@momprof9904 Thank you. Very helpful. Since I originally posted this, we’ve visited a handful of colleges both larger and smaller, more and less competitive. I’m very much for a smaller school for him, but he was not so interested. After the tours, he realizes that a bigger size is not as important as he thought so that’s progress. We will be looking at some smaller NJ schools too. Thank you for the suggestions. He does take medication which is necessary for him and increases his ability to function in these ways about 80%. He has mild accommodations in a 504 plan. He does have extra time but generally doesn’t need it, and really doesn’t like taking tests in a room alone. The most helpful accommodation is ability to get a copy of class notes, but he doesn’t really utilize it yet. Maybe this year.
It’s a whole 'nother question how to/whether to address his ADD with colleges. Would love to hear more about your experience and advice.