropriate skills and scope-- and sometimes that means hiring someone with suboptimal interpersonal skills.
Is that what you mean-- the tradeoffs?