<p>Should I?</p>
<p>Actually my parents have sent emails to them telling that I was not going to their schools.</p>
<p>They then sent me emails asking which school I am going to. Should I tell them?</p>
<p>I think you should.
Not replying to their email would be rude, as would telling them that you don’t want to tell them. The school I said I wasn’t going to had a line to write the name of the school that I was going to go to, and I just wrote it. I don’t see any harm in telling them.
If I were you, I would, but you should probably wait and hear the opinions of other people before deciding.</p>
<p>Good luck, I guess! :D</p>
<p>I think sometimes schools use these to claim that they have applicants who also apply to _____ school. If it’s a really good school that you got into and mentioned, then they can say that applicants also apply to prestigious places such as X and Y schools, so as to say that they belong in that group of top-tiers</p>
<p>but then again i could be wrong. nothing hurts in telling them, it’s not like they’ll sue you</p>
<p>It is not required, but not a bad thing to let the other schools know where you are attending.</p>
<p>Most schools ask because they want to know how they are doing as compared to a certain set of peer schools they compete with for students.</p>
<p>Giving honest feedback in a constructive way (positive things to say about your school of choice that can’t be seen as negative about the school you are turning down) also helps if in a year or 2 you feel the need to change schools and want to reconsider one of these schools you turned down.</p>
<p>My son sent a very nice note to each school he was accepted into and decided he wasn’t going to. He thanked them for their time in reading the application, he thanked them for the financial aid and scholarships he was awarded, and he mentioned one or two things about the school that he really liked. </p>
<p>for the schools that he didn’t chose, he told them that he had better FA packages from other schools but he also said that he understood that they had limited funds to use, and that while he regrets that he could not attend he wished them the best with their new class.</p>
<p>the notes were very nice (he felt really badly about saying no – several of these schools really went out of their way with personal notes, lots of emails and very good FA packages from schools with very limited endowments).</p>
<p>He received very nice, personal notes back from all the schools wishing him the best. Each school did ask him to let them know which school he ends up deciding to attend (he told them that he was choosing between two schools).</p>
<p>What harm could it do in telling them? I think you are helping the schools by doing so. For example if School A is pretty good but lacking in the arts compared to many other schools, and many of their accepted applicants choose School B which is strong in the arts, they will know that arts are an area they should work on. If students didn’t tell them they wanted to go to School B they wouldn’t know whether to improve their Arts, Science, Humanities or Athletics departments.</p>
<p>I think it will be nice to tell the schools you do not plan to go as soon as you make the decision and so that the school can let on the waiting list know accordingly.</p>
<p>If its one of the 10 schools, then I think there’s something in their agreement about it.</p>
<p>Thank you! I am writing the reply mails =]</p>
<p>Saying no to schools that accept you is a nice lesson in how to confront giving people “bad news” in a positive way. Teaching your child how to say no in a kind way that preserves rather than burning bridges is a fine thing.</p>
<p>Also, it goes without saying that if you know you’re going to say “no” to a particular school, the earlier you do so the better it is for others who are anxious to get off that school’s waitlist. Says the parent of a child who would love to get off a particular waitlist before 4/10/08…</p>
<p>I did that today. I mailed Choate and Deerfield this morning and called Taft less than an hour ago. It does make you feel sort of bad. </p>
<p>When asked what school i was going to attend, i told them i was still deciding between Andover and U.O.C.L.S. You just have to think of all the kids that are anxiously waiting to get off the waitlist. Making room for them early is a courteous thing to do.</p>
<p>Lol, I sent thank you letters too! lol, I included book marks for all of the admissions officers of each school that i got into. Hahahaha, I bet they are like, What a weirdo! lol</p>
<p>u should call, it’s more effective. they don’t usually check their emails</p>
<p>Hey, but think about it-
instead of feeling bad, know that there is a waitlist full of people who want to attend the school, and you just gave them a chance! 
heheh</p>