<p>The question is: am I over-reacting? DD called Friday night in tears. Said that she felt horrible. Fever with chills and sweats, bone aches, coughing, etc. The clinic at school is closed on weekends, so I made the 2 hour trip on Saturday to pick her up and take her to her doctor. She was diagnosed with flu and put on Tamiflu (which doesn't seem to be working). She is still knocked down with symptoms, so I have kept her home. I hope she's feeling better today, so that she can get back to school tomorrow.</p>
<p>A snarky friend teasingly suggested that I needed to let her grow up and handle this on her own at school.</p>
<p>Nothing wrong with what you did. Different parents would handle it differently and distance from home would also have played a role in the decision.</p>
<p>A friend of mine had a similar situation and the school was 3 hours away. Her D got sick on a Friday night and called home in tears. Her parents knew that she needed medical attention. Her parents called the campus police, and they took her to a place where she could be treated.</p>
<p>If my child’s school clinic was closed on the weekend (why, don’t students get sick on the weekend???) and I only lived two hours away, I would have done the same thing.</p>
<p>Why do you care what a snarky friend thinks? It’s your time, money, kid, life, decisions. You make the best decision at the time for your family.</p>
<p>I truly don’t know whether I would have done the same thing or not. My d also got sick with the flu - but she was a good 5 hours away - so had to handle it herself. However, snarky friend was wrong - your d and you can handle it however you want. To be honest, I’m all grown up with three grown up kids and on occasion I miss the particular attention that sometimes only a mom or dad can give. Nothing wrong with love and care.</p>
<p>Be glad that you are only two hours away! I would have done the same, no question about it.
Hope she recovers soon!
As for Tamiflu - you have to take it within the first 48 hours from a first symptom to be effective - the sooner the better. What it does - it generally shortens your ilness by about 25% (or one day, as they say). Plus - it does not have to be effective! The best medicine for flu is take a lot of rest, lots of fluids and lots of vit C :)</p>
<p>thanks for all of your support. During my freshman year at college, I came down with the flu. I think that it was the sickest I’ve ever been in my life. The school clinic nurse took one look at me and put me in the school infirmary for 5 days. They hoped, I guess, that isolation would help prevent a flu epidemic in the dorms. My parents didn’t come to pick me because they knew that I was being looked after. I wish that her school offered services like that!</p>
<p>2 hours. Go get of course? why not unless there were major obstacles?
Handling this by themselves is fine…and when you are 90 years old and get the flu you can handle yourself right? face it, when you are sick most people don’t mind some assistance and the flu can be quite serious and have after effects like exhaustion, some depression.
Be glad that you are close!</p>
<p>My opinion is that having someone who will run to you when you need them is one of life’s greatest blessings. My mom was always that person for me, even as an adult, if I got sick she was right there for me. Now that she isn’t well, I feel equally blessed to be able to be there for her.</p>
<p>They may be looked after properly in school, but they aren’t loved after properly and nothing feels better than loving coddling when you’re sicker than a dog.</p>
<p>My son didn’t tell me had the flu until it was over. What he said on the phone after I asked why he was so quiet was, “I don’t feel that great.” The next week he told me he had had the flu. Apparently there was an outbreak and sick students were told not to go to class to prevent the spread of it. He’s 6 plus hours away so I don’t know what I would have done.</p>
<p>Whatever makes you and your daughter comfortable is fine. I would probably also use it as an opportunity to educate your girl on what she can do for herself if you were not available.</p>
<p>Forget the snarky friend. You did the right thing. I’m just getting over the flu and I can tell you it’s debilitating. My husband had to take a day off from work becasue three of us came down with it at the same time and he needed to take care of us. MY D is 4 hours away and I’d go get her.</p>
<p>Son called last week saying he had a 102.8 temp and was not sure what to do (health center was closed). I told him to call Kaiser advice nurse thinking they would say if its not better by morning call back or something…they said come into emergency. He is approx. 45 min away from us and Kaiser another 20 min back the other way. Husband suggested having him take a cab…ummmm I don’t think so! So he made the (relatively short) trek to get him, take him to emergency and then back to school (they didn’t give him any meds or anything)
I don’t think when you are sick is the time to have to grow up and handle things for the first time.</p>
<p>If you handle everything for your D and this was just one more episode of “Mom to the rescue,” then your friend might have a point. But I have no reason to think that’s the case, and I see absolutely nothing wrong (and a lot right) with bringing your daughter home to see the doctor. With the campus clinic closed on weekends (is that the norm on college campuses?), it seems to me that her choices to handle it on her own are pretty limited. Either she sucks it up, suffers and probably infects lots of other kids or she has to find a new doctor in an unfamiliar area on a weekend while feeling lousy. Good luck with that, especially if her transporation options are limited.</p>
<p>You absolutely did the right thing. I’d have been worried about the possibility of meningitis, especially with the school infirmary closed on the weekend. My d had flu her freshman year, despite having received a flu shot. She was 15 hours away, and I was almost as miserable as she was!</p>
<p>What is it with the snarky friends? So many people want to play “I can parent better than you can.” Gets boring after a decade or two.</p>