I have been following this but have not read it all. I will tell you my/D’s experience- maybe some of it will help.
My daughter chose to apply to a different program other than med school - but it took her 2 years after graduation to figure that out, to finish everything she needed to do, etc. She also spent time interviewing medical students and other health care professionals in order to determine which path to take.
I will tell you what she did during undergrad and beyond, totally unprompted by me. I sat there, listened, and watched.
She researched 25 medical schools and made a list of AP classes that were accepted, not accepted, etc. I stayed out of this until she was finished and decided to discuss it with me.
Shadowed a doctors office and hospital during breaks (pediatrics, orthopedics, obgyn (but not permitted to shadow everything in obgyn- only certain things), also shadowed other health care prof. after graduation and set up interviews. In addition to interviewing physicians, she spoke with nurse practitioners, genetic counselors etc.
Volunteered in a hospital for 15 months. She helped patients navigate the hospital, nurse triage, and translated (Spanish) between patients, nurses, and doctors. If she had decided to apply to medical school, she may have needed more/different type of patient volunteering. I am not really sure.
Volunteered with underrepresented communities- taught yoga and wellness in homeless shelters, worked with refugees for 2 years helping them with medical appointments, homework, etc.
Taught after graduation in underserved communities for 2 years. She also continued to interview doctors and various health care professionals.
Research, was published (might not be important for med schools) One of her research positions allowed for additional volunteer and shadowing hours.
Leadership on campus
None of this was discussed in HS. She was busy doing HS related things- yearbook, student council, football games, etc.
She knew she wanted some kind of science major, but she really had absolutely no idea where she wanted to go with it…and it really was not brought up for discussion while in HS.
I didn’t read this whole thread. I think it’s important for your son to enjoy his last summer before college, without thinking about all of this stuff.
Let him begin college and guide the process himself. His future might involve medical school, or it might not. He needs to discuss all of this with an advisor. Besides an advisor, my D was assigned to a medical student who she met with every few weeks, who could answer her questions etc.
It took my D 2 years to put the pieces together, do the research,and figure out what she wanted next- by herself- with me listening.
Good luck! It’s a real journey….that’s for sure.