<p>Incamom -</p>
<p>Thanks for posting. Makes me think how arbitrary all this is. Your daughter will do very very well. And I can promise you, Yale won't matter 10 years from now. It won't matter 5 years from now. It won't even matter 1 year from now. It may not matter 5 months from now. Your daughter is still that great kid. Hang in there.</p>
<p>Incamom:</p>
<p>You have two wonderful daughters, and you sound like a great mom. Right now is a tough time as she needs to recoup her spirits and crank out more applications but I am confident that Iney will get admitted into a great school.</p>
<p>Incamom, welcome and please, please don't let a language issue keep you from participating. </p>
<p>Not really much I can add to all the wonderful posts you've already received. Berurah's story from last year is so much on point with what you're going through. One of the first threads I remember reading when I joined was Berurah's concern over her Son's non-admission to Yale. And then we all got to follow along as he fell in love with Duke. </p>
<p>You obviously have a wonderful daughter, and it must be so difficult to see her disappointed. But we all know that she will find a wonderful school that's perfect for her.</p>
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<p><em>sniff</em> incamom, this is the most sensitive and beautiful thing. What a loving and supportive family you have raised! :)</p>
<p>My son who was rejected from Yale is the oldest of six children. What your younger daughter did reminds me SO much of what my children did after my son's rejection. When he was so saddened by the rejection that he isolated himself in his room for the remainder of the evening/night and didn't even eat dinner, my oldest daughter and the rest of the kids made a glittery poster to hang on his door that basically said what your sweet younger daughter did and told him that it was YALE'S loss. The poster stayed on his door for a long time.....</p>
<p>Duke sounds like an excellent prospect for your daughter! My son is also VERY science oriented (will major in biology or biochemistry), and Duke is a very special place for those types of kids. IMHO, Duke also does an extraordinary job of trying to look at the WHOLE student in the application process. My son's high school VERY rarely sends anyone to an elite school, and my son is the first that it has sent to Duke, and yet, Duke was willing to take that chance on him. </p>
<p>I know that with the support and guidance of your family and the expertise of those "in the know," your VERY bright, talented and determined daughter will have many wonderful choices by April. </p>
<p>Believe me, we know well the disappointment she (and your whole family) feels right now. This disappointment WILL melt away with her future successes!</p>
<p>Your daughter has an enthusiastic pep squad and rooting section here on CC!!! With this many people pulling for her, something wonderful is bound to happen!</p>
<p>Sending BIG {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}} for your sweetie, and best wishes for the rest of her application process! love, ~berurah</p>
<p>Incamom, your post was touching and beautifully written, whether your daughter edited it or not. I hope you will continue to post.</p>
<p>I can go a little farther into the future with our similar situation. Our son was outright rejected (I despise that word...how about "not accepted") ED by an ivy (legacy no less) with pretty darn good stats...looking back it was difficult, probably more to me than to him. To make a long story short he ended up majoring in computer science at a top tier school ranked much higher in CS than the ivy. Loved his school, stayed a fifth year for a masters and last July began working in NYC at a well-known investment bank. It couldn't have worked out any better for him no matter where he would have gone. He has assured me he wouldn't change a thing.</p>
<p>In a different year your daughter just as easily could have been accepted or at least deferred. The sting will fade--quickly--as your daughter puts her energy into the idea of going somewhere else. Please believe us veterans when we tell you she will be fine. I have no doubt she'll end up at a fabulous school that may end up being even better for her. Best of luck to you both.</p>
<p>I wanted to pipe up as the parent of another kid who was rejected at Yale, yet got in everywhere else he applied, including Harvard. He's at Columbia and loves it. Every admissions department is different, every year is different, every applicant pool is slightly different.</p>
<p>It's difficult in the ED round, because your daughter feels she did something wrong or she would have been accepted. Once the RD results come in, she'll be able to say: what was wrong with Yale?</p>
<p>Incamom,</p>
<p>Thanks so much for taking the time to write. Your are clearly a brave and loving parent. It will all be well, and your kids are lucky to have you as their mom.</p>
<p>Incamom,
We, too, were part of the Yale Massacre 2 yrs ago. Yes, it was hurtful all around after all the sweat, tears, and effort D had invested. But, that was why she applied EA...knowing that the chances were slim...we wanted to get the "word" early so that she could move forward. Right from the start, her list of colleges were selected with thought and care so that she would be happy to attend any one of them. In the end, she found a "home" and ended up where she is very happy. Best to you...</p>
<p>IncaMom, what a wonderful post. I'm sorry if the point of my post got lost...it's not that things worked out wonderfully for my D, it's that mine, like so many who have posted here, wound up having absolutely wonderful choices come through, many that wound up offering more to the student than even Yale. And for what it's worth, Yale is the only rejection that I still have the remotest fragment of regret about...but my head knows that D is getting a better college experience where she is.</p>
<p>incamom - How kind and thoughtful of you to post. I had the pleasure of reviewing iney's essays and, now that we hear from you, I see where she gets her grace and good heart. Her accomplishments and writing are wonderful, but the most important thing is the hero she is to you and her sister. I am sure she will be a hero to many others as the years go by.</p>
<p>Some great advice and emotions on this thread. It absolutely needs to be one of the featured discussions and placed in the CC hall of fame.</p>
<p>Here's one more uplifting story for you. Daughter was also enamored of Yale. Was deferred SCEA last year and rejected RD. Was accepted to Duke, Penn, UVA as an Echols Scholar, and many other good places. Penn really wanted her and designated her a University Scholar and she is thriving there and loves Philadelphia. Everything will work out great for you in the end, so stay positive and give your all to your other applications. Good luck!</p>
<p>I've thought about this a bit more -- incamom and iney I don't want to throw water on you AT ALL, but I think it's important to remind you that while I think you have a great shot at any of the super-selective schools, you do need to develop a list of some safeties -- which can be hard for kids with such high credentials. For some perspective on this, you may wish to refer to Andi's thread from last year.</p>
<p>Wow! Im so glad that i came across this post its extremely encouraging! I too applied to Yale scea this year and felt that i would definitely get accepted. But sadly on dec. 16th I didn't even get deferred but flat out rejected. Obviously I was devastated and I felt even worse the next day when my friends called me up to ask how it went. I considered telling them I didn't know yet but i settled on admitting about my rejection. They were very supportive!
I didn't feel like i wanted to return to cc ever again because it would bring back my memories of Yale yet I concluded just a few hours ago that it was indeed yale's loss. Losing me and you ! I'm sure we'll both end up at amazing places which we r meant to be in. Who knows who we r destined to meet and how we are destined to spend our time. I got my December sat score and I feel confident once more. Iv decided to apply to Harvard, Princeton, brown, Chicago and a few other matches. YOU SHOULD DO THE SAME (not to the same schools of course but to the ones which you like best). Im so glad hat you r trying to improve your essays and I will do the same and try to make my application even better otherwise I will have not gained A THING from those 70 dollars!
One day people will say o this girl she got rejected from Yale but look where she is now, and Im sure they'll say the same about you!!
and on another less narcissistic note would anyone mind taking a look at some of my rd essays!
Id really appreciate it!</p>
<p>Elodie:</p>
<p>Princeton, Brown,Harvard and Chicago are not matches for anyone! Include some less selective schools as well.</p>
<p>I know!! I already got into my saftey iv applied to Boston U and im applying to macalester colgate Case western reserve and a university in germany!!
after yale I would never assume!</p>
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<p>elodie~</p>
<p>I was so sorry to read about your EA rejection from Yale. As you can see from my above posts, both my son and I realize what a blow this type of thing can be, particularly in the isolation that is EA/ED. You sound like you have an amazing attitude and the resilience it takes to reach a successful completion of your college app. process. That said, I would like to support lderochi's suggestion to find some true safety schools at which you would be happy. The Ivies and other elite schools cannot be counted on as a "match" for ANYONE, though stats may suggest that they would be. The selections are simply too unpredictable for anyone to consider them matches. So, go for the brass ring, but just make certain that you have a nice, soft, appealing safety net below! Here's wishing you the best! ~berurah</p>
<p>edit~<em>lol</em> Didn't mean to beat a dead horse...marite's post wasn't there when I responded! ;)</p>
<p>lol sorry for being vague I mean Im applying to those ALONG WITH my safety and match schools. Don't worry I dont think those schools r some matches.</p>
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<p>The only one who will remember is ~maybe~ you, but I doubt you'll even think about it. You'd be surprised how little these things matter later in life.</p>
<p>ppl still remember tht steven speilburg did...but ur right! it will not matter !!</p>