<p>Thanks, everyone, for your input on the matter, I didn’t expect nearly this many people to post, and I appreciate the various perspectives.</p>
<p>As for the three people who suspected a ■■■■■ about, I can assure you that the situation I described is true. The thing that I do feel the need to disclose, though, is that I’m actually the daughter and not the father. I’ve been getting ready to try asking my father to help out with perhaps a portion of the costs, and I wanted to see if it was reasonable to even ask; I thought describing the situation from my father’s perspective would not only be good for me understanding his take on things but would probably get more earnest responses from other parents.</p>
<p>I did try asking him for about 10k for grad school tuition about six months ago, and he told me that he would be retiring within the year and so couldn’t help at all. A few months ago, he told me that plans changed and he would be retiring in a year and a half, so I thought I would try asking again for any help from him that I can get. I don’t know if helping me would set him back a whole year, but it seemed like a safe estimate. He has told me on a few different occasions that he and his wife have enough saved up, or will once he hits his goal of 50 years old.</p>
<p>As far as the comments about health issues, to the best of my knowledge, there are no serious health problems. He has told me that he finds the job stressful and that that has affected him. Sometimes I ask him if he enjoys his job, and he tells me that the constant travel is getting tiring, but I seem to remember him saying that he does enjoy it sometimes. </p>
<p>I understand that he is anxious to retire, because he is incredibly hard-working and always has been that way. He really deserves more relaxation. That said, I wanted to try asking him because it will take me 25 years to pay that debt off and the realization is making me desperate. I don’t have any right to demand money, and of course when I ask for him to help, I won’t be demanding, but the importance of education was always emphasized while I was growing up.</p>
<p>Oh, and there was one other thing. The 70k is actually broken down like this: 12k in student loans from my undergrad (that I’ve already taken out) and about 29k each year of my two years of grad school. So, really, I should have said 60k, because I already took the student loans from my undergraduate as my responsibility.</p>
<p>@Mom2collegekids, yeah, you called it. You posted right as I was writing this. He does genuinely want to retire at 50, though. As for the housework part, since my stepmother works in a different state and often comes home on the weekends or for vacation, they have a good system for sharing housework. I don’t think there would be problems with the housework and such.</p>
<p>Hopefully all of you that have posted can forgive me for posting as my father, and I certainly didn’t do it to be a ■■■■■.</p>