<p>Kyedor:</p>
<p>I'm sorry that your daughter has behaved in a way that is disappointing to you. It sounds like you have gone to great lengths to get her into a good educational environment, and just want her to be happy and healthy.</p>
<p>But - please don't think I'm being difficult or unsympathetic to you!!! - this doesn't sound like the end of the world to me. I think she fell in love, which is developmentally appropriate for her age, but with someone who is not what you'd like for her. But who else would she meet at this school? At least she's not using drugs again, from what you've said, and the scheme WAS discovered. Does this really change everything? Some of the earlier suggestions about living at home and attending a community college seem like a good choice, given this new turn of events. I understand the need for a residential HS for kids in treatment, and sometimes they are the only workable option. But it seems that a downside is that all the kids are dealing with some pretty serious issues, and that became her peer group. I really do wish you the best of luck with your daughter, but as my Mom used to say, "Where there's life, there's hope." or "This, too, shall pass." I think that sometimes the process of raising teenagers is just an endurance contest -- you just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Good luck!</p>