revised confidence :]

College Life
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<p>Confidence is one key to a successful beginning at college. It’ll help you meet new people, accomplish things you’ve never tried before and overcome obstacles. </p>

<li><p>Act at first if you must. If confidence doesn’t come naturally to you, pretend you have it. Picture yourself as someone else — a confident someone else. Pretend you’re an actress playing a role. By taking the performance outside yourself, you can concentrate on the behaviors needed to project confidence rather than judging your every move. Once you’ve practiced being confident, the behaviors will become more natural to you. </p></li>
<li><p>Make eye contact. People need to know you’re approachable. If they can’t see your eyes, they won’t trust you, and they’ll be uncomfortable in approaching you. Eye contact can be used to send powerful non-verbal messages to others — everything from “Yes, can I help you?” to “Get away from me.” This is a skill you’ll want to perfect so you can affect people positively. </p></li>
<li><p>Smile! A smile says, “I’m friendly.” It draws people to you and exudes confidence! </p></li>
<li><p>Seek people. Be the first to say, “Yo.” Experiment with other social conventions, too, such as “Hi,” “Hey ya,” “What’s up?” or the always acceptable, “Hello.” </p></li>
<li><p>Don’t duck the uncomfortable. Don’t be embarrassed if you see someone you think you’ve already met but can’t remember her name. Step up and say, “Have we met? You look familiar. I’m so-and-so.” If you replace “so- and-so” with your name, this really works. Otherwise, results could be mixed. </p></li>
<li><p>Talk to strangers. This flies in the face of everything your parents taught you about not talking to strangers, but these “strangers” are just your fellow students. Don’t think of them as strangers. Think of them as friends you haven’t yet met. The time to make a determination of how strange they truly are will come later. </p></li>
<li><p>Start a conversation. After all, you’ll probably be in class with this person on and off for the next few years. Consider asking your newfound friend a question about homework. </p></li>
<li><p>Be proactive. Be the first to speak. Others will be thankful for it. If you don’t know what to say, ask a question. That will transfer the responsibility for the conversation to someone else. Sneaky, but it works. </p></li>
<li><p>Laugh! Nothing projects confidence like a hardy guffaw. Even if someone’s remark is only marginally funny, giggle away if the comment was in good taste. It’ll make the speaker feel good about her — and you. </p></li>
<li><p>Believe in yourself. If someone slights you or ignores your overtures of friendship, move on. You can continue to be kind to this person, but there’s no need to press for friendship if she isn’t making any effort to be kind in return. </p></li>
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<p>Better? </p>

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<p>no, the other one was better.</p>

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<p>I like this one better. Very nice post!</p>

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<p>I never saw the other one but I developed a very similar list with only one additional one that I didnt see here.</p>

<p>When you're at the mirror say (in your head but aloud is risky) 2 good things about yourself [not necessarily physical] and mean it. Believe me this method more than anything increased my confidence.</p>

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<p>best post on the entire college discussion board.</p>

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<p>I'm always the first to say yo.</p>

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<p>Eh ... it's easier to just join clubs on campus or get a job if you're looking to meet people.</p>

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<p>thanks El1jah! hope this post helped you guys... :]</p>

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<p>It's common sense, but yes it's a good post.</p>

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<p>i really think number 10, is a fantastic lesson everyone should know. other than that you really sound like quite the friendly and personable person. :-)</p>