OP I have a few concerns here…
You mention “hand holding,” although I do not agree with your definition (small classes and the ability to speak with professors is NOT hand holding). There really is no “hand holding” when it comes to premed classes and medical school. My daughter’s friend graduated from an Ivy League school and is now in medical school- he speaks all the time of the day to day stress (of course everybody has a different perception when it comes to stress). There is a reason why some choose alternate health care fields (there is stress in these too btw).
You seem nervous that your daughter will not achieve a high gpa at UMD. You indicated ? that your D would be ok attending UMD and seem to imply that you feel it’s too big. Why do you feel that way? And why do you feel that she will have a higher gpa at a “lower” school, where there will also be plenty of very smart students? If UMD is ok with your daughter, why is that a problem for you?
Based on your posts, it seems to me that your daughter wants to be a pediatrician (at least right now) but you are not confident that she has what it takes to get there. Premed is 4 years, and med school is 4+ years. That’s a lot of years for you to be concerned about not having what it takes, not getting high enough scores to move on, etc.
My advice is to sit down with your daughter and let her choose a school (based on what is affordable). If she chooses UMD because she likes it better than some of the others….it’s fine, even if it’s not your choice for her. She will either achieve what it takes to apply to medical school, or she won’t. You need to switch your mindset from “my list” to “her list.”
Right now your daughter wants to be a pediatrician, and you are trying very hard (it appears) to pave the way to create the “easiest” path possible to get there. Why are you doing this? There is no easy path, and it needs to be driven by her. Besides a high gpa and mcat scores, there is also patient volunteering, serving in underrepresented communities, shadowing, etc. It’s a lot, and many take time off after graduation before actually applying. It’s a very long haul, but one that really needs to be driven by her.
A hospital on campus is not necessary. My D attended a school with a hospital on campus. She joined a club that allowed her to volunteer, but she completed her shadowing hours at home during breaks.
My advice to you is to sit down with your daughter and tell her what you can spend. Then let her choose the school, choose her path, and decide for herself whether she has what it takes (both academically and emotionally) to apply to medical school. Maybe she will, and maybe she won’t. And if she doesn’t, there are plenty of fields that will allow her to work with kids.