<p>Why should @SevenDad take more care with future posts? He didn’t say anything wrong. </p>
<p>That’s the point @photographermom nobody did “anything wrong.”. But if you look at 7D’s latest post, he does concede that “perhaps I chose my words poorly” and his note to self to refrain from posting prior to his first cup of coffee, actually support that his good intentions went awry and the “drubbing” could have been avoided with more care. </p>
<p>Read through the scores of posts (and “likes” in support of the posts) that all say the same thing: occasionally people feel shot down or scolded about the substance of their post. That’s all. Being sensitive to that is not an indictment of 7D; merely a request for civility. Yeah, and maybe we are a little sensitive and jumpy right now. If I weren’t, I sure as shootin’ have more productive ways to spend my time. </p>
<p>@smushysmon: Don’t confuse grace with an apology. </p>
<p>@PhotographerMom. He specifically stated that he made NO APOLOGIES. He did say, however, he had made a poor choice of words. To me, taking more care is not making an apology. It IS choosing better words or to put it another way, to take more care. Jeepers!</p>
<p>My opinion is that it would demonstrate more grace to apologize. But I do in fact recognize the difference. I am not at all confused. </p>
<p>Furthermore, it is my belief that there’s no reason to attack me or @booklady123 for supporting @whyamievenhere and others. Again, that’s just one person’s opinion and I have taken much care with my words and make no apologies for doing so. </p>
<p>Ironically, this thread has carried me through another day of waiting for M10 so for that @SevenDad, I am eternally grateful. :-?? </p>
<p>I didn’t attack anyone. You two are the ones taking “great care” not to admonish SD while… admonishing him. </p>
<p>Hey- we’re all here to help.</p>
<p>I’m a newbie parent. Just like everyone else, I benefited a great deal from reading posts by the likes of 7Dad, GMT, etc… They offer some very sound advices, including this one about not stressing yourself out over some decisions you don’t control and have no basis to speculate. I don’t necessarily agree with every advice or opinion they post, but I respect their opinion very much because of their experience in this area. For example, 7Dad wants to keep the fields in the acceptance list to a minimum, but I actually prefer to see more data as long as as they’re well organized. I’ll defer to 7Dad because his experience with prior year threads. In a forum like this, there will be differences of opinions and it’s what this forum lively and interesting. Let’s keep it that way and make our discussions as civil as possible. After all, isn’t that one of the things we want our kids to learn and perfect in BS?</p>
<p>I think everyone here should calm themselves. I think what 7D said was perfectly fine, and I wholeheartedly agree with him. But I think that everyone should take this as 7D’s opinion. As others have said, this is a public forum and people can post as they please. And there have been too many people asking about routine letter sent out by the school. Each reply to every post about the letter has been the same: “Don’t look into it”. And 7D is just giving an overall reply to everyone who has and will post about the letters sent by the schools. So everyone, calm yourselves and get back to worrying about M10. </p>
<p>Honestly, this post didn’t really have anything do to with the comments (IMO). I think this whole newbies (like myself) feeling as if they must screen what they want to say for approval from the legends thing has been going on for a while. Tensions were running high, but no one wanted to be the one to say something. Finally, one person did, and everyone else chose to air out their emotions as well. I think there are certain posts that deserved this reaction WAY more than this one, but ,hey, maybe it’s because 7D is one of the legends (he even has a nickname). Despite the fact that this wasn’t the place for it, I don’t think the attacks on @booklady123 (whose posts I quite enjoy) and others are necessary. Afterall, we are just sharing our opinions. This was all bound to come out some time. Now, let’s all take @sincostan 's advice and go back to worrying about M10.</p>
<p>Lets all do a virtual joining of hands, and sing Kumbaya…</p>
<p>And yes, 7D, there is WAY more anxiety here than a year ago. But maybe that’s because it’s ‘the most competitive year yet’… I read that somewhere… 8-| </p>
<p>@prepschoolhopes:
Speaking as one of the longer-termers here, I certainly don’t want to newbies to feel like they need to tiptoe around. However, going back to my point @travel above, curiosity is fine…but I think needless worry/pointless prognostication is not good for applicant/parent well-being. And that’s what I see going on right now.</p>
<p>P.S. Just don’t ask me if SAS is any good “for a second tier school” ;-P</p>
<p>Thanks for the diagnosis/prognosis, Doc.</p>
<p>I totally agree with 7D — in the three cycles I’ve been here, I’ve never seen so much anxiety and redundant posting, but I can choose to ignore it or move on (which, slowly, I am). Because I’m anal, when I first found CC, I went to the very last page in the archives and read my way back to the first page before I made my first post. It took me three weeks, but I realized I had very, very little to add and that there truly was nothing new under the sun, nothing that hadn’t been discussed to death. I also realized that even the very oldest of posts was not out of date. Thus, it has taken me three years to reach 900+ posts. Some of you are close to killing that that in one cycle. God bless you. If you knew me IRL, you would know that I am the observer in the corner who rarely speaks, but I’m a veritable chatterbox on this forum. I think the posting just reflects our various personalities; it’s all good.</p>
<p>Also, congratulations 7D. Another thread likely to get shut down. You win the prize. ;)</p>
<p>I still think this interface stinks to high heaven and agree with posters who think it’s difficult to find what they’re looking for. The old interface was much, much more navigable.</p>
<p>Plus, the “Sticky” threads at the top of the main section aren’t as well delineated. M10 is going to be a mess despite our best efforts, I fear.</p>
<p>Choatie, you’re a wallflower IRL?! Can’t believe it. Figured you as the witty one in the center of the action.</p>
<p>I haven’t been posting much recently. However, this whole exchange has brought me back to my first exposure to CC, some time while my kid was in the midst of applying. I remember taking a look at the chances threads and a few other threads on the main board and backing away in terror in face of all that angst and superior studentitis. I didn’t come back until after he was accepted–and now have way too many posts under my name. </p>
<p>However, probably because of that brief, scary dip into CC, we spent nearly all of our post application submit/pre-March 10 time talking at the dinner table about all the cool things that would happen if classicalson was home the next year–where he’d be on his sports team, what classes and ec’s he might take, etc., with barely a mention of those applications floating out there on the scary horizon of 3/10. It was all about defusing the pressure, both for him and for us, and CC did nothing but escalate it in my own head and make me more nervous around my kid. </p>
<p>I think that may be what 7dad was trying to get out, in an uncaffeinated kind of way. On one hand, it’s great to come here and defuse about every letter and phone call. On the other hand, it’s possible that even asking the question gets a lot of people unduly nervous about what is essential good manners and good sales technique on the part of the schools :)</p>
<p>Kumbaya. </p>
<p>I’m the gorgeous, silent one TP. ;
(I crack myself up sometimes.)</p>
<p>I have a more reliable predictor of admissions outcome than reading tea leaves: magnetic poop compass
<a href=“Dogs poop in alignment with Earth’s magnetic field, study finds | PBS NewsHour”>http://www.pbs.org/newshour/rundown/dogs-poop-in-alignment-with-earths-magnetic-field-study-finds/</a></p>
<p>When S2 walked dog this morning, dog aligned himself east-west, so it must mean that S2 is getting admitted to Andover & Exeter :o3 :o3 :o3 </p>
<p>Where is the Bunkel Index to be found on these dratted new boards? Are we really reduced to GMT’s poop compass? </p>