<p>Hi!
I'm currently a freshman in college. I started dating this guy in September and we are still together. We went to a lot of parties together during the first semester and had a lot of fun. However, this semester we both rushed and joined Greek life. </p>
<p>Both of our houses have lots of mixers, and I wondering: do you think it's okay if I dance with other guys and he dances with other girls? We kinda had a discussion and decided that we weren't going to, but I'm wondering if we need to rethink this. It's kinda awkward at the end of the night when everyone else is paired up and I'm still riding solo. It's not that I don't mind dancing by myself; I just feel somewhat awkward when the "dance floor makeout" begins....I can try to stick with the other girls who have boyfriends but some are okay with dancing and some are not...still trying to figure everything out.</p>
<p>Also, I feel like it's different for girls - we get asked to dance - while guys have to do the asking...I'm stuck having to explain to drunk guys that I have a boyfriend and don't wanna dance....</p>
<p>So, do you dance with other guys at parties if you have a boyfriend? Do you let your boyfriend dance with other girls?</p>
<p>I don’t. My boyfriend doesn’t mind and I have done it before, but the way people dance is just too sexual a lot of the time for me to be okay with doing it with someone when I have a boyfriend at home. I wouldn’t want him dancing with people like that either. I don’t have any problem just saying I have a boyfriend or that I want to dance by myself. You don’t have to explain yourself, just say no if you’re not comfortable with it. If they don’t back up, move to a different spot on the floor. When I go out with girl friends we’ll put ourselves between our buddy and a guy that won’t buzz off to get him to give it up. It’s not a big deal.</p>
<p>It depends. I still dance with other guys/girls, but I didn’t in my last relationship. We are both trusting enough to know that we would never cheat or anything. If it feels like it’s getting uncomfortable, just walk away. Don’t see the harm in having fun though.</p>
<p>It depends. The only form of dancing at parties I’ve witnessed is grinding, and I wouldn’t be okay with my girlfriend gyrating her hips on another guy.</p>
<p>Thanks for all the feedback.
The reason we can’t go to parties together this semester are because our frats/sororites have mixers with other frats/sororities that are closed…
It’s definitely all grinding at these type of parties which is maybe a little too close/sexual for me to deal with. While it may be awkward, I probably shouldn’t dance like that. I really don’t like the idea of my guy having some girl with him. Maybe if I do end up dancing with guys just keep it somewhat PG (i.e. ballroom haha) or stay in a group.</p>
<p>I understand your problem. I have a bf at home and we have discussed what we do whilst we’re apart. He’s ok with me going clubbing and to parties and the like and dancing with other guys. Sometimes it does get a bit sexual but if they try to go too far, I tell them I have a bf.</p>
<p>When my bf and I meet up or chat he always wants to know if any other guys have come on to me and as long as I tell him hes ok with it.</p>
<p>Anything that you and your boyfriend agree is acceptable is, well, acceptable. That being said it is important to know where the boundaries are, once you two figure out where the boundaries are it is up to both of you to respect those boundaries, if not prepare for some trouble. </p>
<p>My personal opinion on the matter is that attached individuals should not participate in promiscuous behavior (such as that which occurs at most frat houses). Out of respect I myself would not dance with another woman in the absence of my girlfriend, and do hope that she would have the same respect for me. </p>
<p>It really depends on your boyfriend. Mine doesn’t mind as long as it isn’t overly suggestive and if it doesn’t lead anywhere. He knows I would never cheat on him, and I know he wouldn’t cheat on me.</p>