<p>Twisted, there’s an excellent brochure Frostig Center called “Life Success for Children with Disabilities” that is based on research of successful adults with LD, looking at the qualities that allowed them to succeed. You can find this at [Life</a> Success for Children with Learning Disabilities.](<a href=“http://www.ldsuccess.org/]Life”>http://www.ldsuccess.org/) – it is free to download. I think some of the information about taking personal responsibility on this page – [url=<a href=“http://www.ldsuccess.org/parent_guide/what_are/proactivity.html]Proactivity[/url”>http://www.ldsuccess.org/parent_guide/what_are/proactivity.html]Proactivity[/url</a>] – is very helpful. </p>
<p>I think that sometimes people get so caught up in fighting for their legal rights that they end up focused on the battle and losing the war. </p>
<p>As a former lawyer – and litigator – I think that any person who has to file a lawsuit to get what they want is already on a losing path. They may win their lawsuit – but they are “winning” only by giving up their personal control and decision-making ability to others (lawyers and judges). And there ALWAYS is a huge cost, both emotional and financial. And, there is a high likelihood that a plaintiff in an action will lose. </p>
<p>Keep in mind that in a courtroom, the burden of proof is always on the plaintiff – so what the Princeton plaintiff has done, legally, is shifted the story from “I think I need these accommodations to do well and I am hoping that Princeton will see things my way and give me this support” … to “I am ready able to prove by a preponderance of legally-admissible evidence that I absolutely need this specific accommodation, and that Princeton has violated the law by refusing it to me.” No wonder Princeton’s lawyers are confident. They DID offer a set of accommodations which the plaintiff refused – so they already look “reasonable” – and it up to the plaintiff to prove somehow that they are not. (Among other things the plaintiff is now in an untenable position of needing to flunk her first set of mid-terms in order to bolster her case). </p>
<p>If she loses her case in court – she’s got nothing. She’s just given Princeton even more control over the system – they’ve won the case, they can do what they please. So it definitely is a riskly avenue to pursue whenever a one person is suing some other person or agency with whom they intend to have a continuing relationship. such as tenant-landlord, employee-employer – or student-school administration. I used to represent a lot of people in that sort of relationship where they had grievances, and my advice was always that they shouldn’t initiate a lawsuit unless they intended to also break out of that relationship (such as quitting their job or moving out of their apartment). Why? Because once you have set yourself up as an adversary to your landlord or your employer – or your school administrator – the litigation process is likely to cause irreparable harm to the relationship. You’ve thrown down the gauntlet and, win or lose, you will always have difficulty coming to terms on any issue that arises in the future. </p>
<p>In contrast, as long as a person in a process of working within the system available to them, being assertive and proactive but also flexible and open to compromise, that person retains a greater measure of control over their lives. They may not get exactly what they want, but they remain a participant and they haven’t burnt any bridges – and there is always room for further progress. </p>
<p>Of course there are circumstances that justify litigation-- but I am very glad that I used my negotiation skills when helping my dyslexic son and not my litigation skills, and I’m glad that he grew up to be the kind of person described in that Frostig Center report. That means sometimes he got the support he wanted – and more – and sometimes he didn’t. But he did become a very effective advocate for himself. </p>
<p>Of course we don’t know the facts of this situation – but the plaintiff is the one who has thrown this open to discussion over the internet. When you file a lawsuit and issue a press release, that’s what happens. (And I’m pretty sure that the “press release” part did happen – otherwise, how would the press have found out to even report the story?)</p>