@compmom thanks. Yeah, violin is his thing, oh well and won’t be swayed. Yes to some accommodation, whether that continues is very much up in the air. Yes to medication. It’s been a godsend. Without it he’s on a different track entirely.
@mamaedefamilia These are great suggestions. CTCL was our first dip into these waters and many of those schools are on the currently large list.
For everyone else who’s talking about money: I hear you very clearly. I just joined this forum. It’s a little weird to share everything about my family, my kid’s accomplishments and deficits AND my family’s finances. I get now that advice is limited without considering cost. I think we will be able to make most outcomes work though have lived long enough to know that nothing is certain.