<p>Kyedor-
look what I found <a href="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/B0009GOI8U/qid=1131324677/sr=1-1/ref=sr_1_1/104-3785784-4571145?v=glance&s=books%5B/url%5D">http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/B0009GOI8U/qid=1131324677/sr=1-1/ref=sr_1_1/104-3785784-4571145?v=glance&s=books</a>
It mentions 8 colleges for students in recovery</p>
<p>KYEDOR
One suggestion I would make - since she is struggling with the SAT - have her take the ACT - it may be a better test for at this time as it is more curriculim driven - just a thought and another option to consider as well.</p>
<p>I also mentioned NC schools because of the mention of having family in NC - tho there are many schools that have programs in the field of outdoor/adventure/wilderness all over the country. My own DD is at a large NC state Univ - and altho it is a wonderful program - I would probably recommend a smaller and more personal school for this gal - such as the one above - one that may not be sooooo competitive that she could easily get lost in - one where she would not have to compete in the physically small mix of athletes and dancers - tho able to utilize her physical experience - dancing - to her advantage without the competitive imbalance of maybe a large school. She can be the jeans and t-shirt girl who may be hiding inside the dancers body.</p>
<p>One of the reasons I mentioned maybe considering incorporating an adventure - wilderness - outdoor - type of major - is that there are many in this field who have ''been there/done that'' and have been really found to be very successful in this field - as your DD has been successful and liked the mentoring of others and has such a positive experience in her own treatment - it may be something to think about.</p>
<p>She could probably even take some of the college gen ed courses that can be transferred to another school from where she is now and continue to benefit from her present situation.</p>
<p>It sounds as tho this mom and DD have time to look at their options - depending on how things go over the next few months. Seeing as her program goes thru Dec 06 - you may even want to consider a spring enrollment - if and when she is ready.</p>
<p>FALINE2 thank you for that wonderful description - you said it soooo well.</p>
<p>I know my own DD's experience in her major has certainly grounded her alot in her own life. She has come to love the experiences she has entertained in her major - and has certainly grown sooo much - in ways we never could have imagined. She has become somewhat of a crunchy tree hugger but the best kind LOL. Now we cannot even imagine her in any other major/field.</p>
<p>my son spent a good portion of his high school senior year in a rehab as well. His drug of choice - crystal meth. He graduated hs at the age of 16, after skipping 3rd grade. Brilliant child. Due to a court ordered PO, he had to stay home for his freshman year of college,, and just as well. He went to a community college and attended his NA meetings. However, he went back to using and dropped out.. He just wasnt ready to deal with college life.. After working at a department store and living in a half-way house for 2 years, he finally grew up. He now attends a state university where he makes the dean's list. I would be more concerned with the college environment and not so much,, about anything else at this point.</p>
<p>Thank you jym! LOL @ "crunchy tree hugger". I would kiss the ground and if my D became one :) ::off to check out the recovery links:::</p>
<p>You had mentioned a few NC schools but I don't think I had computed that you were West Coasters...that is a far cry from easy parental visits which in your case might be desirable. However, back to promoting the Pisgah Forest, which is actually also near by alma mater and cast a spell of beauty over it as well..Daniel Day Lewis runs all through the Pisgah Forest in buckskins in Last of the Mohicans. Now he was pretty nice to watch..but those of us who had our young adulthoods near there recognized every peak of those gentle wild Blue Ridges and the cliffs which are hilariously nothing at like the New York state mountains in that creaky novel by JF Cooper. Is rhodedendrum big up there...and dogwood? ha. Cold Mountain really is in this region as well, and there is a retirement population from other states that adds some sophistication to theater and arts near there.<br>
Seriously, 18-22 is a time when many people with no crash and burn run-in with meth still need mentoring and adult figures who inspire. I would be looking for a school with intimacy with adults and a more earnest brand of students when the time comes. Adults in my college (Furman U) were extremely nurturing as teachers, tough but warm and accessible which is often the case in schools of smaller sizes. Your were always missed if absent and if you had a troubled spell, they seemed to know about things. There are many schools that tend to attract students who are indifferent to drugs and drinking as ways to use time off, and you have lots of time to think.</p>
<p>DocT, congratulations on your son's successes. Stories like this give me strength to soldier on. Why oh Why do these bright kids put this poison in their bodies? Jeep, I think my D suprised herself with what she accomplished in the wilderness and it was very empowering for her. She had a fear of bugs before (don't we all?) but now she will pick one up. When I was shocked, she explained that after having bugs crawl on you while in the wilderness you get over your fear pretty quickly. You can't be screaming all day long.</p>
<p>Faline my inlaws live in Blowing Rock. It is gorgeous country. We visited there this summer checking out Chapel Hill, Duke and Wake Forest informally with my son. (He's obsessed with getting into Chapel Hill). It really is God's country. After getting input here and doing research I'm coming to the conclusion that a small, supportive college is the way to go.</p>
<p>Its funny - but when my DD left for college - she was far from being that ''crunchy tree-hugger'' she is turning into now. She left here thinking she wanted to be a physical therapist - a difficult and long road to hoe. When she started her freshman year - being from out of state and now knowing a soul in NC - she went on a freshman trip also - a week of kayaking and camping in the Outer Banks of NC. It was - in the long run - something that changed her life. On her return from this trip - she was offered a job in the Adventure Center - part of the Rec Center - of her school. She was exposed to all the programs that they offered and started going on the trips that were offered - hiking, camping, rock climbing, spelunking, surfing, kayaking (ocean and white water) and and and..... After about a year in her major she had somewhat of a melt down - very lost - very unsure of herself - very confused.</p>
<p>We researched her schools other offerings and discovered the Management of Outdoor Facilities and Services major - has several areas of concentration in it. All of a sudden - she blossomed and has become very self assured - is very happy - is very excited about her futured. She has gotten even more involved in her major and activities that surround it - which has essentially taken her on a road that pretty much minimizes her exposure to the party atmosphere of her big school. On her choice - she spends most of her weekends and off time involved in activities that take her away from campus - to experience the things that make her the most happy - the outdoors. She has actually become an activist in some respects, more spiritual, more appreciative of what is in the world around us - and how to enjoy them and to perserve them for others.</p>
<p>Altho we don't think she will ever be rich in $$ - we do know that she will be incredibly wealthy in the offerings of the world around us. The girl who left home 2 1/2 years ago a child - has certainly become an adult that I really like and respect - tho not without some bumps along the way. She is far from home as well - and yes - we worry the same as any parents would - but knowing how happy she is - and having 'found' herself makes this all worth it for us.</p>
<p>KYEDOR - haha I have to chuckle at the bugs story of your DD - was a bit the same with mine too LOL. It is amazing what they CAN do - and it certainly sounds as tho your Dd has realized some things - tho it also sounds as tho she may have a ways to go ahead of her. She is a very lucky gal - having you to advocate for her the way you are - keep up the good work - you will find the ''right'' place for her - and when the time is right - things will fall into place.</p>
<p>Kyedor
As you said, many take crystal meth in order to lose weight. They have no idea of how addictive it is. Its also cheap compared to other drugs.
I know how hard it will be for your D to return home and find a new set of friends. Its a shame that your local NA groups have dealers; I thought NA and an intensive outpatient program would bring her in contact with "recovery" minded peers.</p>
<p>Kyedor,</p>
<p>I immediately thought of Warren Wilson for you D, as did JeepMOM. I wonder if the following link would help?</p>
<p>I have a very good friend whose daughter went to Warren Wilson. This child battled an eating disorder for years, and found Warren Wilson to be charming, quirky and very nurturing. I have visited, and it is truly lovely.</p>
<p>Jeep, your daughter's journey in finding what she loves to do is my dream for my children. I also don't care what kind of salary they make as long as they are rich in spirit. Bookworm, it is a shame about the bad sorts hanging around the NA meeting here. + put in the the mix her poor impulse control and the competitive world of dance to be so thin and it was a recipie for disaster. She did meet nice similar recovering friends at her outpatient program and one of them is the girl who is currently doing very well at Evergreen.</p>
<p>Thanks momofthree for another recommendation to this school, we are going to check out the school when we visit NC early next month. I love their motto, something like "We're not for everyone, but then, you're not everyone" Quirky and nurturing are good combos for my child I think.</p>
<p>I would suggest you also at least consider the University of Wisconsin at Stevens Point. A great place for unique, outdoorsy kids, not too hard to get into, not too expensive, very nurturing for a public college.</p>
<p>KYEDOR - thank you for starting this subject on this board - it is not a topic that is brought to the front very often - but it is reality. Your open and honest words about your DD and your situation may also help others to realize that there is help and a future out there - and not just the top of the heap types. You will find great info and support here - so glad you joined :)</p>
<p>I think quirky and nurturing are a great combo also. Where my DD is - the univ is big - but the department is small - only about 200 in total - so yes - they also have that same type of feel in their own way. My DD has a friend who goes to WW as well - she says she loves it there - and she is a bit of a different flower as well LOL.</p>
<p>If this direction is one you consider pursueing - there are schools all over the country - you have your work cut out for you - and many choices as well.</p>
<p>"I would suggest you also at least consider the University of Wisconsin at Stevens Point." JJG thanks for another place for us to check out. Jeep, having a struggling teen is kind of like childbirth. You start out with all the best intentions but once you are wheeled down a hall grunting, screaming, half naked and not looking your best, you realize that you just do what you need to do to get through it. I love the term "different flower" :)</p>
<p>University of Wisconson at Stevens Point looks like a good match too. My husband (step father of D and husband of only two years and one fantastic supportive man) suggested that we devote a full week in early December to visiting the schools of interest. He's already mapping out our route, starting in NC and coming back across the country so any suggestions would be appreciated.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.ncstaff.net/oed/outdoor_education_dept.htm%5B/url%5D">http://www.ncstaff.net/oed/outdoor_education_dept.htm</a>
I don't anything about this school - but have heard it mentioned - for outdoor type of major - so just passing it along to you.</p>
<p>If Outdoor major is of interest - do a google on 'college outdoor major' and you will come up with a bunch.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.lrc.edu/%5B/url%5D">http://www.lrc.edu/</a> Lenoir-Rhyne College</p>
<p>This is a small liberal arts school in NC - I have read some very positive comments about this school on this board - go to search above and see if you can find the thread on this school - one of the parents has a kiddo with some special circumstances and was very please with what she found here - I personally do not know anything about this school - but may be worth a look.</p>
<p>Thank you Jeep! I will check that out now. I can't believe how much help I've received here. I got a call today from a student at Prescott College after filling out the information request form online yesterday and he was such a nice young man. Very helpful and welcoming. The poor guy got an earfull LOL. I was impressed. He's having a girl from the dance department call me tomorrow. I see my D this weekend and will be able to start to focus on applications.</p>