<p>What's your opinion on how far roommates should share?</p>
<p>Personally, I'd prefer sharing is limited to the room itself, the refrigerator, and other large appliances that can be shared. x.x</p>
<p>I've heard nightmare stories about roommates who use their roommate's items without permission or even go through them while the other is out.</p>
<p>Any personal experiences? What are your rules with your roommate when it comes to sharing?</p>
<p>Me and my roommate shared food. When my parents came to visit they’d always drop off a LOT of snacks, so we would just eat each other’s stuff, no big deal. </p>
<p>I shared the fridge and printer with her too. So yeah things like that are fine. </p>
<p>I also borrowed her manicure sets, her scarves, headbands, shoes, dresses, bobby pins, hair spray, stapler, scissors, paper, perfume, markers etc. I kind of helped myself to a lot of things…but we’re both laid back about sharing, so it was never an issue. She’d use a lot of my things too. </p>
<p>I do admit that when she wasn’t around, I’d take things and use them without specifically asking. But it’s because we were already so comfortable with each other. I think if you are clear about what you DON’T want people using, then your roommate will respect that. You don’t have to declare ground rules, but if you are pretty private about the things you want to keep to yourself, then you’ll get the message across.</p>
<p>we’d share appliances, books, magazines, food, money, tape, post-it notes, laptops, pencils, and things all the way up to some clothes, although I was kinda upset when my roommate wore one of my expensive dress shirts to a frat party without getting permission (although he tried to text me at least). Luckily nothing was stained or anything thank god. Sharing was pretty common with us, and it wasn’t a one-way street (although with classy clothes it was haha). </p>
<p>I had another roommate (three to a room) and was literally told that I could not touch his stuff without getting permission first, which he never gave. So yeah, I got both ends of the spectrum.</p>
<p>All of my roommates so far have walked into the room and made sure the first thing that they told me was, “Don’t touch my stuff or bother asking for permission.” And quite honestly, that didn’t matter to me. Thanks to the timing of when they moved in, we didn’t know each other at the beginning of the year and therefore weren’t sharing any items. </p>
<p>I think that the only things roommates NEED to share is the fridge/microwave/items bought together. Beyond that is choice. If you’re okay with your roommate borrowing a pencil or something without asking, then you can hint it by keeping them in a pencil holder on your desk. If you really want them to keep their hands off, keep everything more out of sight. (I’m sure this will lead certain people to snooping if they need an item or are just mean.)</p>
<p>I’d be comfortable with my roommate using anything that can’t be used up, like food or hair products and stuff like that.
I have no problem its just that I get extremely ****ed, even at family members, when I want to eat/use something and there’s little to none left.</p>
<p>We had a written roommate agreement, stating what could be shared and what was off limits, and what the quiet/lights out policy would be in the room. If your school does not automatically do this, talk to your roommate on your own (google roommate agreement and you’ll find something useful). If you have problems with it later on, talk with your roommate, and if the problem continues, talk with your RA.</p>
<p>depends on who the roomate is</p>
<p>My roommate and I did not get along. We shared the room and the appliances. Food was shared on a case by case basis, like if I was eating something I might offer her some. She did let me borrow an outfit for an interview once. At one point I seriously considered buying a cable splitter and a 13in tv so I could take my 32in home, put the 13in on my desk, and tell her she was screwed because she was not sharing the tv I brought very well. That was our only sharing conflict.</p>
<p>Sharing/borrowing was one of the first things my roommate and I discussed. We found that we were both absolutely fine with sharing clothes, supplies, etc., with each other as long as permission was asked first. Personally, with such limited space for my clothes in a dorm, I look forward to being able to also wear items from her closet! It basically doubles both of our wardrobes!</p>
<p>Once when I was in college, I woke up to find that my roommate was looking in my closet to find something to wear. I said in a shocked tone of voice, “Jessica! You’re naked!” She said, “No, I’m not. I’m wearing beige underwear.” I said, “OK,” rolled back over and fell asleep again. I was perfectly fine with the fact that she was borrowing clothes without asking (and taking them on a trip); I just couldn’t believe she’d walk into my room naked. We thought it was great that we could share clothes.</p>
<p>Once in graduate school, I was studying with a friend, we decided to order pizza, and I offered him a drink that my roommate (different from the first one) had bought. When she came home later, she was livid. It wasn’t a special drink, she didn’t want to drink it that night anyway, and I could buy her another one the next day. But to her, giving my friend her drink was unforgivable. Had I known her view, of course I never would have done it. I never did it again. </p>
<p>Conclusion: Whatever the two of you agree upon is fine. Just make sure you know your roommate’s opinions in advance (and tell him or her yours). If you feel uncomfortable sharing anytime other than the room, the refrigerator and large appliances, just let him or her know in a nice way at the beginning.</p>
<p>Last year (one roommate, one room), we shared the minifridge, snacks, drinks, etc. He brought a TV and Xbox and I used them all the time. Obviously if he wanted to play/watch something he got preference. I think I let him borrow a tie a couple times. We’re not the same size in clothes at all so sharing clothes wasn’t even an option. I was really good friends with him (rooming again this year) so we didn’t have conflicts.</p>
<p>This year (three roommates, apartment-style), three of us share our stuff with each other. One guy’s TV is in our common area, his Xbox, etc. Our fourth roommate is a random guy that we’d never met before, and he tends to keep to himself and his room so I doubt we’ll be sharing things.</p>
<p>It’s really not a big deal. My roommate and I are really laid back, so we share pretty much everything. The only thing that annoyed me was his friends ate all my homebaked cookies, but I just jokingly brought it up and he got that it bothered me. Other than that, we’ve shared toiletries, food, appliances, etc. The only thing he said he didn’t want to share was his clothes, which is fine with me because I don’t like wearing others’ clothes… and he has no style :p</p>
<p>Everything but food items that were obviously one serving, and clothes (nowhere near the same size). Toiletries were pretty much on a one time use thing (like I was out of toothpaste, used hers for the night etc.)
We were also both white with brown hair so we shared a fake.</p>
<p>Hm…I don’t really condone fakes but I’m just old school like that.</p>
<p>^ Written agreement… reminds me of The Big Bang Theory.</p>
<p>“If either of us invents time travel in the future, by initialing here we agree that our first stop will be to return to this meeting, ten seconds from now.”</p>
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Lol, wow. 10char</p>
<p>I only had two roommates during the entirety of college - my freshman year (sophomore and junior years I was an RA, and senior year I just had a single because I was a senior), and during the summer between my junior and senior year for an internship.</p>
<p>Anyway, both of those roommates were really cool people, and we shared a lot of stuff. Food, pencils, the freshman year one used my laptop when she needed to when hers broke, and if we wore the same size I’m sure we’d have shared shoes or whatever. We didn’t have a fridge or any appliances like that (wasn’t allowed).</p>
<p>Now I’ve had an apartment-mate since I am in grad school, and aside from the obvious stuff (kitchen and bathroom appliances and living room furniture) we’ve shared cosmetics (not makeup but like lotions or whatever), used each other’s blow dryers and flat irons, borrowed clothes (we wore the same size this time) and shoes (ditto), and food.</p>
<p>I like a laid-back roommate that wants to share. Most of the stuff that I own can be easily replaced, and I don’t care if my roommate eats my Wavy Lay’s - I can always buy more, and I love to share with friends.</p>