I’m sorry if I came across as being rude, that was not my intention. My intention was to show you how out-of-whack-with-reality it is for anyone to put so much emotional investment into what is, essentially, a lottery, with the odds stacked very much against you.
Go ahead and grieve for another day. If it will make you feel better, see if there are schools that are closer to match/safety where you can still apply. Be nice to yourself and focus on looking forward, not backward.
@sciencenerd123, as an ORM (a female applicant from the NE) the overall admission rate to Brown is probably around 5% since 60% of applicants are female.
So while a 1520 is a good score, it still only had a 14% acceptance rate overall, and once again as an ORM is was less than that - say 10%.
Not certain why the Deferral from NEU, but once again a 1520 is only right at the top-75% and as an ORM the acceptance rate is going to be lower than others in the same bucket.
Our DD’s (also ORM’s) went through the same pain with 35 ACT’s - Deferrals and Denials from most of the top-10 schools they applied to, including Deferral/Denials from Brown and Bowdoin. They did get 1 acceptance and some WL’s in that top-10 group, and most importantly they got acceptances from every #10-25 ranked school that they applied to.
So, in the end they both are at great schools and are really happy with their decisions, and so will you be - hang in there.
@OHMomof2 I didn’t interview at Conn, but I visited and had an email convo with my admissions officer.
U of R – Rochester or Richmond? Either way, not safeties, as both have admit rates in the low 30s%, and lower for RD.
Connecticut College – not a safety with an overall acceptance rate under 40%… lower for RD.
St. Lawrence might be a safety for you. Probably a low match at any rate.
Aside from being affordable, to really consider a school a safety, it should have at least a 50% admit rate and your stats should be at or above the 75th percentile. (unless it offers auto admission and you meet the requirements, of course).
OP, I please read this post: https://www.google.ie/amp/amp.kentucky.com/news/local/counties/fayette-county/article195634754.html
The college journey is brutal. You are obviously smart, hardworking and determined. You probably haven’t had many challenges that you couldn’t overcome by simply pushing yourself harder. The key thing about @bjkmom’s post is to not internalize the rejection as defining you.
Don’t read to much into the deferral from Northeastern. They added ED to EA this year and as such were very conservative w/ EA admits this year
Take Purple Titan’s advice and go work out. Lost my wife of 45 years three months ago and found that running is about the only activity that helps. If you are lucky, life is a long road.
Really, exercise helps! This is another good reason to pursue sports in college. :bz
Just checked your ECs as listed on this site:
School literary magazine (editor-in-chief)
Student government (head of academics)
Civil Rights Team (co-captain)
Drama club: costumes
Science Bowl (co-captain)
Robotics (head)
French Honor Society
National Honor Society
Tutoring
Do you swim, run, play tennis, etc? If you can, consider it. Check out https://www.wpi.edu/student-experience/sports-recreation/sports-recreation-center?utm_source=redirector&utm_medium=reccenter&utm_campaign=short_url. These facilities are here for all students and not just teams.
:D/
“You can love a school to death. But the school that does not love you back is not a dream school.”
These are kids, they’re going to have dream schools, of course they need to be realistic about chances, one of the reasons they’re dream schools is their selectivity. And the thing that separates change the world types from the rest, is their ability to dream. Don’t tell anyone not to dream about something and try not to judge them because of that.
“And that’s OK. I’m allowed to be upset.”
You absolutely are entitled to your feelings, and shouldn’t be judged on that. I’ve found that most people on CC, esp the parents are compassionate, don’t be swayed by ones that aren’t.
Always dream big, and as you go through the next 3 months you will realize that all of the schools you have applied to are great schools - not just one or two or three, or only the UNSWR top-30.
Yes, you have worked hard and so have the other top-2% of the students in the country and the world that you are competing against - applying to top-30 schools is always an uncertain process, hang in there.
You’re absolutely allowed to feel sad. My D was sad when she was rejected from some of her schools. More with some than with others - for her Brown hurt the most probably, it was sort of her top choice, if she allowed herself ot have one (and for financial and other reasons we talked a lot about her NOT having one, we visited her safeties in one case twice, to be SURE she was OK with them).
Happy ending to her story, she wound up at a much better school for her than Brown would have been for her, on several levels.
@margaret1515 - same kid was WL at Conn after visiting but not interviewing. They really seem to care about that interview. In the end she was accepted to the college that Conn was acting a safety for, and maybe Conn got that vibe from her somehow.
@margaret1515 and @sciencenerd - lots of advice already posted, so I will just say I hope your parents and friends are giving you a lot of hugs and support. Keep us posted on how you are doing.