<p>When I came to college I wanted to go through it quickly so I can make money, so I did 18 credits every semester, took summer school and finished in 2 and half years.
Funny how things change because I went straight to grad school and just started a masters program in Urban Planning..</p>
<p>I'm not working as a TA because luckily I qualified for a minority scholarship so unlike like most grad students I have so much free time (I study right after my 3 classes), more free time than I did in my undergrad which got me thinking of how I wasted my undergrad.</p>
<p>I talk to my classmates but it seems like we are miles apart, they are into more mature stuff, while I still play video games with my undergrad roommates (I'm still 20).</p>
<p>My point is, if I could go back, I would have rushed for a frat, because I'm not very
outgoing, so having 'brothers' that got my back no matter what would have been awesome. Obviously I can't do that now, but anybody got advice on how I can somehow make up for it or socialize or something.</p>
<p>There’s nothing immature about playing video games as long as it doesn’t consume your life. As for pledging a frat…yes, you would have a lot of “brothers”, but that doesn’t mean you would have necessarily like being in one. Besides, it’s water under the bridge now, right? Are there any grad groups/clubs or volunteer org.s you’re interested in?</p>
<p>I agree with your point on having more friends but seriously you are paying for friends when you join a frat (so many people say it too). Greek like is pretty overrated and most of the people in it are tools. I mean they basically take advantage of you when you rush and hurt your grades so is that the type of friend you want?</p>
<p>You pay for a place to live, utilities, chef, alcohol, and etc. You choose the certain fraternity because of the brothers there and the brothers choose you because they feel like you would fit in. </p>
<p>@escoboy</p>
<p>Truth</p>
<p>You did waste your undergrad. </p>
<p>“…so having ‘brothers’ that got my back no matter what would have been awesome”</p>
<p>False </p>
<p>This is very shady and the wrong reason to join a fraternity and also being a human being altogether. It would be great for people to have your back but also you have to theirs as well.</p>
<p>What you really regret is not giving social life enough time instead of not joining a fraternity. A fraternity can be excellent for some people, but it’s not for everyone. You never know unless you’ve actually pledged somewhere; even then, it only applies to that particular house.</p>
<p>As for making up for the experience – it’s not exactly appropriate. I suggest you start bonding with a group of friends and start doing cool things together.</p>
<p>Ah, the good old argument about fraternities. I’d have to say: it’s kind of like college life in general where only the people inside it see the real point.</p>
<p>If you go ask a working class person about elite colleges, they’ll probably say that you’re wasting four years of time and 10 yr worth of money when you could have gone to CC (or random StateU) for much cheaper and still get a degree. What they don’t understand is the networking and value of experience that comes with it.</p>
<p>On the outside, Greek life looks like partying and paying for friends, but it’s hard to get across to people who aren’t in the system exact benefits of brotherhood and why it’s not possible to get equivalent friendships without the fees / pledging. Personally speaking, whwen I joined a fraternity, I took a dive knowing that I could depledge if it really wasn’t for me.</p>
<p>I don’t care about spelling and grammar on an internet forum. I’m just showing you your jealousy and insecurity. If you don’t like the truth you don’t have to attack people who choose their certain path.</p>
<p>^ I have no opinion about this either way. I only delight in the irony of these statements. Misspelling words on internet forums or elsewhere is fairly toolish, as well as pointing this out to people on an internet forum.</p>
<p>Do not talk about fraternities if you do not know about them. Cabhax is my brother, and I will stand by him. You do not pay for friends, at least not me. I knew all the guys in the fraternity i joined before i joined and was happy to be their brother. Greek life is amazing and I could not imagine not being in my fraternity.</p>
<p>Sometimes I regret not joining one (although I still have chances), and sometimes I’m glad I didn’t. The regrets usually happen when I’m sitting alone on a Friday or Saturday night. The 'glad I didn’ts" usually happen when I see a bunch of guys from a fraternity looking and acting like tools. In fact today I saw a gaggle of frat boys and my god, there were more tools than a hardware store.</p>
<p>and yes I know not all frats are full of tools.</p>
<p>btw drugs are bad. Most people in greek life at my school do drugs. And also i’ve heard most people at top tier schools do drugs too in greek life. Since when is coke good? idc if you are at an ivy league and in a frat. doing coke/any drugs is stupid</p>