The Anthropology of College Parties

<p>I took my son on a college visit trip this spring. We went from Amherst, to Harvard, to Boston College, to Brown, to Princeton, to Penn, to Duke, to UMiami. <em>yeah, I know, long trip but worth it</em></p>

<p>Anyway, I have an older daughter who is a sophomore at Princeton. She bickered at and has joined a selective eating club. However, not the one known for high society, the one known for parties, lots and lots of parties.</p>

<p>So I am particularly aware of the role parties can play in a college experience, and looked around at each place my son and I visited to see how and where parties were had. I think I need to know more.</p>

<p>You see, Princeton is a very social place. It's not an edgy university - not that it's not intellectual - it's just not edgy. And the parties on the Street (where the eating clubs are) are a big part of the school culture and day to day experience. You don't have to be a big party type to love the school, but, if you are a big party type, you have to love the Street.</p>

<p>What I am trying to find out is, if you want to be in a group of people, if you want to go to a party, where will you go and how will you find out about it at the different schools? I asked this question in the Brown University information session. They thought I was nuts:). Someone afterwards asked me if I was an anthropologist - I think because I asked what the "party structure" was, since I couldn't think of another way to phrase the question, lol.</p>

<p>BTW, I'm not at this point weighing on the dangers of drinking etc. Just wondering how it plays out on the various campuses.</p>

<p>Anyone know where they have parties at Harvard and who gives them and when and why? Anyone know about Boston College? Penn? UMiami? And random other info is welcomed.</p>

<p>I think you need to be a bit more specific. By "party" do you mean drinking, including underaged drinking? Do you want to also consider social interactions involving drugs and/or sex? Do you want to consider activities approved, accepted, or ignored by the college administration? On campus or off campus?</p>

<p>I mean large groups of people in a small space, gathered together solely for the sake of recreation. If there is alcohol, or drugs, so be it. If there is sex, I think of that as an orgy and that's outside my scope at this moment.</p>

<p>Probably there will be dancing.</p>

<p>And I am precisely trying to figure out whether the institution condones the parties, throws the parties, ignores the parties, requires permits for the parties, or tries to stamp them out.</p>

<p>Princeton the institution tolerates the eating clubs but is gradually trying to whittle down their central role. Still, there are only one or two alternatives for actual parties so far, the Wilson College Black Box, and used to be the Architecture School threw a wild one in the spring...</p>

<p>How visible are parties? Do you hear about them via emails? On Facebook? On fliers posted around the campus? Are they hosted only by organizations like the Arts Club or the Asian Students Club? Or are they frat parties? Or, like Princeton, on a street where you know exactly what is happening in each building and when the parties are open, when they are members-only, when they are theme parties, when they are on tap or off tap.</p>

<p>When I heard that at Brown there are no university sponsored parties, and all are given by theme groups, I could tell that would be very different. Someone told me at Harvard you need a permit to have more than 15 people at a party. That could be urban legend, but if true would have an impact. And I am sure Yale's residential colleges have parties.</p>

<p>And, of course, there is the legendary "state school party". I don't even know were these parties happen. I am just trying to figure out a) what is it like at schools my son is interested in b) in the larger picture, what are the various patterns and what impact do they have on the culture?</p>

<p>I suppose I was thinking maybe I had discovered a secret lever to the magic of culture....</p>

<p>"How visible are parties? Do you hear about them via emails? On Facebook? On fliers posted around the campus? Are they hosted only by organizations like the Arts Club or the Asian Students Club? Or are they frat parties? Or, like Princeton, on a street where you know exactly what is happening in each building and when the parties are open, when they are members-only, when they are theme parties, when they are on tap or off tap."</p>

<p>Parties are very visible. The majority of drinking happens in apartments and private houses, but you can't really call it a party since not that many people can actually fit inside. Frats throw the majority of the good parties (and bad ones). Word of mouth is the most common, but during parties it's very obvious from the street. Frats on 'frat row' will normally throw parties on the same night so you can partyhop.</p>

<p>I guess you didn't go to college, alumother?</p>

<p>I think your question is interesting. Most parents probably won't know the details, but I wish I read the answers from students at different schools. I'm about to go to dinner, but I'll reply later tonight.</p>

<p>Hey Gilbert S.,
Welcome to CC and the PARENT'S FORUM. Most of the PARENTS here have kids in high school and college, so that means that we went to college in the 60's, '70's and '80's. Guess what? There was no Facebook, MySpace, cell phones, text messaging.... So, Alumother's question doesn't call for a snide comment. We "parents" don't all know the answer to this question since we didn't have this kind of experience. <climbs carefully="" down="" off="" high="" horse=""></climbs></p>

<p>I think I understand the question, and I think it's a really good one, although I don't know many answers to it.</p>

<p>I can answer it from my experience, but that's from a different era. The contrast, however, may spark some responses. When I was at Yale many years ago, there were no fraternities per se, so fraternities had no role in party sponsorship. Every weekend, one or two of the residential colleges had a "mixer", which was generally a DJ and lots of beer and/or punch, open to all students and guests (and it didn't take much for random people from other colleges, especially girls from Smith or Aggie Maggie, to be "guests"). There were also college-wide parties a couple times a semester -- usually a big mixer early in the semester, and some kind of "formal" (not very) towards the end. Obviously, all of these were public and advertised, and usually cost a couple bucks to get in.</p>

<p>During the week, there were Master's Teas in the colleges, too (ours featured much more whiskey sours than tea, although tea was offered; not all were alcoholic). There were lots of parties in peoples' rooms. In my college, for a year there was a room where they had no furniture in their common room so they could have a standing Tuesday night party that attracted 60-70 people a week. That was a bit extreme, but most quads with a common room would throw a party at least once a year.</p>

<p>Various clubs also had semi-public parties -- Fence Club (something like a fraternity), the Elizabethan Club (they did serve tea), and those senior societies that let the unwashed through their doors. People would go to Mory's to hear the Whiffs, and that was essentially a rolling party (as was the Whiff tap night, when the old Whiffs would parade through campus tapping the new members, followed by a huge crowd of students, and involving quite a bit of public drinking and singing). There were always plays and concerts and art shows going on, and each of them would involve a party afterwards. In some cases, students would rent space for a large party, or "borrow" it from the university (one friend who was good at such things actually managed to throw a surprise birthday party in Harkness Tower, quite a feat of black market logistics).</p>

<p>There were lots of parties. It was fun.</p>

<p>From what I can tell of my daughter's college life (at Chicago), there are not so many big parties. The Houses throw occasional parties, which are pretty much for House members only, maybe sometimes for guests, too. The anemic frats have occasional parties, and one has a standing "bar night" one night a week. Clubs have parties a couple times a year -- drama, film, radio, Asian-American Students, etc. There is a big party during Scav Hunt, which the University seems to have reined in this year after some vandalism last year (when the party was moved indoors because it was raining). And there are a couple University-sponsored events per quarter. Other than that, it seems to be more 6-10 kids gathered in rooms, with not much dancing.</p>

<p>Hehe. I went to college:). A very loooong time ago. And I went to parties. And was completely bewildered by them. I mean, it was normal to get passed down the stairs over the heads of fellow students? Not coming from Northern California it wasn't. And boys dancing with eachother, "gatoring", apparently at the time a Southern custom? Eeek. I was used to a party meaning going to your friends' houses and, um, well let's just say the intoxicants weren't liquid.</p>

<p>Just pretend we are Margaret Mead, roaming from undiscovered island to undiscovered island. Parties have always been a part of human society, although we used to call them festivals maybe, but we've always thrown parties. So what do the parties at the various colleges tell us about the culture of that college society?</p>

<p>I would have guessed that Chicago was more about 6-10 people in a room. Not a lot of talking about intellectual themes can happen when there are 150of you and music and Chicago is known for a culture of "purer" intellectualism, right? And I love the description of parties at Yale. Sounds like there was a fairly open approach to all kinds of gatherings.</p>

<p>S is not a party person, so my knowledge, indirect as it already is, of the Harvard party scene is extremely limited.
I understand, though, that an enduring complaint is the lack of a campus-wide student center that could host large parties. There are many House parties and departmental parties (S got an email about a goat roast last week and a barbecue picnic this week). But these are tame affairs; the partiers seem to have to go to finals clubs to have "real parties."</p>

<p>Back in my day (at Harvard) there were parties in dorm rooms. I think these were advertised by word of mouth. There were also parties in the Houses, these were usually held in the largest common space - often the dining room, sometimes jr. or senior common room. These were advertised by flyers in the Houses, possibly outside the houses. There used to be a big freshman mixer in what was then a big unused hall that now is the freshman dining hall. Other colleges (mostly the women's colleges) were invited to that one. </p>

<p>And it being the 70s House parties had bars and dorm parties had bars and pot.</p>

<p>Currently, Caltech's houses also give parties - I'm not sure how often, but since the themes seem to require lots of sets, there were signs of the parties on our visits that got commented on. (A miniature Eiffel Tower is one example.) There is a large Biology department party that was (and still is) hosted by Prufrock House. Though since it's no longer allowed to just have Bio grad students it may now be a Halloween party for all the grad students. You haven't seen anything till you've seen a Nobel Laureate (Ed Lewis) as a Magritte painting or a fishtank. <a href="http://www.its.caltech.edu/%7Eprufrock/Special/Halloween/halloween.html%5B/url%5D"&gt;http://www.its.caltech.edu/~prufrock/Special/Halloween/halloween.html&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p>

<p>I went to some perfectly good parties at Harvard, especially on Game weekend. One especially memorable one was an all-Barry-White party; I had never taken Barry White seriously before that.</p>

<p>I believe that at my D's school there is always a choice of parties, and at least 3 nights a week. As I walked around the row of frat meeting houses I saw evidence on the "patio" of the previous night's libations. It can't be a secret if I can find it. D says that the drinking gets out of control but there are at least some safeguards (some more effective than others) in place with bus monitors (off campus parties can't be driven to or from), and a wink and nod armband system. Not that pretty a picture and my biggest negative about a fine school. </p>

<p>D feels she is in a distinct minority of kiids who do go the parties and dances and just don't drink. Parties are club or frat or sorority or team driven. Nothing outwardly outlandish like sex/nudity themed parties, although it is a given that is the end result for some party goers. It does not please her that "Hey. I was wasted." is considered an excuse for poor or boorish behavior, so she usually leaves when the folks get to that point , that is if she is not on bus duty. </p>

<p>I get the impression that most of these parties are very large , over a 100 participants and often more. According to D , this is par among the experiences of her friends attending different schools.</p>

<p>There are a lot of different types of parties at the University of Chicago, each with their own feel, customs, rules, guests, etc. I'll run through them. Sorry about the length.</p>

<p>Dorm Parties
First of all, Chicago has no University rule against underage drinking. They don't see enforcing city/state policy as their job, and they very much value student privacy. Additionally, one of the largest dorms on campus, the Shoreland, has a lot of apartment style rooms with a couple bedrooms, a large living room, a kitchen, a dining room, and a couple of bathrooms. That's pretty much perfect for a party. A room of students will decide to throw a party, sometimes for a specific reason, sometimes with a theme, sometimes just for fun. The students spend enormous amounts of money on alcohol and set up a "bar" of sorts. For larger parties, the bar will be a blocked off area in the kitchen, and there will be a bartender. Parties in dorms must be free per University rules, though some ask for donations. These parties are advertised on facebook. Sometimes they are open to anyone in the college and othertimes there is a strict guestlist and a bouncer at the door. Party rules, I believe, say that you can't have open parties, so it's dangerous to advertise on facebook. The U of C has Resident Heads who are senior graduate students who live with their families in each House on campus. Many have facebooks. They are in charge of shutting parties down and overall making sure things are going OK. The RHs will check in with the party host if the party is loud near quiet hours, and they'll quiet down or people will begin to leave. No one gets in trouble for drinking. If someone gets sick, the party ends. Open alcohol is not allowed in common spaces, such as hallways, so if an RH sees you it will likely be taken away. Parties are strictly defined by the number of guests, which I think is 15 people. The definition of a party has nothing to do with alcohol, music, time of day, or purpose. With over 15 people, the party has to be registered with the RHs and certain rules apply (such as putting together a guest list for the front desk, getting permission from people next door, and not holding it during exam week). These parties almost always have music and some dancing, but dancing isn't the focus. </p>

<p>Frat Parties
There are usually frat parties on Fridays and Saturdays, though some weekends there aren't any. These are advertised on Facebook, but the "location" and "host" fields are almost always blank or ambiguous. You learn the location by seeing who started the event and seeing what frat he's in or by word of mouth. These parties often have themes. Many serve only cheap beer, though at some theme parties other drinks will be served. It is often $3 or $5 to get in, though girls are always free or cheaper than guys. There is music and some dancing. Sometimes these are fun, often they're not. They can get very, very crowded if only one frat is throwing a party that night. Bar Night, which JHS mentioned, is not really a party. It's held every Wednesday except for finals week by a certain frat and has a full bar. Only U of C students with IDs are allowed in. You pay per drink. It's very casual and isn't really considered a party. It's very crowded during certain weeks of the quarter. Frat parties are also advertised by flyers handed out during busy times of day outside main campus buildings or walk ways. Drinking games (beer pong, flip cup) are sometimes played but are not central. Frats also have formal cocktail parties sometimes. These are strictly invite-only and have a very small guest list. Everyone gets very dressed up, the frat house (if that's the locaion) is cleaned, a variety of alcohol is served, some food may be served, and it's a very intimate gathering. </p>

<p>University Parties
The largest University thrown party is the Scav Party on the quads. There used to be free-flowing alcohol until some destruction of property occured last year when the party was held in a classroom building. This year, alcohol was for strictly 21+ and police were checking bags upon entering the area. Few people attended. Other University parties have alcohol for 21+ and are based on themes. People usually drink before or after or skip these altogether.</p>

<p>Other Stuff
Dancing is rarely the focus of college parties that I've seen. Sometimes it exists, but it's almost never central to the event. Mostly it's people talking, hanging out, meeting new people, laughing, relaxing, and having a good time. Some parties are just small groups of friends. People get together very often for just hanging out. Sometimes this involves alcohol, often it doesn't. There are tame get togethers organized by professors for dinner for students or organized by student organizations. There isn't a very large drug scene, though it exists. "Sex" at parties is limited to making out and some grinding. Once it gets beyond that, it's usually behind a closed door or after the main party has ended. Parties tend to keep pretty safe, especially in dorm rooms. Fights, alcohol poisoning, and vandalism are rare and almost non-existent at dorm or apartment parties (though there are always people who drink too much and get sick). The "intellectualism," Alumother, actually still exists at parties--it's very normal to hear quirky and/or intelligent conversation about random topics that come up. </p>

<p>This is, of course, just my experience. Other people may have different experiences.</p>

<p>Well, fun doesn't sound so dead:).</p>

<p>Well as long as we are going into our pasts:
I first went to U Colorado. 3.2 beer was legal and it seemed that almost everyone drank huge quantities at the bars next to campus. We used to joke that Coors had a pipeline from Golden to Boulder, Colorado. I transferred after a year and a half to SUNY Binghamton. At the time, this was a premier nerd school with lots of pre-meds and other obsessed students. Most were too depressed to drink. The U often rolled kegs of free beer into the dorms. I remember drinking free beer all Saturday afternoon with a student from Austrialia while almost everyone else was in the library or locked in their rooms studying. I don't remember much in the way of "parties" at either school. I graduated as an alcoholic and didn't stop for many years. On the other hand, I was so involved with alcohol that I didn't get very involved with drugs. I did have a couple of friends who died from drugs. </p>

<p>Flash forward to the near present. Now I will omit names because much of my info is second hand. </p>

<p>The first college we visited - a liberal, well-known LAC - had parties. Big time parties and on campus. The college donated a whole building for student use and anything goes parties. Lots of alcohol, more drugs, sex and I guess even dancing. Eventually nasty publicity due to several dozen overdoses one evening lead to the closing of the building. Tamer parties moved into the dorms.</p>

<p>My D's school is another nerd U. The RA staff is aggressive in dealing with alcohol and drug use on campus and also addresses drunken behavior for those returning from off campus parties. Many upper classmen live off campus so there are amble opportunities. Most of the parties are small. Big parties attract police investigation and landlord complaints.</p>

<p>D's friend 1 - attends a private, party U. Parties start Thursday night and continue through the weekend. Mostly alcohol and pot centered about the frats and some off campus apartments. Kid had one infraction.</p>

<p>D's friend 2 - attends a State U with a party atmosphere pretty much like friend 1. Kid had two infractions as a freshman, which takes a lot since off campus parties and returning drunks are ignored. </p>

<p>Parents of friends 1 and 2 are very liberal and not too concerned about the parties and constant drinking and pot use. #2 is joining a sorority and just had her nipples pierced. Parents don't know about this yet. I'm not telling. </p>

<p>D's friend 3 - joined a frat at a State U. Drank and partied. Flunked out at the end of freshman year.</p>

<p>D's friend 4 - stayed at home and went to community college. Gave up drinking and drugs - mostly - and has done well. No parties at community college. Next year she goes to another State U party school. We'll see.</p>

<p>From what I can tell things haven't changed all that much. There don't seem to be many afternoon tea socials or high school like sock hops. Parties seem oriented towards alcohol and drugs. Some schools also have lots of clubs and activities, but nothing that would qualify as a "party."</p>

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Well, fun doesn't sound so dead.:)

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Well, I figure the University isn't all that worried about the school becoming an out of control party school, so they're pretty lenient. It's college. Sex, drugs (in this case, alcohol), and rock and roll are part of the business.</p>

<p>I forgot to mention police, which Edad brought up. Police sometimes end frat parties (or huge apartment parties that take up the whole building) if they spill onto the lawn or are extremely loud, but even when that happens people leave. People don't get arrested.</p>

<p>S was the party chair for a Chicago Frat. A great deal of planning goes into the parties to ensure that everyone has a good time and there is good security. He hires off-duty Chicago police officers to provide back-up while the brothers work the doors and inside. The officers help in two ways, if things get a little out oh hand they can act as calvary coming to the rescue, and they are the ones to talk to any on-duty officers who get called as a result of the party. Word also gets out that the frat hires cops, so the local police are quite "understanding." They are very protective of female partiers and try and make sure harassment of any kind is kept to a minimum. As a result, they typically have a girl to boy ratio of about 5:3. He recently quipped, "We have to be careful, otherwise we will have more girls than social skills at our parties." And yes, the beer is very cheap beer.</p>

<p>Idad is completely correct. One frat on campus is known for not being as protective or kind toward women, and we were all informed of this over and over again by upperclassmenn during orientation. I had completely forgotten about the off duty officer thing, too.</p>

<p>When I visited UChicago with a couple of friends (girls), I was very VERY shocked by how the guys treated them. I never knew UChicago guys could be so horny and explicit. Hopefully, most UChicago students aren't like that.</p>