Should I mention this to colleges? (LONG, but please read!)

<p>My family life, for as long as I can remember, has been difficult. My mother is a disabled veteran of the US Army, she joined right out of high school (she was the valedictorian of her class, and hoped that the GI bill could help her pay for college, as her family was rather poor) - however, her experience in the army had left her with a number of serious mental illnesses that she fights to this day, along with alcoholism. When I was much younger, my mother had a serious mental episode which caused her to be kept at the hospital for a month. We have no extended family, so my father had to stay home from work to watch me (I was 5 years old) - he ended up losing his job, and my mother lost hers. We had to move into my grandfather's house for a while, before being able to purchase a house of our own.</p>

<p>Both of my parents got new jobs, where my father worked nights and my mother worked days. There was a four hour period (and still is) where neither parent is home. I, in turn, had to stay in an after school program for that time. When my younger sister was born, I was legally able to (according to state laws) babysit my sister for the time that neither of my parents are home because of their work schedules. I continued this role till this day, and will continue doing so into my senior year.</p>

<p>This situation has caused two problems for myself -
1) I am home, after school, looking after my 6 year old sister, for 3-4 hours each day. This has seriously prevented me from joining any clubs or sports. I cannot even receive extra help from teachers unless I go early in the morning (which I often do.) I do, however, do programs/volunteering/internships over the summer and some day programs on the weekend. </p>

<p>2) Math has never been my strongest subject, and though I was always a good student, during my Sophomore year, my mother was taken to the hospital multiple times for problems with her pancreas. We feared that it could be cancer. Along with her worsening mental stability, I spent a lot of time in the hospital or watching my sister late at night, which caused me to neglect a lot of my math homework and I ended up getting far behind in math, leaving me with a C for the year. The only C on my transcript, with the rest being A's. </p>

<p>I believe that these two problems will severely hinder my ability to get into a good school. I used to aspire to go to Harvard, but that dream has been dashed because of all of this. No matter how well I perform on the SATs, or how many APs I take, I always feel like I'm at a serious disadvantage.</p>

<p>I just wanted to know if this story is worth telling to colleges or if they'll just think I'm making excuses.</p>

<p>yes, make sure colleges know, but I would recommend that your guidance counselor write them a letter explaining your situation and emphasizing how well you overcame it. work w/your gc and colleges should cut you slack. good luck</p>

<p>FWIW I think it will be an excellent essay topic. Caring for your younger sibling every afternoon for years shows a college that you are mature person who cares for your family. I think your home situation does “excuse” your lack of extracurriculars. Although I don’t think you should think of it as an excuse. It is a realistic picture of your life., And one i think a college administrator will respect. Tell your story. Keep working hard on grades and tests. Good luck.</p>

<p>You do want the colleges to know, but the best way is through your guidance counselor. I do not think it makes a good essay topic… it doesn’t tell them about YOU, it makes excuses about why things are the way they are. So while you want them to know, I think you are much better off using your essay to show that there is more to you than just overcoming these challenges.</p>

<p>What you want your GC to communicate is that:</p>

<ol>
<li> You have a lot of responsibilities at home caring for a younger sibling, which has affected your ability to join clubs and activities.</li>
<li> Your mom had some serious health issues in your sophomore year that affected your grades that year.<br></li>
</ol>

<p>I would NOT encourage your GC to provide more detail (alcoholism, mental health issues, possible cancer but it wasn’t, etc.). There is a balancing act between providing enough info from a credible source (your GC) to let them know why you have those gaps in your application without making them think that they are taking on a kid from a family with big problems – because like it or not, colleges aren’t always so keen on kids whose parents might cause them issues in some way…</p>