<p>Does Fordham have a student survey to match prospective roommates?</p>
<p>Sort of. Its very short. But they also look at other factors from your application. They try hard to match up good kids, but off of paperwork its hard. Also depends on which dorm you select. Loschert and South are not the same as Queens, Hughes or Tierney.</p>
<p>yes, you will receive a questionnaire which reslife uses to match roommates. Also, you can request a roommate.</p>
<p>Ok thanks guys, just wanted to make sure it wasn’t completely random. I don’t mind meeting people and I guess part of growing up is getting learning to coexist with others haha</p>
<p>Many people in fact prefer the randomness of roomies. There is a considerable line of logic/experience that says rooming with your best buddies as a freshman is the fastest way to ruin friendships. By sophomore and junior year you can make better choices, but its always a challenge with people’s quirks and habits and schedules. Be tolerant and patient, and when in doubt, just head over to the library or cafe or down the hall to get some air.</p>
<p>It’s funny…I’m LESS worried about who will be rooming with my S than I am about my S rooming with others. A morning person who sings in the shower and leaves his stuff all over the place? I wonder how that will go over! :D</p>
<p>sandkmom…no need to worry. Freshmen dorms are pretty much all communal bathroom/showers down the hall (single sex, thank God) . Not very many private full bathrooms, though a few might have a sink and toilet. So no worrying about singing in the shower. If your son signs up for 8 am classes it will be fine. Some kids take night classes or late afternoon classes to adjust to their schedule. I would specify that fact on your questionaire when it comes out in June, that he is a cheery morning person (and presumably not a night owl.) But all dorms are very noisy and a lot of drama occurs.</p>
<p>As for being messy…well…not many boys are neatniks. Some are, but most are clutterbugs. Then again, some girls are clutterbugs too! So long as he doesnt room with an OCD night owl who likes peace and quiet he will be fine! LOL.</p>
<p>Funny, cause my D too sings in the shower, is a morning person and a total leave your stuff all over the place kind of person!!! Major night owl too!!! hahaha… too bad they cant room together!!, since you have a S and I have a D … LOL!!! Sound like the same person!!! They prob will end up being friends!!!:)</p>
<p>As for morning person, I mean she is a cheery morning person but prob will avoid taking 8am classes if poss…She does stay up late though which is why the 8am slot prob wont be her first choice!!!Has been a nightowl since she popped out of the womb! Same as my husband!!So I do believe its heredity.My D#2 is like me.Early to bed, early to rise!! LOL</p>
<p>Well, actually, there is still cause for worry…S will be at LC in an apartment suite! That means he gets to wake up 2 or 3 rooms with his very loud (but excellent!) singing and music! It will be FABULOUS for him to learn to live with others and very quiet here at home! </p>
<p>And caseymom, I’m sure that our kids paths will cross even though your D will be at RH and my S at LC! But THANK GOD there is no co-ed rooming!!! I’m WAY too conservative for that!!!</p>
<p>The good thing about the apartments at LC is that you can be messy in your own space without affecting the communal space. As for singing in the shower… well the walls are very thin, so he might have to start singing quietly! The floors are co-ed, for freshman the rooms go male-female-male-female down the hall. Since they’re private it doesn’t make much of a difference though.
A word of caution for the messy (because I have fallen into this trap in past years)… The beds are very high up meaning you can pile large masses of “stuff” under them when cleaning… try to fill the space with other things (like suitcases) so you don’t get the moving out where did all this stuff come from!!! effect! :)</p>
<p>Oh believe me Sandkmom, theres NOOO way my D would be rooming with a male!! So Thank God its not allowed and she wouldnt want it anyway!!! Plus ,dont think her boyfriend would like it either!!hahaha
But she does want to eventually take classes at LC…so crossing paths prob will occur…:)</p>
<p>Fordham has a LIBERAL and permissive rule on visitation in dorm rooms, up to 3am. Fordham students regularly are up until 200am studying…as classes are late morning and afternoon for most. Every dorm is coed, with males on different wings and/or different floors. Its an honor system. The RA’s dont do room checks. Unless there is strong suspicion of people violating the rules. They DO check rooms for drugs and alcohol abuse. Do kids violate the rules? Yes, because some kids think its cool to “get over the system and mom and dad” by being coy and dishonorable. Then again, sex can occur at all hours of the day and it does. Even in catholic colleges. Because kids think “they are free” and can make their own decisions, not realizing they are only hurting themselves, risking health problems (and they DO occur at Fordham…STD’s and worse), and humiliation and even expulsion from the University. What percentage of kids are rule breakers and immoral? Depends on the day of the week and class…it varies. MOST kids are moral and have enough SELF RESPECT not to engage in egregious immoral acts, violating the rules and annoying roommates and classmates and friends. But it is what occurs at every college and its disturbing, but a fact of life. We hope our kids come to Fordham with the morals and mutual respect they were raised with. Most do. Some don’t. I have heard HORROR stories. But also have heard of sweet kids, trying hard to do what is right, while enjoying a HEALTHY relationship. Fordham profs and administrators are not babysitters. RA’s are fellow students. You get the drift. </p>
<p>Violating the rules can be serious if egregious and repeated. You can lose your housing privileges or worse. On the other hand, not all sleepovers are sexual. Some are for personal reasons, like getting away from a bad roommate, a drunken roommate or other safety reasons, or sometimes because the power is out (rare, but it has occurred.) </p>
<p>Letting go as parents is very difficult. We hope and pray they make good decisions. </p>
<p>I know a story of someone…a nice, highly intelligent (on full scholarship) male student who was sort of dating females…then for whatever reason…went the other direction. The resultant turmoil in the circle of friends was traumatic and potentially catastrophic…and it was even more emotional because he was caught by his roommate in the middle of the afternoon with another male. It was devastating…and he had to be moved to a new single room, where he was in despair, and felt rejected by his former friends. Thankfully, it has mostly resolved in the past year or so…and more accepting…he remains a brilliant student and is stable and doing well.</p>
<p>so things occur on both sides of the fence, if you will. </p>
<p>Dorm drama is the NORM. Its not Ozzie and Harriet I can assure you. So buckle up and strap in. And have close contact with your kid, though not too much…they have to grow and learn and discern. </p>
<p>Even upper classmen sometimes have a “floor meeting” and deal with people who are violating the rules egregiously…and they move out. </p>
<p>The vast majority of kids at Fordham, like most schools, are too busy and its too expensive to blow the money…to engage in risky behavior. Most are a core group of good kids with good morals and who don’t drink to excess or take drugs. Campus security is good. But stuff does happen. And part of dorm life (there being no frats and sororities at Fordham) is learning to “self govern” and be responsible and deal with problems as best they can. </p>
<p>If someone has a roomie who is over the top and violating rules repeatedly and without remorse etc, then you can go to the RA’s and ResLife and force them out or get another room assignment. But they prefer you to work it out, and with some counseling, to resolve problems in a mature way, caring way and for the benefit of all.</p>
<p>Ghostbuster, I sincerely hope I am misinterpreting what you said. Did you mean to say that homosexuality is immoral? There is a VERY large bisexual and homosexual population at Fordham, and I have yet to meet a student who isn’t comfortable with that. Most are proud of how accepting students are. Gay, lesbian, transgendered, all are welcome at Fordham and none are thought of as rule breakers, immoral people, anything less than intelligent, unhealthy, or any other term you used that could potentially be applied to your paragraph on that boy. What my hope is is that you meant to say both straight and homosexual students engage in sex, not that there is anything wrong with being either.</p>
<p>Also, not simply because I am a college student who thinks they are “free,” I don’t believe it is immoral to have pre-marital sex. I believe that in a healthy, loving, faithful relationship it is completely normal. As long as precautions are taken I don’t see what could be “disturbing” or indicate a lack of self respect. I know a great number of amazing people in and out of these types of relationships who are sexually active at Fordham and at other schools who are great students and great people.</p>
<p>And for the record for those considering Fordham. I am best friends with my roommates, half of whom are sexually active and half who are not. It has yet to be an issue with us.</p>
<p>Also, don’t count on RA’s to do much without hard evidence of drugs. We had an incident where a friend of a roommate started smoking pot in our bathroom and because we were all choking on it and opened the windows after kicking the guy out the RA said there was no evidence and they couldn’t do anything.</p>
<p>Ghostbuster, I sincerely hope I am misinterpreting what you said. Did you mean to say that homosexuality is immoral? There is a VERY large bisexual and homosexual population at Fordham, and I have yet to meet a student who isn’t comfortable with that. Most are proud of how accepting students are. Gay, lesbian, transgendered, all are welcome at Fordham and none are thought of as rule breakers, immoral people, anything less than intelligent, unhealthy, or any other term you used that could potentially be applied to your paragraph on that boy. What my hope is is that you meant to say both straight and homosexual students engage in sex, not that there is anything wrong with being either.</p>
<p>Also, not simply because I am a college student who thinks they are “free,” I don’t believe it is immoral to have pre-marital sex. I believe that in a healthy, loving, faithful relationship it is completely normal. As long as precautions are taken I don’t see what could be “disturbing” or indicate a lack of self respect. I know a great number of amazing people in and out of these types of relationships who are sexually active at Fordham and at other schools who are great students and great people.</p>
<p>And for the record for those considering Fordham. I am best friends with my roommates, half of whom are sexually active and half who are not. It has yet to be an issue with us.</p>
<p>Also, don’t count on RA’s to do much without hard evidence of drugs. We had an incident where a friend of a roommate started smoking pot in our bathroom and because we were all choking on it and opened the windows after kicking the guy out the RA said there was no evidence and they couldn’t do anything.</p>
<p>NYC2013, this thread was about roommates and problems associated with roommates, and I mentioned issues surrounding people being insensitive and disrespectful and violating the well established rules at Fordham, published by ResLife. You have diverted it to a debate on morality, which I am very sorry, but I am not going to engage with you here, certainly not in this thread. </p>
<p>If you wish to start a thread on Catholic Doctrine or social morality, then I suggest kindly that you take that to another area of CC. </p>
<p>Many posters here are students, but many are also parents. My comments were generic and non judgmental, and related to rules and common mutual respect for roommates. Please don’t put words in my mouth or assign a judgmental tone to what I said.</p>
<p>Yeah haha I just want to know general stuff about roommates 
Both nyc and ghostbuster, do you guys know how the triple experience is? I’m thinking of tripling to save a little cash? Any friends regret it? I heard most people liked the triples so I’m positive</p>
<p>Sunday: triples can be fine, if people respect each other, their space and their schedules. I know of several which work out fine. And many request triples or quads for sophomore year anyway. Even Hughes, the ubiquitous party dorm, with quads can be okay. I dont know if Fordham is going to start on the refurbishment of Hughes immediately (I think so) so that may not even be an option.</p>
<p>You can save money in a triple and that may be important to you and your family. Then go for it. Some people get forced into triples fall semester as kids accept offers at Fordham and they are short of space. </p>
<p>Roommates can be fun and the best thing that ever happened. Just remember to be tolerant and caring.</p>
<p>Woah, I feel like dorm life is being portrayed like some sort of moral warzone at Fordham.</p>
<p>People have sex here. People don’t have sex. People have sex with members of the same sex. People do drugs and drink. People study. People sleep. </p>
<p>For the most part, all of these activities co-exist in Fordham dorms. Sometimes you’ll hear of an inconvenient situation, but I’ve never heard of ‘egregious behavior’ being met with the dramatic social, moral, and legal ramifications described. I’m sure it has happened, but for the most part students, RAs, and administrators are pretty understanding and flexible when dealing with any conflicts that arise.</p>
<p>I understand its not that bad, ghostbuster was just providing some advice and input. </p>
<p>Anyone else have insight on triples??</p>