<p>I don’t remember the stuff we had in 5th grade but everyone in my high school had to take a health class sophomore year. Pretty sure we focused more on the sexual diseases than anything else.</p>
<p>nothing much, as far as I can remember.
we have a few pregnant girls, maybe once a year.
although I recall doing the STD PowerPoint… blergh.</p>
<p>angryengineer: Where did I say I accepted their opinions as my own? Like I said I HAVEN’T been in a situation where I have to worry about it. Can I believe that sex in a relationship can make it VERY complicated, YES because it can. I am young, I shouldn’t make it an effort to settle in somewhere now, so I don’t. Is it wrong to want to wait? I don’t need something physical to feel loved so I am content with where I am now.</p>
<p>Middle school taught abstinence. High school…I don’t really remember. It encouraged abstinence, I believe, but there was birth control stuff there too. Of course, the people in my high school are pretty sexually active, to the best of my knowledge…as for my middle school chums, I don’t talk to them much anymore so I have no idea how it affected them.</p>
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<p>Emphasis should be on the “can” rather than “yes”. Sex, especially nowadays, doesn’t make things nearly as complicated (generally) unless there’s a pregnancy or STI involved. Sexual attitudes have changed radically.</p>
<p>True, instead of evil spirits now we have evil germs. Ewwww sex is dirty and wrong but violence, often due to sexual repression, well that’s okay?!?</p>
<p>States that supports abstinence only over comprehensive sex ed are regressive. Studies have shown over and over again that they don’t work.</p>
<p>Some people just have different attitudes toward sex. Some people are the more progressive type, and others are more conservative. That’s fine. Sex DOES complicate things many times- hello, friends with benefits? Very complicated.<br>
I would argue that some abstinence only programs do work (very few, however). I think abstinence only is more of a religion thing- as in, it works best when taught in conjunction with religious beliefs. That’s the way I was taught, and I CHOOSE to follow through with it. I personally don’t abstain because people tell me to. It’s my choice, just like it’s your choice to have sex. Many people abstain because of religion (I’m assuming from his post that that is probably why DrewCollins does as well) and there’s nothing wrong with that.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t say I am progressive or conservative towards it. While yes waiting is most likely the way I will go about it, if I meet the right person and things happen before marriage I don’t see me beating myself up over it. I don’t know were the sexual repression came up but I don’t see how anything I have said would lead to it.</p>
<p>I was speaking in general drew. I dont advocate irresponsible behavior. Most people have sex for pleasure not procreation though. I find it unusual behavior if teens are not having sex. Only humans can complicate one of the most natural acts in the world. No wonder there are so many pent up and sexually confused people today. Some will liberate themselves from their childhood conditioned brainwashing…others wont. I do find it amusing that many peoples symptoms of depression and anxiety disappear after having sex.</p>
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<p>Not to be rude or judgmental, but you have never been in this situation so honestly you don’t know. I thought FWB would be complicated, but it was not. </p>
<p>I don’t, personally, believe that people who don’t have sex can judge whether or not sex makes things complicated because it’s all theory to them. This is one of those things that you truly have to experience to know whether or not it complicates things. In my experience, it complicates things very little (and this is not just for me).</p>
<p>But like you said that’s just in your experience. Everyone I’ve ever met who HAS been in that situation (and most of my friends have) have found it complicated and/or difficult in some way at some point.</p>
<p>Theoretically, I can see abstinence-only education being effective for people who are very cautious and responsible, but those types of people would likely be abstinent anyway even if they were taught how to use birth control, because they wouldn’t want to risk the possibility of contraceptive failure. I think the way I was taught (abstinence being recommended but also teaching about the different kinds of birth control and how to use them) is probably the best way to target everyone.</p>
<p>Also, I don’t see how having a friend with benefits would be more complicated than a real relationship. Judging from my experience, the reverse seems to be true. I would like to hear some examples of friends with benefits making things complicated.</p>
<p>FWB is only complicated if someone is being dishonest. The only other reason I can think of is someone with insecure jealousy issues. A FWB or any healthy and mature relationship is probably not for them.</p>
<p>The only complication I’ve heard about FWB is that one of my friends was in love with his FWB. But this was way before the sex.</p>
<p>I think in many cases feelings develop at some point for one person and not for the other (or not to the same degree). There’s usually a reason FWBs aren’t in a relationship in the first place so feelings don’t usually work out in that situation.</p>
<p>Of course this is not always the case, but I think when FWBs become complicated, this is a top reason.</p>
<p>in middle school, science teacher showed a birth taking place. Yes, everyone got to see a vagina go from - to ---------. I didn’t because I pretended that I was about to puke throughout the whole video, just to be funny. I’m pretty sure everyone in that room but me were mentally scarred by that film.</p>
<p>But in my experience, my parents have been the biggest influence. I’m 20 now, and my parents still treat me like I’m 12 whenever a sex scene comes on the television. It’s kind of ridiculous. But yea, I practice abstinence mostly by choice.</p>
<p>I just have to put in my 2 cents. I was taught emphasis on abstinence but with birth control tutorials, and I think that’s the best way. But to go so far as to say sex can end anxiety and deppression is a stretch. In fact, it’s usually the other way around, if anything. But, I think sex is an extremely personal decision and IMO ur ideals (to have sex or not) r established way b4 sex ed (ie ur parents, values u grew up with…) whether u know it or not. As for me, I dont see anything wrong with premarital sex (although the idea of waiting does seem very romantic, in that Disney way), as long as ur doing it 4 the right reasons and it doesn’t hurt u. Also FWB’s really depends on 2 ppl as to whether it’s complicated or not. For me it wasn’t. Just my thoughts.</p>
<p>To the bad speller:</p>
<p>[10</a> Surprising Health Benefits of Sex](<a href=“http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/10-surprising-health-benefits-of-sex]10”>10 Surprising Health Benefits of Sex)</p>
<p>Sex relieves stress, boosts immunity, burns calories, improves cardiovascular health, boosts self-esteem, improves intimacy, reduces pain, reduces prostate cancer risk, strengthens muscles, and helps you sleep better.</p>
<p>If depressed people were suddenly less stressed, skinnier, had better self-esteem, felt intimate with their significant others, felt less pain, and could sleep better, I bet they’d feel less depressed. Good thing there’s something that can do that for them.</p>
<p>When we covered sex ed in my health class in high school, it was pretty much all “I don’t care who you choose to have sex with, but be beware of the consequences like pregnancy and STD and use protection.”</p>
<p>I learned where babies came from in 3rd grade, in my catholic elementary school. In 6th grade we were talking about puberty and us girls were additionally encouraged to be very careful with interpersonal relationships with guys and always take the pill. 11th grade we had some pathetic sessions on STDs and Birth Control. basically the content of that was, always take the pill, girls, because guys don’t always like condoms, but if you have one night stands have them wear a condom because you don’t know where they’ve been.
I got a more thorough introduction about contraceptives a semester later while in Canada, but seriously by then I knew most of what I needed to know.</p>